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Sorry for not updatng folks. I called the police, and they banned her from the property durin my parents' abscence All is well.

Agreed. Well said.

A few of you might remember my past situation where I was manipulated and raped by my sister and her friends. Well, now she's back, and my parents are going away on a business trip soon. This is the exact same situation that happened last time. I was home alone for a few days, my sister then came over three consecutive nights and violated me on the second. She's not living over here, but she called my parents (she unfortuneately regained their trust), and told them she might swing by. More bad news, my uncle, who played an instrumental part in finding her out, recently moved, and contact with him is limited. Also, I have no close relatives by. I'd turn to my friends, but I'm afraid I cannot trust anyone on this situation. Should I alert authorities? Any advice is helpful.

A woman requires special things just as men do. For instance, women have a need for connection, protection, harmony, and communication. Men however, value independence, calmitity, and pride. Obviously, you're a very independent person, so this is going to be diffucult to explain to you. Women like to be taken care of; it makes them feel wanted, and/or loved. I don't like it at all, but I have learned to accept the facts. I agree with you when you say women can get through life on their own, and that they are indeed paralel to men. However, this is where a woman's needs come in to play. Women don't like to do things on their own because they are auditory, social creatures. Needy ones too. Having a man take care of a woman makes her feel secure and protected. As for other matters, I don't like to stereotype, but I think that most women are in relationships with older men to be taken care of, and for financial security. Which is why my father has always told me, "Never go for the younger ones unless you want a significant portion of your paycheck." And I agree with the statements above. It is pretty obvious that women mature faster than men emotionally, but no, they don't mature faster overall.

For the past year or so, my life hasn't been so good. I have had tons of issues recently that have nearly driven me to the point of madness. 1) I have no real friends. I've never really had one. I've always been socially distant and withdrawn. I won't let anyone close to me, and I have an impenetrable exterior. I don't feel like I can trust people. 2) I've always been astonishingly mature for my age. Despite my introverted ways, I have excellent social skills and I can communicate fabulously with adults. I had a 9th grade vocabulary level at age 12, and now I'm taking college language classes. 3) I can't communicate with people my age. Everytime I try to, it's always got some stupid problem like drugs, sex, parties, sports, and just basic drama in general. I don't understand why teenagers do stupid things that bring awful consequences upon them. I feel stupid when I converse with individuals in my class. 4) I'm straight, and I'm attracted to women, but the idea of romance and love to me has always seemed stupid. I've never been interested in being in a relationship. 5) I'm amazingly self-centered. I do things for me and only me. I do things my way. My opinion is the only one that matters (to me). Every thing I do basically benefits me. I don't want to have to worry about anyone else, or take care of anyone else but myself, which is probobly why I'm not suited for relationships. 6) My relationship with my parents is very "bi-polar." One day we will get along great, the next day, we're barking at eachother like a bunch of wild savages. My dad made me play sports for a while, something he loves and I don't care for. To me, sports have no point other than to achieve school pride, and to flash a sign over your head that says, "masculine." Both of which are stupid to me. I finally quit sports, and totally disobeyed my parents. My grandpa wouldn't talk to me for months, and slept outside with my dog until basketball season was over. 7) I'm incredibly intelligent. My IQ (according to my school counselor) was off the charts, but I have trouble applyng myself. Last year, I made straight A's. Nothing under an A actually, and the 3rd in my class. Now, I'm making B's (Which are okay), and C's (Which to me is unacceptable). 8) I have an attitude and respect problem. I'm incredibly cold-blooded and insubordinate. I believe I should not answer to earthly authority, and I don't feel that I'm supposed to show respect to anyone. 9) I turn to to material objects for stress relief. Reading superhero comics, and playing guitar and listening to music are my only ways of venting frustration. Any advice is appreciated.

I agree. (Ten characters)

I don't know what it is. Maybe I love talking with girls more than guys. Whenever I meet a girl I will always fall for them. However I must do something that causes the boyfriend/girlfriend attraction to go to a friendliness. What am I doing wrong? I want a girlfriend, I need someone to unleash my passion upon.

I was reading a thread on the boards entitled "Wanting something special," in Relationship Conflicts. After reading that thread I felt like projectile vomiting in a convieneance store restroom; it is apalling to see what women expect out of men. Special gifts. Free Dinners. Various love notes/E-Mails. Being surprised. Calling all the time, and so on and forth. Do women actually think they deserve these things? Or is it something else I'm not quite clicking with?

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I have recently befriended a new kid in my grade who is quite cool. We have the same interests, both pretty quiet and relaxed, but there is just one problem. He never shuts up. I mean never. When we watch a movie, or something, he ia always talking, and I am about to split my brain trying to focus on the plot of the movie and listen to him ramble incoherently. Also, he has to be included in alot of things that I am. For instance, my female friend and I were planning a fun deal/bet thing, and he insisted that he should be a part of it. Thankfully, my friend is not as nice as I am and shrugged him away with a fib. Right now, he has been calling me multiple times asking questions about it, and I haven't answered. How do I just break it to him that he is seriously making me mad right now? I know he is a new kid, and wants to fit in, but this is seriously pinching my nerves. Any thoughts?

Well, I talked to her about it at school today, and she said that if she called me, it would make her look like a * * * * * I really don't see how being a " * * * * *," conflicts with calling someone. I'll be seeing her soon, and I plan to elaborate more on our problem.

I just had an enormous fight with my new girlfriend over gender stereotyping. She is apparently mad, because I never call her, and I told her that it was because she never called me, and that I won't be doing all the calling. Well then, she became livid, and began yelling/explaining to me about how the guy was always supposed to be the one to call. If there is one thing in this world that I cannot stand, it is stereotyping, so, my replies were backed by a voice that indicated infuriation. After that she threatened to hang up multiple times, and I told her multiple times to do it. She started crying all of a sudden, which freaked me out, and then hung up. I'm seriously doubting that my new relationship will work. I am very new fashioned, independent person. My girlfriend is old fashioned and VERY dependent. Do you think we are too different to continue corresponding?

The tape doesn't provide enought evidence.

They didn't believe me. I feel crushed and abandoned.

My parents are home...I'm not sure how to demonstrate the evidence I have...