noregret - I'm adopted, your anger is wasted on me
I am my parents child, my mother did not give birth to me, my father was not my sire, I grew in my mothers heart not her womb. They are the only parents I know, just as you are the only father your child knows, it is your child. Did you love this child before you knew? How can a parents love change?
If you don't get over your sin of pride, I would judge you to be a heartless basta*** . I am living proof that parenting is not biological, and yes I was an illegitimate child who was blessed to be adopted.
So now that I have scolded you, please think of this child and his life, what is decided between you wife and you is one thing, do not throw your son into that pot. He is a person who will always be your son if you allow him to.