steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 Hey there I know it's not the best option but me and my wife are on our third pregnancy scare. We are horrible at practicing safe sex. 2 kids unplanned and she is late for her period. We are obviously not mature enough to have sex would taking sex off the table be a good decision. 1 Link to comment
boltnrun Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 Why would you need to abstain? You can get a vasectomy if you don't want more kids (and your "equipment" will work just fine afterward, I promise). If you want more kids sometime in the future, your wife can get an IUD and you can use condoms. Choosing not to be proactive about birth control is just that, a choice. Either be responsible about using birth control, get a vasectomy or just keep having kids. Your choice. Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 2 minutes ago, boltnrun said: Why would you need to abstain? You can get a vasectomy if you don't want more kids (and your "equipment will work just fine afterward, I promise). If you want more kids sometime in the future, your wife can get an IUD and you can use condoms. Choosing not to be proactive about birth control is just that, a choice. Either be responsible about using birth control, get a vasectomy or just keep having kids. Your choice. We dont want more kids we have condoms they never get used. Immature i know just being honest. Link to comment
bluecastle Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 7 minutes ago, steve81 said: we have condoms they never get used. Okay, so how about exploring a vasectomy (reversible), IUD, tube tying (not), and so on. There are numerous forms of birth control that require a minor procedure and then zero "responsibility." Seems a lot more realistic than going full monk. Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 2 minutes ago, bluecastle said: Okay, so how about exploring a vasectomy (reversible), IUD, tube tying (not), and so on. There are numerous forms of birth control that require a minor procedure and then zero "responsibility." Seems a lot more realistic than going full monk. Her sister mentioned to her about getting steralized. We havw to look into what is covered i guess. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 38 minutes ago, steve81 said: Her sister mentioned to her about getting steralized. We havw to look into what is covered i guess. Yup. I guess. Lol. What’s stopping you from going online today or calling your insurance provider and asking? Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 How old you you two? Birth control isn't rocket science so there has to be something that will work for you. Not sure where you live but I am sure there is a clinic nearby that can sit down with you both and discuss your options. In the meantime yes abstaining from sex until you can get something in place is probably a good idea. Lost 2 Link to comment
boltnrun Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 Vasectomies are super easy. Much less invasive than female sterilization. It's a simple procedure that's done in the doctor's office. No, you won't become impotent and they will not cut your nuts off. 1 Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 5 minutes ago, lostandhurt said: How old you you two? Birth control isn't rocket science so there has to be something that will work for you. Not sure where you live but I am sure there is a clinic nearby that can sit down with you both and discuss your options. In the meantime yes abstaining from sex until you can get something in place is probably a good idea. Lost I am Just now, boltnrun said: Vasectomies are super easy. Much less invasive than female sterilization. It's a simple procedure that's done in the doctor's office. No, you won't become impotent and they will not cut your nuts off. We are both looking into getting steralized. Thats the first thing i asked if i will be casttated lolol. Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 I am 32 she is 33 we are going to see what options we have. We are trying to abstain until then. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 1 minute ago, steve81 said: I am We are both looking into getting steralized. Thats the first thing i asked if i will be casttated lolol. Jeez. No, they do not "castrate" you. Where are you getting these ideas? My former husband had a vasectomy. After I was divorced I dated a man who also had a vasectomy. Both of them were having sex within a few days of the procedure. Zero impact on their sex drive or ability to perform. Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 Im going to look into it i hope she is not pregnant though. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 If she missed her period hit up dollar tree and get a test. Ignoring it won’t make it go away. 2 Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 12 minutes ago, Seraphim said: If she missed her period hit up dollar tree and get a test. Ignoring it won’t make it go away. Her period is 3 days late!!! She said shw woke up crampy but nothing yet. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 9 minutes ago, steve81 said: Her period is 3 days late!!! She said shw woke up crampy but nothing yet. You can test even 6 days early never mind 3 days late. I have gotten a positive 4 days early . Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 Ok we will get a couple tests after work today. And hope they are negative lol. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 41 minutes ago, steve81 said: Im going to look into it i hope she is not pregnant though. Do you both work? Have health insurance? She can get a pregnancy test at any store. You two both need to see your physicians and get some accurate advice about contraception and sterilization. You'll have to talk to your insurance company about what's covered. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 If you're responsible enough to be having sex, you should already have these options in place without question. Hopefully this is a legitimate post, and you're not playing us. Link to comment
Kwothe28 Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 There, one motivational message for you You both are 30+. If you cant practice safe sex in modern times where there are multiple options for both, then get a vasectomy or dont practice sex at all. 1 2 Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 25 minutes ago, HeartGoesOn said: If you're responsible enough to be having sex, you should already have these options in place without question. Hopefully this is a legitimate post, and you're not playing us. Im not playing anyone and thats why i said should we abstain. Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 16 minutes ago, Kwothe28 said: There, one motivational message for you You both are 30+. If you cant practice safe sex in modern times where there are multiple options for both, then get a vasectomy or dont practice sex at all. Lol that is definetly us sex is off the table now. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 8 minutes ago, steve81 said: l that is definetly us sex is off the table now. Well, if she is pregnant again, you won't have to use birth control for a few months. So look at the bright side. Meanwhile, research vasectomies. Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: Well, if she is pregnant again, you won't have to use birth control for a few months. So look at the bright side. Meanwhile, research vasectomies. Yes if she is pregnant we will put sex back in play. I am going to look into a vasectomy or her getting her tubes tied. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted July 11, 2023 Share Posted July 11, 2023 I find it somewhat amusing you thought a vasectomy involved castration. I would think the sex ed provided at your school would have covered that. It's a simple procedure. Link to comment
steve81 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Share Posted July 11, 2023 1 minute ago, boltnrun said: I find it somewhat amusing you thought a vasectomy involved castration. I would think the sex ed provided at your school would have covered that. It's a simple procedure. I was being funny i didnt mean anything by it. Link to comment
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