porn -why do they look?

[ocrob]

I completely respect your opinion, but do find this post interesting. You are basically saying that your opinion is right and you don't care what other people think. If you don't like porn and you don't want your boyfriend to watch it, then good for you. I am not going to judge you for that. You should like and dislike what you want. I am not even going to sit here and tell you weather I like porn or not. I just think it is pretty closeminded to judge others that like something or defend something that you do not like. I guess it is like many of the political issues out there. Some people are pro life and others are pro choice. It is ok to disagree and have your own opinion, but I think it is important to respect anothers choice to have a different opinion.

[itsallgrand]

Women need not take porn personally. It is NOT a reflection on you.

The very idea is illogical; once you learn what porn and its usage are really about. Getting older helps, I think. And having some experience. Mainly I feel it is about growing as a woman.

 

I think the real problem lays in your own self image and how you define yourself.

Porn has this way of triggering off our own insecurities.

The women are fantasy creatures, the acts span the entire range of human imagination. Some porn plays to sickness: no two ways about it.

 

None of it says anything about you; except in how you react and relate to it.

It is only paper and video in the end.

 

It's about your relationship and communication: in yourself, and in your relationship with a man.

 

It is one thing to dislike porn and have a moral restriction against it.

That is your values and preference; and that's fine.

The trouble is when you apply these same principles to others and judge them by it.

That is a mistake in thinking.

 

I don't mind watching or looking at the occasional porn bits.

Some of it is stimulating, non-abusive, and interesting.

In the right circumstances: loving, respectful relationship where both have agreed...it can even be a bonding experience and lead to new explorations.

 

Don't allow something silly like porn to ruin a good relationship.

Instead, focus on the man.

If the man is healthy inside, he will have a healthy relationship to porn. It will be like a 'treat' rather than a crutch to fill other needs in his life.

If he's overall normal and fine, then he can have his porn while I indulge in my chocolate.

[Jhodas]

Mandymay, your boyfriend is either a rarity, or he is telling porkies. I live with 7 other guys and 8 other girls. All the guys have huge digital porn collections, and 3 of the girls do too. Strangely enough, myself and the three girls are in relationships. my gf has seen my porn collection. You can't actually make love to a porn collection.

 

I would put porn on a par with a rampant rabbit or other feminine pleasure instruments. When you're not with your partner and feeling aroused; it helps. A lot. I know a few guys that feel threatened by sex toys, perhaps because they feel something similar: that it is a betrayal of some kind.

 

This is false. The best times are to be had when you combine your own lovemaking with an added stimulant (toys, erotic movies etc).

[thursday]

i agree with itsallgrand, though i'm very sure i will quit watching it if i'm in a new relationship with someone in the future.. i now realise it's just not very respectful towards your gf even though she could give you the impression she doesn't really mind..

[jennifer1001]

I agree I dated a guy and found porn on his internet and it showed he was recently at the site, I was very hurt inside and did not understand at all, it really turned me off and killed part of my trust or how I felt about him, it actually made me sick. He begged on his knees for my forgiveness and promised to never do it again, says he slipped to his old single ways - I forgave then months later when were were having a few problems he mentions in a email that he looked at some pictures how much he liked them it made sex better for him and although he doesn't need that when he's in a relaitonship there will be times he indluges (that is what he said) he likes beautiful women is what he said, yet I feel or have been told I'm a beautiful woman it killed something in my heart for him I told him how much that hurt and sounds to me like you want to be single and so I'm bailing have fun being single now you can pull up all the naked ladies you want and be single he begged again for my forgiveness - I was stupid enough to forgive a couple months later he said his feelings changed for me and were not together anymore apparently he claims any woman he's been with before that didn't bother them????? Those women must not have felt to good about themselves to be with a man that desires to look at other naked women when there suppose to be into you. I guess for me anyway I don't want to be with a man that has to indlugle from time to time - that actually made me sick when he said that and to be sneaky and pull up porn on the internet, it gave me the creeps. I have a 17 year old son that doesn't do that, yet alone a 46 year old man it's like looking at his daughters anyway it just turned me off and to each there own but I don't want to be with a man that has to do that when I'm his woman I want to be the one and only he desires that way.

[jennifer1001]

If you want to watch porn together as a couple that is fine, but to do it behind you partners back if they know it would hurt you is not right in my opinon. If you love someone and you know that would hurt them to do it behind there back then you shouldn't out of respect for the one you love. Just watch an erotic movie together if both want to then that's fine once in a while. I guess I just have a problem with men that pull up porn (other naked women) on the internet behind there lovers back when they know it would hurt there partner, that is not right in my opinion anyway.

[AnnieMG]

I just wonder if theantibarbie23 would be so cool about her bf and porn watching, if he began to neglect her physically in favour of watching his movies. He loves you and you have a great sex life - what if you were having sex four, five times a week and it dwindle to a couple of times a month - because he was having a blast with his movies???? Would you be so cool with it then?

Also, you guys who derive so much pleasure from pornography of any form..... do you ever think about the fact that your s/o would be hurt if she knew about it - and DO YOU CARE???? If your g/f finds out and she's upset about it, you need to ask yourself if you care for her enough to put this stuff away and be done with it, and move forward in a real relationship instead of a sexual fantasy.

[TiredMan]

See, to me that is HER issue. I like my porn and it's useful for when you are having "alone" time. If my g/f had a problem with it, well that is too bad for her. What if she says she is insecure if I talk to my best friend (who is female)? I'm supposed to drop her too? For me, one (masturbation/porn) has nothing to do with the other (sex with her).

[Blue Dreamer]

Males needing porn when they have a girlfriend is evidence of an insecure male. Why should a boyfriend need porn if the relationship he is in is of any true value to him?

They are influenced by the external environment which includes influence by a non satisfying girlfriend/wife. How long has porn been around? Thankfully, the truth is males did just fine before porn ever existed. Othewise, most of us probly wouldnt even exist today. Porn is a want, not a need. There is no valid excuse for a boyfriend to use porn, unless he's in Iraq for an extended period of time.

[MissyM]

I watch porn with my bf, i quite like it. Lets face it, there are much worse things he could be doing!

[wayne]

Why would he want to look at porn if he has me?

 

Well, let's see.

 

Are you awake, energetic, and ready for sex with him at any moment, day or night, that he might want it? Really? If not, there will be times when he wants something, and can't get it from you without you making a sacrifice. So porn will do.

 

Do you have periods? He can still get horny when you're out of commission.

 

Are you up for anything that he might want to try? Anything at all? Even inviting a friend or two to join in? If you're not, that's perfectly all right, but he'll still want to at least fantasize about it without making you endure something you don't enjoy.

 

Do you always reach orgasm? Does every encounter go flawlessly? Does he ever wonder, when he's considering whether to make a move on you, whether he'll have any problems with his equipment or have something go wrong and leave you sexually frustrated? Porn can't be left hanging and doesn't care how long it takes him to get it up, how long he can keep going, or how hard he is throughout. If he tries to enjoy porn and nothing happens down there, porn doesn't get its feelings hurt and doesn't suspect that he can't get it up because he doesn't really love it or find it attractive anymore.

 

Are you blond? Asian? 18 years old? Red-haired? Large-breasted? Small-breasted? Freckled? Hispanic? Short-haired? Long, frizzy haired? Short? Tall?

 

Are you all of the above? Probably not. He can be attracted to you while he (like most men) is also attracted to several different physical types besides yours, and would like to look at them all occasionally while still staying faithful to you.

[TiredMan]

Well said Wayne.

 

Dont forget about just wanting to get off quickly without having to even get involved in the act sometimes and worry about pleasing someone else.

 

Oh and porn is never "not in the mood" or self conscious.

 

And lastly, it never changes it's mind in the middle due to outside reasons.

[Mrs Elliott Smith]

sorry to break it to you, but people, men and women, are attracted to people other than their significant others.

 

Somone would be a big fat liar if they told their significant others that "I'm only attracted to YOU."

 

Why do people look at porn? Some do it to get off when they don't have the means to have sex. Some do it because it's something good to look at. Some do it because what they're seeing is something different from what they usually see. One man once compared sleeping with the same woman for the rest of his life to eating the same type of sandwhich every day for lunch.

Other people do it for other reasons (that I can't really think of, but I'm sure they exist).

 

It's just human nature, IMO. But when someone's looking at it day in and day out, or becomes obsessed with it, then Houston, we have a problem.

[silky88]

hmmmm...

 

this post is almost a year old, and the poster stopped responding to it a few weeks in...

[Suzy-TO]

I dont think its only men that look at porn. Its out there, I think we all have at some point. Does not mean we love our spouses any less.

[Rabican]

My girl looks at porn, and will get off to it.. Doesnt bother me any.

 

I figure its like this, If im in the mood, and shes not Im looking at porn and taking care of business. Im not going to sit around and be... ah em 'uncomfortable' for 3 days because she isnt in the mood. Watching porn seems harmless enough to me. Why not look, I dont see it as being any different than 'fantasizing' about something in your own head.

 

Now If I choose porn and taking care of myself over relations with her... then we have a problem. Note, that never happens. Theres probably times when she wishes my little man would just break down so Id leave her alone.

 

I view it as simply fantasizing, or just looking... call it what you will I dont think its harmful, and it doesnt bother me if she does the same. As long as there isnt another person involved ie phone sex with another person im fine with it.

[Misser]

I totally agree with you. Porn is bound to make you unsatisfied with your partner. You need to tell your partner what you want. Stop watching porn becuase it will only make you less and less satisfied by broadening the horizons of your desires.

[TiredMan]

I totally agree with you. Porn is bound to make you unsatisfied with your partner. You need to tell your partner what you want. Stop watching porn becuase it will only make you less and less satisfied by broadening the horizons of your desires.

 

So could looking at magazines or TV stars too seeing people that usually look a lot better than the person you are with. Should people stop watching that too? Where does it end?

 

Porn is ok to use if that is your thing when masterbating. It's wrong to ask someone to stop because you are insecure. Someone even said it would be over if their boyfriend ever watched porn. I would say good riddance if I was him.

[Bella_Strega]

So could looking at magazines or TV stars too seeing people that usually look a lot better than the person you are with. Should people stop watching that too? Where does it end?

 

Porn is ok to use if that is your thing when masterbating. It's wrong to ask someone to stop because you are insecure. Someone even said it would be over if their boyfriend ever watched porn. I would say good riddance if I was him.

 

First of all it's M-A-S-T-U-R-B-A-T-E.

 

It's sad to think that someone would choose porn over a real life woman. I think you've actually just reinforced a lot of anti-porn convictions here by making that point.

[princess_summer_blue84]

The reason why some men look at pornophy is simply b/c :

 

1) it turns them on

2) they want to get better at what they do

3) maybe there a virgin and don't know anything sexually

 

Could be lots of reasons but those are the top 3 reasons why men look at porn.

[JustMarioBros]

The reason why some men look at pornophy is simply b/c :

 

1) it turns them on

2) they want to get better at what they do

3) maybe there a virgin and don't know anything sexually

 

Could be lots of reasons but those are the top 3 reasons why men look at porn.

 

Well, I like porn but I could only relate to #1 that you posted. Looking at porn is not bad at all. If you are in a relationship or not, there is nothing wrong with it. If your partner has a problem with it, then obviously you have to talk it over and figure something out. Not everyone actually likes pron.... which just boggles my mind because it is great Or maybe you could make your own video? Makes everything much more interesting there.

[princess_summer_blue84]

totally agree's ! I watch porn and hell yea it turns me on and well if my partner is there heck we turn off of tv and really go banging at it! LOL!

[JustMarioBros]

totally agree's ! I watch porn and hell yea it turns me on and well if my partner is there heck we turn off of tv and really go banging at it! LOL!

 

lol you little freak you.

[princess_summer_blue84]

L O L ! what? It's only normal! Sex is a natural thing and hell is so is ENJOYABLE! hardcore all the way !

[JustMarioBros]

Truth be told!