Boyfriend is married

[katrina1980]

I'm thinking the police will ask her if she has family she could contact. And advise her to contact them.

 

Not sure what else they can do, this bozo has not committed a crime. He just a lying *.

[Starlight925]

I'm thinking the police will ask her if she has family she could contact. And advise her to contact them.

 

Not sure what else they can do, this bozo has not committed a crime. He just a lying *.

 

I'm thinking the police will protect her from violence.

 

I can't be any more blunt than that.

 

Please look up the story that just happened to the Utah college girl, who found out lies about her boyfriend. Very scary.

 

Maybe the police can escort her to safety, or allow her to wait with them until her family reaches her.

 

Anything other than, just calling someone, or spending one more minute with this guy.

 

He was searched at the border for a reason.

[Snny]

This whole thing sounds like a human trafficking incident. He’s confessed to lying, drove you to a foreign country and is potentially setting you up to trafficking you.

 

Don’t eat or drink anything he gives you because they could be drugged. I’m being absolutely serious. Call the police NOW. You are in a very dangerous situation.

[katrina1980]

Call your family. Maybe they can wire you money to go home. I know its embarrassing but family has unconditional love.

 

In time of need. Your family is there to help.

 

I have a daughter. If she was ever in trouble. I would want her to contact me for help.

 

Agree and my dad has done same for me.

 

Good luck OP, keep us posted.

[Annia]

I'm thinking the police will protect her from violence.

 

I can't be any more blunt than that.

 

Please look up the story that just happened to the Utah college girl, who found out lies about her boyfriend. Very scary.

 

Maybe the police can escort her to safety, or allow her to wait with them until her family reaches her.

 

Anything other than, just calling someone, or spending one more minute with this guy.

 

He was searched at the border for a reason.

 

Do you have a link?

 

I've also dated an abusive creep many years ago whose whole life was a lie. I don't think he was married (as far as I know), but just like this creep, he was a serious manipulator and liar. Some people are beyond scary.

 

Edit: I've read it now. Disturbing!

[Seraphim]

I'm thinking the police will protect her from violence.

 

I can't be any more blunt than that.

 

Please look up the story that just happened to the Utah college girl, who found out lies about her boyfriend. Very scary.

 

Maybe the police can escort her to safety, or allow her to wait with them until her family reaches her.

 

Anything other than, just calling someone, or spending one more minute with this guy.

 

He was searched at the border for a reason.

 

Not necessarily random searches happens all the time . We have had a random search only because our last name is very common . We also get extra questions at the border every single time because somebody with my husband’s exact same name and exact same birthdate was a poop head . You think they would get tired of asking but no. And every single time my husband produces his military ID and they go oh yeah it’s not you off you go .

[JCSK]

I'm concerned that OP doesn't want to tell her family as she's still wondering if this relationship will work out and therefore wouldn't want them to know. If this is the case OP, please know that he has shown you who he is now and his capabilities to lie so well for so long. You may feel like you love him but he has treated you so badly and it will never get any better, no matter how much you want it to. It's time to leave, immediately and for good.

[SherrySher]

Human trafficking was the first thought after he was stopped at the border and was nervous and then was found out the not even have the name he gave her.

 

He could also be a sociopath. At this point, he could do whatever he pleases with her. She has no money, in a foreign country, young girl, no protection.

 

This is what nightmares are made of.

[smackie9]

Tell his wife. I don't recommend this most times, but he kept it from you....for a whole year! and lied about his name etc, and these are times when you need to let the other know. He is such a dbag, selfish, self entitled, etc.

[katrina1980]

Human trafficking was the first thought after he was stopped at the border and was nervous and then was found out the not even have the name he gave her.

 

He could also be a sociopath. At this point, he could do whatever he pleases with her. She has no money, in a foreign country, young girl, no protection.

 

This is what nightmares are made of.

 

^^On second thought, yeah contact the police OP.

 

Forgot that he had given her wrong name too. For an entire year no less.

 

Get out now!

[Annia]

I'm concerned that OP doesn't want to tell her family as she's still wondering if this relationship will work out and therefore wouldn't want them to know. If this is the case OP, please know that he has shown you who he is now and his capabilities to lie so well for so long. You may feel like you love him but he has treated you so badly and it will never get any better, no matter how much you want it to. It's time to leave, immediately and for good.

 

If besides being a lying cheater this guy is also an abusive manipulator, he might have isolated her from her friends and family like most do and will make her consider the decision of leaving him. Maybe that's why she doesn't want to tell.

[Seraphim]

Human trafficking was the first thought after he was stopped at the border and was nervous and then was found out the not even have the name he gave her.

 

He could also be a sociopath. At this point, he could do whatever he pleases with her. She has no money, in a foreign country, young girl, no protection.

 

This is what nightmares are made of.

 

True.

 

But people are sometimes stopped for no more reason than they are the fifth car in line and are sent to secondary . But if he was acting nervous he would’ve been sent to secondary for sure .

[Annia]

Human trafficking was the first thought after he was stopped at the border and was nervous and then was found out the not even have the name he gave her.

 

He could also be a sociopath. At this point, he could do whatever he pleases with her. She has no money, in a foreign country, young girl, no protection.

 

This is what nightmares are made of.

 

I haven't thought about this and now I'm scared!

[Starlight925]

I didn't want to provide this link, but here it is. Scary stuff:

 

https://www.cnn.com/2018/10/24/us/lauren-mccluskey-university-of-utah-fatal-shooting/index.html

 

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6318525/Lauren-McCluskeys-killer-blackmailed-went-date-murder.html

 

In this story about the girl from Utah, the "boyfriend" lied to her about his age, name, and it turns out, his criminal history.

 

18 minutes after he killed her, he had a date with someone else he met online.

 

I cannot stress how badly I want you to leave, now.

[Seraphim]

If he was a convicted criminal in the US he would not be entering Canada. That would be in the database . And especially for murder . However if he was unconvicted criminal, or not known yet criminal, sure.

[katrina1980]

OP, I do not have time to look at your history, but did you meet him on line????

 

Pls return and let us know you're ok and safe.

[Starlight925]

If he was a convicted criminal in the US he would not be entering Canada. That would be in the database . And especially for murder . However if he was unconvicted criminal, or not known yet criminal, sure.

 

My post was confusing. I was referring to unknown/lied about criminal history about the boyfriend of the girl from Utah.

 

In this particular thread, we do not know much about the boyfriend. We do not know why he was stopped at the border. Sure, could be random, but he felt immediately compelled to come clean about his name and marital status, which smells fishy to me.....like he was scared that things would come out.

[Seraphim]

My post was confusing. I was referring to unknown/lied about criminal history about the boyfriend of the girl from Utah.

 

In this particular thread, we do not know much about the boyfriend. We do not know why he was stopped at the border. Sure, could be random, but he felt immediately compelled to come clean about his name and marital status, which smells fishy to me.....like he was scared that things would come out.

 

Well, of course . At the boarder in seccondary they are going to call him by his real name not the name he’s been using . And she’s going to hear that . You are out of the car and in the office at secondary so you are together in the same place while they question you both . She’s going to find out his name is Louis. It could be simple that in front of the initial guard she could’ve called in by the name that he’s been using and that’s not a name on his passport. Anything suspicious they will pull your butt into secondary as sure as anything .

[Seraphim]

Either way I hope she is ok and dumps his sorry azz .

[katrina1980]

LG, you make a good point.

 

Also, IF he was so concerned about protecting or not revealing his indentity (as he did for an entire year), why did he take her across the border??? Surely he knew by doing so, there was a huge risk she would find out.

 

There are tons of other beautiful places they've could have gone for vacation in the U.S.

 

But yet he takes her across the border, knowing she has no money, etc, then reveals his true identity??

 

Something's not jiving!!

[SherrySher]

Anything suspicious they will pull your butt into secondary as sure as anything

 

Truthfully, he should have been and then could have explained himself, plus she would have gotten help.

[Seraphim]

Truthfully, he should have been and then could have explained himself, plus she would have gotten help.

She would have had to ask the CBSA for help.

[Seraphim]

If they were posing as a couple they would’ve not have asked her what money she had . But to enter into Canada you have to have some way to support yourself or they can refuse you at the border . But they have never asked me personally what money I have on hand when I’m with my husband when I enter the US . They will ask you though if you have a means to support yourself if you were staying for longer than 24 hours .

[DanZee]

Gee whiz! A guy who's been lying about being married is now a serial killer, a sex trafficker, and a sociopath?

 

Let's calm down her and give the girl some real advice. She should tell her boyfriend that she wants to go home, and if he won't take her, she should go down to the bus station, use a credit card, and take a bus back to New York. This is what happens when a 20-year-old girl messes around with a 30-year-old guy. She doesn't have the maturity to figure out what a guy is all about.

[katrina1980]

Gee whiz! A guy who's been lying about being married is now a serial killer, a sex trafficker, and a sociopath?

 

Let's calm down her and give the girl some real advice. She should tell her boyfriend that she wants to go home, and if he won't take her, she should go down to the bus station, use a credit card, and take a bus back to New York. This is what happens when a 20-year-old girl messes around with a 30-year-old guy. She doesn't have the maturity to figure out what a guy is all about.

 

He also lied about his identity for an entire year.

 

Try being a woman for two seconds, this is beyond your standard red flags.

 

Better to be safe than SORRY.

 

Plus she said she has no means to get anywhere.