timl4321 Posted March 25, 2007 Share Posted March 25, 2007 A few weeks ago my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me almost out of nowhere. I'm so lost now, i don;t know what to do with myself. We started going out after highschool and everything was great for a long time. We got along well, never fought about things, wen't travelling etc. I thought everything was perfect between us. We both new once we got our lives sorted out with school/careers etc that we would get married and be together forever. Recently everything began to change and she came out and said she wanted a "break". She is confused and needs time apart. She says we were too different for each other - too different after sharing 7 great years together? How is that possible? I'm having trouble understading how it came to this. She's been under a lot of stress with her family/career and I suspect that is part of the reason. The stress may have just gotten to her? I was always there for her though it all and went out of my may to do everything to help her out. She seems to have changed alot lately. She was always devoted to taking care of her ailing parent at home, now she wants to put them in a nursing home, breaks up with me and is going out partying all the time with new friends from work. I stuck through all the hard times with her and now I'm alone while she changes everything in her life without me there. The way she did it also confuses me. A week after we broke up we went out together to talk and things were great. We both had fun and talk for hours like we haven't in a long time. She said that she still loves me, and that she can still see us getting married. shes confused and needs time apart. Her words don't match her actions though. I found out that she is already seeing another guy - she says she never cheated on me and I believe her 100% - shes never lied to me before. How can she be seeing someone else so soon after telling me shes confused about us? It seems like shes moving on already. She said she wanted to stay friends, but the last i saw her (a week ago) she was acting really distant and didn't look comfortable around me. I decided to try the no contact approach and give her some space but it is so hard. I have so many unanswered questions. Why is she telling me she still loves me and needs time to think, but at the same time acting distant - not wanting to "lead me on" -she says, and dating someone else so soon - partying, and neglecting her parents who need care?. It hurts so much after such a long time. she is my best friend and my whole life. how could she leave so abruptly? I am so tempted to ask her to go out and talk. I just want a staight answer. I feel like she is not being honest about her decision. Is the breakup final or not? I need to know so I can move on, but at the same time i don;t want to puch her away - i care for her too much. Should I make contact and get some answers or let her contact me, even though we may drift farther apart in the meantime? I really need some advice. I feel like my life as I know it is over. Is there still a chance for us? Link to comment
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