Jess5638 Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 There’s a few things wrong in this relationship. Firstly, we have been dating for 7 months, know each other for over a year. For his birthday, I paid for a meal, travelled to see him (we are long distance), and got him a nice present and card. For my birthday, he complained about travelling down to see me, said he couldn’t get me a present right now as he is broke (which I understand) but he didn’t even get me a card. I was so sad. He doesn’t post any pictures of us together, he never EVER compliments me even though I always try and look nice to see him. He doesn’t show affection, in any way unless he’s initiating sex. I feel so unwanted. He refuses to meet my family or come to my house, so I have to go to him all the time. Sometimes I travel an hour to see him and he falls asleep and doesn’t offer for me to sleep over, so I have to travel an hour home on the bus in the dark. Usually he lives 3 hours away when he’s at uni, so we only see each other once a month. He’s been back home for 2 weeks meaning we are very close to each other, and we’ve only seen each other once because he hasn’t made plans to see me when he’s just been chilling at home all this time. He has NEVER offered to pay for anything even when he wasn’t broke. He won’t even hold my hand in public. I’m so so sad, I have no confidence. Am I overreacting or should I leave him? Link to comment
DanZee Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 He's not much of a boyfriend, don't you think? He's rude, cheap and uncaring. Is that the kind of guy you want to date or even have sex with? Do you even need to ask? Come on, have some self-esteem and dump this guy. No girlfriend should ever be treated this way. Link to comment
rosephase Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 Yeah, he's a bad boyfriend. He doesn't sound like he is interested in you. Seven month in and you are finally living close by for awhile and he has only seen you once in two weeks? That's someone who does not care to spend time with you. Most people are in relationships because they enjoy spending time together. Leave him. Find someone who is as excited to be with you as you are to be with them. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 Why are you with this guy? He does not sound like he cares about or respects you. At all! Lose him, and find someone who values you. Lastly, you have created a bad dynamic by always going to him, and paying for him. You should not be paying for your bf. A relationship should be reciprocal. Expect more from people! You are really treating yourself badly.. Honey, where is your self respect. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 You deserve better. When someone starts to affect your confidence and self esteem, it's time to bail out. No one should ever make you feel that way, it's unacceptable. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 I agree with every comment above. Why are you with this guy? He seems to have no redeeming qualities. I think you are a booty call and nothing else. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 He's barely interested in you, OP. It's time to end this. It's not a relationship in any sense of word anymore. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 1, 2018 Share Posted April 1, 2018 You asked this same question in November: https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=543900 Nothing has changed. Is it important for you to be able to say you have a boyfriend? Do you think being single makes you a boyfriend-less loser? I can't imagine why else you'd stay in this situation. Link to comment
thorough Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 He's not much of a boyfriend, don't you think? He's rude, cheap and uncaring. Is that the kind of guy you want to date or even have sex with? Do you even need to ask? Come on, have some self-esteem and dump this guy. No girlfriend should ever be treated this way. Yep, this I agree w/. When you find a guy who loves you, he won't complain about doing things for you and he will at least make a tiny bit of effort for your relationship. He doesn't want you, as shown by his attitude when he was spending 2 weeks close distance. Link to comment
Minikimini Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 "People treat you the way they feel about you." "If you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't treat you well, and you stay in it thinking you can change him, then you're no longer a victim of his treatment but a volunteer." Both of these are quotes by a guy on YouTube named Derrick Jaxn. You should familiarize yourself with his videos. Link to comment
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