Aconfusedwif Posted July 9, 2020 Share Posted July 9, 2020 My husband and I have been together 2 1/2 years, we have a beautiful daughter together! I recently caught him pegging himself in our bathroom, which wasn't so surprising to me as he did tell me he did that when we started dating! anyways recently we been getting into arguments because I was being the bread winner when he was making mire money than I was! found out he was doing drugs and that did not sit well with me, we have a 18 month old daughter, and I have 2 boys from my previous marriage! He started segregating himself and locking himself away in the garage/mancave! I started getting suspicious and went through his phone, there were tonnes of gay porn, tranny porns on his devices! there was also gay apps to which he was trying to get hook ups with men! he told them he was a closeted bi looking tor FWB & PNP! I confronted him and he says he has never been with any other than me and that he would never cheat on me! technically he cheated when he started putting himself out there Link to comment
DancingFool Posted July 9, 2020 Share Posted July 9, 2020 OK, so your husband lied about who he is, is actively on gay apps looking for extra partners, also he is using drugs. You have all the information you need. What are you going to do about it? Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted July 9, 2020 Share Posted July 9, 2020 I just googled pegging... So what are you going to do about your husband and his interests? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 9, 2020 Share Posted July 9, 2020 Get to a doctor for STD testing and an attorney to consult about getting a divorce. Do not expose your kids to a drug user. Do you think he has a second job as a male prostitute? Let your other kids live with their father safely until you get divorced. Make sure you file for sole custody and supervised visitation for the joint child. How well do you know him? It seems he has a double life that puts your health, finances and kids in danger. He is a liability and his drug and low down activities could send CPS to your place...or dealers and all sorts of characters. What he sticks in his butt in the bathroom is the least of your problems. He does not want to be a husband and father. Your relationship is a sham and a cover. He wants to use drugs and Party and Play on the down low. Get to a doctor. Read up on it: https://www.cdc.gov/std/stats17/msm.htm found out he was doing drugs and that did not sit well with me there was also gay apps to which he was trying to get hook ups with men! he told them he was a closeted bi looking tor FWB & PNP! Link to comment
smackie9 Posted July 9, 2020 Share Posted July 9, 2020 Oh my! as George Takei would say. Staying will only allow him to continue, and pull you down with him. He's lying, he's doing drugs, he's probably having unsafe sex, he's going down a slippery slope....get out now. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted July 9, 2020 Share Posted July 9, 2020 I just googled pegging... Yup has nothing to do with peg leg pirates dancing. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted July 9, 2020 Share Posted July 9, 2020 Sorry --- i would consult an attorney and get your kids away from a drug addict who puts you all at risk by possibly having sex with men. What alarm did not go off in your head? And i would fill for full physical custody of your child together. Link to comment
CrazyWife Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 If he wasn't wanting to meet up with these guys then why speak to them and go on a hook up app? I would say catfish him but you already have all the proof you need. Plus, do not expose your children to a drug addict or at least one who is not willing to get help. If he is bisexual he needs to have an open discussion with you on that and as someone already mentioned, him pegging himself is the least of your worries. Is he an IV drug user? If you don't think so there is still a good chance that he may be. As a recovering alcoholic, i know the lengths you go to to hide your addiction and downplay it. Please leave him and believe that you deserve better. Good luck xxx Link to comment
Tinydance Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 Well pegging and being bi is probably not an issue in and of itself. As long as he was faithful to you. On the other hand he should be honest with you about his sexuality in my opinion because you are married and have a child, you are a family. If he's bi then why didn't he ever tell you this. However if he's actually gay that is also an issue, as clearly he's only into men in that case. The fact that he has a toddler and he's secretly doing drugs and trying to hook up with randoms is unacceptable. He's trying to cheat on you and also straying from his responsibilities as a father. Are you just supposed to stay home alone with the child while he goes out doing drugs and cheating on you? Have you actually talked to him about all this and asked why is he doing this? Is he bi or gay? Why was he keeping all this a secret? Link to comment
Aconfusedwif Posted July 11, 2020 Author Share Posted July 11, 2020 The only option I can come to is to walk away! he claims he has never been with any of these men, I have no proof he hasn't! yet he don't want a break up! I am confused with all the lies and deceptions Link to comment
Aconfusedwif Posted July 11, 2020 Author Share Posted July 11, 2020 I just googled pegging... So what are you going to do about your husband and his interests? I honestly don't know anymore! He obviously has interest outside his marriage Link to comment
Aconfusedwif Posted July 11, 2020 Author Share Posted July 11, 2020 TinyDance according to him when I confronted him is that he has never cheated or would ever cheat on me which is bull as the min you are at that point of trying to hook up you cheated when the action has even taken place! according to him he was only curious and would never have taken the step further! I can't trust and or believe anything that comes from his mouth Link to comment
Aconfusedwif Posted July 11, 2020 Author Share Posted July 11, 2020 Exactly and I told him I need a divorce and he keeps fighting it Link to comment
Aconfusedwif Posted July 11, 2020 Author Share Posted July 11, 2020 Thank you very valuable points! and yes I have scheduled a series of test! and he keeps telling he never did anything Link to comment
Aconfusedwif Posted July 11, 2020 Author Share Posted July 11, 2020 He will not get custody of my daughter I have all his on file for my evidence Link to comment
Aconfusedwif Posted July 11, 2020 Author Share Posted July 11, 2020 no not an iv user i found the meth pipe! He still denies he is a bi sexual even though his names on these sites when I googled meant Willing to try anything at least once and the other meant he wasn't prejudice to anything, gay, trans, hermaphrodites the works but yet still he is not gay or bi Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 You don't need permission to get divorced. Crack pipes and your kids are there? Get out before your kids are taken away. Stop trying to define his sexuality or what cheating is. Male prostitutes, prisoners, etc. have male-male sex without your narrow definitions of bi, gay whatever. It's irrelevant. Focus on protecting your kids, not what he's inserting into his anus. You already know there are illegal drugs and you already know your marriage is a sham. It sounds like you hardly know him. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 His sexuality is irrelevant in custody. You seem oblivious to the illegal drugs. Why is that?He will not get custody of my daughter I have all his on file for my evidence Link to comment
Aconfusedwif Posted July 13, 2020 Author Share Posted July 13, 2020 I am not oblivious to the illegal drugs Link to comment
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