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Well it's been a few days I'll update you guys. So we we're apart for like 3 days. We didn't see eachother much throughout those days, but even when we did it was awkward and we weren't sure what to say to eachother. We didn't hug/kiss/holdhands/ or whatever..mainly because of me..i didn't want to invade her "space" that she wanted. After 3 days of that crap we both gave in...she said she didn't like it like this and she just wants it to be like it was. Of course, I agreed. So, things aren't exactly the same but we're back together. We're obviously going to make some changes in the relationship to make things smoother. Thanks everyone..

Get some really intense breath strips...put one in your mouth (without him noticing) and then french kiss him so that he is surprised by the shock of the breath strip..lol. Seriously, it's hot. ..or take some hard candy and pass it between eachother in a never-ending french kiss. ...or if you're feeling really venterous, kiss his stomach. I don't know what it is but I use to love when my gf did that (she only did it because I surprised her first and she seemed to like it to) bleh..i going to miss her so much

How ironic...i've been here for advice before, but I never thought I'd be posting in the breakup forum. But I don't know where else to go and the advice here is usually pretty good. [bulk of post removed because she knows about this forum!! gotta save my butt] She says she loves me, and then she says she "doesn't feel that way anymore". She says I'm the closest person to "the one" for her, and yet she says she wishes she could erase her memory to forget me so she can go back to her life before meeting me. Her statements are contradicting, and I just don't understand what she feels anymore. Should I avoid the pain and have NC with her for a while? or should I allow myself to be downgraded to a "friend"? I hate this.

Sounds like a typical "popular" high school guy looking to get some from a young girl. Seems harsh, but I'm a senior and I've been seeing things like this happen for the past 4 years and it disgusts me. You're at a tough age in life. I would suggest waiting a little while until you find someone that you really think you can have a relationship with. Think about what you really want in a boyfriend/relationship and be honest. I'm sure you can find someone much better than this guy...

When you say propose, do you mean ask her to start a relationship? or do you actually mean marriage? just wondering because it says you are 15. Anyway, I think her acting different could be a sign that she is just nervous or something because she knows you may ask her. I think she likes you, too. So I say just go on with your plan. Good luck!

So 14-15, that's like 8th grade or 9th grade. Well personally I hadn't done anything but kiss (only 2 girls)..but that's because I really didn't date or anything. At this age I don't think 'going all the way' and having sex would be a wise decision. I, myself, at 17 still think I'm too young..I even had an oppurtunity but I turned it down (no condom..)! It may be alright to expiriment with touching/body rubbing and maybe oral...but I would think that if you do this with too many people it could lose it's impact when you finally find someone you want to be with for a long-term relationship. Ultimately it's up to you. But take this into consideration: I'm much, much happier that my current gf has never done anything with any other guy. It makes everything we do now that much more special...

I'm really shy too. But I had a similar situation as yours...a year ago an amesome girl stepped into my life and I just went with it. I really had no experience..but it turned out that she really didn't either, so we've learned from eacother and it's going to be our year anniversary next week. Just go for it..and don't be scared to tell her you aren't experienced. I'm sure she will enjoy showing you the way.

Thanks, it really means a lot to have people read and respond to this stuff. I don't think I could talk about this stuff in person...

Well you should see what happens with this woman you've met. Who knows, things could end up really good between you and her and maybe that could help you move on with your life and forget about the past. Well, don't forget the past..just remember it, and learn from it...but you have to also move on.

Well don't worry I've never caused myself any injury and I don't plan on it....but the thing is I find myself contemplating suicide a lot. I just play out the scenario in my head...how, where I would do it..but mostly I think about everybody's reaction to it. When you know someone well enough you can predict their reaction to many situations. Most of the people I don't want them to go through the pain I predict they would have...but there's sometimes where I want some people to feel it. I want them to feel guilty. One scenario I figured leaving a note telling a certain someone it's their fault, so they would be left with the guilt. But honestly, I really would never play out any of these scenarios. But why do I think about it so much...and so vividly? I think the main catalyst is my relationship with my girlfriend (of 1 yr this Aug. 25th). If we're going good then I'm happy with life, but if there's something wrong between us then I fall into this depression and I do all these suicide scenarios in my head. And I just don't give a **** about anything/anybody else. I guess I just answered my own question....guess it just helps to write it down and have somebody read it. Well thanks for reading. /pointless post

If you liked that girl why didn't you go say hi to her or something? Why make her feel uncomfortable by flirting with some other girl?

Just tell your friend you've got someone else in mind, but thank her for the offer. Besides, I don't think dating your friends, brothers, friend would be a good idea...could cause conflict later on between you and your friend, which most likely wouldn't be worth it.