swimfan67 Posted February 13, 2018 Share Posted February 13, 2018 So. I've known this guy for a little over two years now. We are a part of the same team and have a lot of mutual friends. He's funny, cute,trusting, dedicated, caring, etc. Up until about 3 months ago, I only saw him as a friend. Something happened and we just started talking more, developing feelings for each other, and we're sort of "dating". Now, I have a few rules for myself when it comes to dating someone. I haven't dated a person in almost 4 years..due to a bad 5 year relationship. But those rules are; can't be younger than me (or at least 21) and can't smoke (cigs or weed). Now...I'm 25, and he just turned 20 a few months ago. He smokes weed quite often. As a friend, I don't mind either of those things. But if our relationship continues, it's something that I'm struggling with. My mom already has an issue with his age and it's definitely putting a damper on my feelings. I know I should have the "screw it, you're the one in the relationship and your happiness matters" mentality, but it's extremely difficult to get over that feeling. I feel like we're too deep in for me to say, "let's just be friends" and not have things be weird or bad between us. What can I do to overcome those thoughts? Should I break it off since smoking is one of thee biggest negative factors in the relationship? Link to comment
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