hi
on the surface its another relationship issue , but theres a twist or two ...i've been having a 'thing' with a woman at work over the past 6 years , we have always kept it quiet though ,shes married but separated & the secret element made it fun & i thought brought us closer .
Over the last 6 months she has made excuses about seeing me at times that we would have normally spent together .
On her birthday i went round with some flowers ....only to find one of our company directors Mercedes in the driveway! I thought for a moment , but still knocked the door, she came to an upstairs window & said i could'nt come in because her son was i'll & the doctor was there , and his car was only left there while this guy was away on business as it got scratched at the airport carpark ! Now i confronted her later with this & she said that she was not having an affair & not to worry .
Not easy.... I tried but it kept cropping up, we are now at a point where she still says i was wrong but wants to finnish because i've hurt her by doubting her , the issue now is i have to see them both at work everyday !
Work has suffered , no concertration , constantly heart pounding , sleepless nights & depression has really set in .
All this would be just another relationship break-up with a twist , if i had'nt had a another relationship where my partner had gone off with a 'friend' which took along time to get over , its been at the back of why a reacted how i did , but i still feel it was reasonable to confront the situation even if i didnt have something similar happen before .
Now i'm wondering if anything did go on , if so is that why shes been distant with me & have i played into thier hands by not ignoring it , and even if nothing ever went on between them could anyone NOT have suspicions !
i feel destined to be a lonely old man ( im 39) & the worst of it all is i can't tell anyone as no friends ever met her & work pals didnt know we were in a relationship !
thats what brought me here , i do feel really desperate
i've read a few posts and look forward to hearing from anyone who has an opinon