username123123 Posted March 5, 2018 Share Posted March 5, 2018 Hi, this is my first post ever after being a lurker. Never asked for advice over the internet before - feeling slightly apprehensive, but lets do this! Basically, I have been using online dating for almost a year now with very little success, and things have rarely passed the first date. Not experienced with dating much in general, and have never had a relationship. However, matched with a guy, and we went on our first date 3 weeks ago. Date was amazing, we have so much in common and he has all the traits I look for in someone - which is rare. I don't normally like people much, but I really liked him and I caught feelings after 1 date (pathetic I know). I could tell he felt the same way and was very much attracted to me (told me this etc) and was a gentleman the whole date. However, at the end of the date he didn't kiss me goodbye, only hugged. He messaged me the next day saying he had a great time and that he wants to meet up again. However, he was only free that week on a day when I wasn't available, so we didn't meet up that week. Turns out this was a lie, and after checking his location on snapmap, he went home every evening after work - so clearly not busy. He messaged me a few times during this period trying to keep contact, but I was pissed off because of this, and distanced myself. He reciprocated, and stopped messaging me also for a few days. I regretted my actions and realised that I still wanted to see him, so I asked him out after a few days of not speaking. He seemed really keen, and we arranged a date the following week to go out, and offered to treat me and take me somewhere nice. Problem solved right? nope. The day of our date approached, and I heard nothing from him. I didn't want to text him to confirm, because technically this was his date that he said he would arrange, I felt like I have put in a fair amount of effort with him already. So i texted him in the evening, basically saying "look, we were meant to go out tonight but I didn't hear anything from you, so i'm guessing you aren't interested. I don't see the point of us staying in contact on social media anymore and you tagging me in things if we aren't going to meet again. good luck for the future..." he replied back saying something like "omg i'm so sorry for this, i completely forgot! i've been so busy, and we had such a great date before i really do want to see you again!". I replied saying "i've heard the excuse busy before. but anyway i'm done with chasing you so if you want to go out the ball is in your court". He replied back saying "i really am busy, not an excuse. i definitely will get in contact, i want to see you again..." (to be fair, he has started a new job) and we chatted for a while. Since this day, he has been messaging me every day, however, it has been a week since this exchange and I have yet to hear anything from him regarding another date. I don't know where I stand, and how to deal with this anymore. This whole situation is bringing me down a lot, because I do genuinely like him. What should I do? Is there a deadline for how long I should wait it out before giving up? Is there a remedy to this?! Sorry for the long post! Link to comment
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