jflore Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and recently we have been emotionally distant. He was working really long hours and when he would come home I would really want his attention and affection but his mind was so occupied with work he was not able to give me what I wanted. This would lead to fights about our relationship. He ended up breaking up with me because he was confused about whether he still wanted to be with me. 5 days later we talked and he told me he missed me and wanted to get back together. However, he told me that while we were broken up he had sex with someone else. This was a girl he worked with who I had some suspicions of beforehand. It turns out he had feelings for her before they hooked up but then after they hooked up he realized he made a mistake and he felt nothing for her and wanted me back. It really hurts me that he hooked up with this girl because he did it the day after we broke up. Also, during our relationship I would notice him texting her everyday and she would send him snap chats. During this I told him I didn’t like that he was talking to her so much because it made me feel insecure. Especially because of all the problems we were having and he worked so much so he was around her all the time. After I expressed I was uncomfortable with him talking to her so much he told me I was crazy and that there was nothing to worry about with her. Now I feel like he lied to me. He said he didn’t break up with me to be with her. He didn’t know that she liked him back and he just thought they were friends but he did like her. He never hooked up with her while we were together, just the day after we broke up. He said he didn’t expect to hook up with her and that it just sort of happened. He expressed to me that he was sincerely sorry for the way he treated me and that he knows that he wants me in his life. Since he confessed everything I decided I would take him back. I just don’t know what to think of all this. I keep thinking about them having sex. I keep thinking about how he had feelings for her while I was telling him I was insecure about their friendship. He has quit his job so he wouldn’t be around her, he’s cut off communication with her, and he says he is fully committed to me. I want to make things work out but I need advice as to how to move on and forgive him and not build resentment. Link to comment
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