In need of some insight from the ladies

[Jonesey0]

OP she is 25? Missed that.

 

So in 2011 she posted a photo with her bf that said "two years together." No other photos since then. Very odd.

 

Regardless, this means they started dating in 2009 when she was 17.

 

She may be ready for a change.... just sayin.

 

The seven year itch. It could be.

She told me she would call me to visit me at other of my work projects, who is close to where she starts her new project next week.

 

I think i will just wait, and then try to take things to a more personal level.

 

If she goes along with it, great.

If not, it's always great spending time with a beautiful and smart woman.

In my line of work, 99,9% of the persons are men 😆

 

One thing I might add, that intrigues me.

 

She went to visit me at a construction job in her hometown, who is very small. And where everyone knows everyone.

 

And she didn't seem worried about it in the slightest.

 

Some of the folks who were with me, who are from her town, even knew her and her family, and she knew them.

 

Guess that shows she had nothing to hide.

 

Which brings back the first question I posted on this thread: is she just being friendly and professional, or something else?

 

Anyway, if I was her boyfriend, I wouldn't find it very amusing that she talked alone to a coworker that she barely knew for hours, and then two days later go to where is working and spend more time with him.

 

One thing I know: when we were together, there wasn't a friends vibe with the two of us. There was some tension, some awkward moments, some blushing from her part...which led me think that she too was attracted to me.

 

When we said our goodbyes, she know kinda hesitated and waited for me to followup.

 

But what do i know. Everyone is different.

[JaggerJim]

Nothing. You said you were cheated on before? Correct?

 

She's bad news. I'm telling you!!!!!!!!!!!

[katrina1980]

 

The seven year itch. It could be.

 

Not only that, but her age when they started dating.

 

Rarely do people end up with the person they were with in high school.

 

It happens but rare.

 

I am not justifying her behavior, I agree with JJ, I do think she is bad news, assuming she does have a bf.

 

And if she doesn't why would she still have it posted on her FB?

 

Perhaps it was intentional, to see if you would check her FB and then ask her about the "boyfriend." Thus indicating YOUR interest.

 

Her response? "Oh, no I just forget to take it down." Probably untrue, but it worked cause now she is reassured that YOU like her.

 

I don't know, but again I'm kinda with JJ on this now.

 

But good luck!

[Jonesey0]

Nothing. You said you were cheated on before? Correct?

 

She's bad news. I'm telling you!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I wasn't cheated. We were together 14 years. Things had run its course. We both had changed.

She wanted to be single and party. Good riddance.

 

Im 100x better than I was two years ago.

Sometimes I think that i should thank her for ending it 😆

[Coldarmy13]

I feel like this is all just coming up with reasons to beat around the bush more. If you are looking for answers, you know where to find them.

[Sportster2005]

LOL, I missed this earlier.

 

Yeah I think this would constitute a bit more than a "friendly gesture". Or even "flirting."

 

Hell, that is an outright proposition!!

 

Do women really say this to you, when they first meet you?

 

Rhetorical (and silly) question, I am sure they do!

 

lol, no it's a line from a movie. Can't remember which one. And I think she says 'kiss' or 'take'.

 

I walked up to the bar in a local cabaret. I was standing at the bar, there was a gal seated on a bar stool next to me. She started to run her toe up and down the inside of my leg. I turned around. Horniest grin I've ever seen. Not at all attractive. I was polite. I asked her what she did. She said she was a stripper and starred in porn movies. I thought it would be cool to meet a stripper and porn star. This one wasn't the one. She said she stripped way up North in small isolated areas. That explained a lot. My friend walked by. I introduced then. That was probably 30 years ago. He still doesn't talk to me.

[Jonesey0]

Well, final update on this.

No contact from her or myself since the Christmas texts.

Sent her a Facebook friend request two days ago, she hasn't accepted yet so i canceled it.

And found out yesterday that she indeed has a boyfriend.

 

Loved the time I spent with her nonetheless.

Thank you all for the input.

Maybe next time things will go my way!

[ChaY303]

OH i think you should go for it ! maybe ask her out for dinner or something! seems she is very interested in you ( :

[Jonesey0]

A little update on this.

 

We havent evolved into anything since the last time i posted.

At our company, we now have a weekly gathering for the project managers, which we both attend.

So, we see eachother every week now.

She smiles alot at me when she sees me, sometimes greeets me two or three times 😄

I notice she reacts differently to me as opposed to all my other colleagues. She looks kindy shy and awkward.

Everytime i talk at these meetings i notice she is always looking straight at me, hearing what im saying.

 

Last week, there were only a couple or people at the meeting, and afterwards i went to get some coffee.

I was alone, she walked by the hall, stopped, and came straight at me, saying she wanted some coffee.

I neves saw her drinking coffee at our company.

I took the lead, served her the coffee, and we talked for about 20 minutes.

I eventually ended it, because we were at our workplace, where were supposed to...work.

But i got the feeling she was willing to keep it going.

 

In the meanwhile, she keeps popping on my facebook, whether as people you may know, also in the search box if i type her initial her name is the first to show.

We are not facebook friends, i only saw her profile one time months ago, and i dont have my phone number associated to my account.

 

So, i really Just have two questions:

1. Is she into me?

2. Due to me not acting on my interest, can she think im not interested?

 

Thanks!

[Wiseman2]

Friend her on fb, then you can start a general convo outside of work. Next time ask to go to lunch, a casual work lunch. And get a better feel for things than "she looked at me at a meeting".

she keeps popping on my facebook,

We are not facebook friends, i only saw her profile one time months ago, and i dont have my phone number associated to my account.

[Jonesey0]

An update on this thread.

Since last week, she was assigned to work in the same place i work.

We talked everyday, since we get along very well.

I was told by i friend she ended her 7 year relationship one year ago, which was surpriising to me.

The next day i asked her to have lunch with me, and we set a date to two days later.

It went great, and i told her we should have dinner in the city where we live next week, apart from our work enviroment.

She agreed, and said that after her holidays (this week) we would plan it.

I sent her text that night, saying i really liked to Be with her, wishing her good holidays.

She tested back, saying that when she comes back we would make arrangements to get together again.

 

So, whats your input?

Is she really interested? I think i really like her 😊

What should i do next? Romantic dinner and go for the kiss?

[bbogdanov]

Man, I think you are lucky Go get this girl and make her happy.

[zippitt]

I read this whole thread and I have to say from the get go it seemed this girl was interested. My guess was she was already thinking about leaving her BF or was having issues, you were a distraction at the time. While Sporster2005 was jaded by a previous experience and tried to educate you with what he learned, I feel he was also mislead.

 

You see, in my experience many people will flirt, or give off little signals, sometimes big ones, but in many cases it's just fun or exciting for people, who knows their true motivations, but if their intent isn't to get involved with someone and they get called out they back peddle. It doesn't mean there wasn't some sort of interest there no matter how small, people don't typically flirt with people they are not attracted to or don't like, unless they are just mean people, in your case the signals seemed pretty glaring to me, and at this point things have worked in your favor because there no longer is a boyfriend, there isn't anything to lose.

 

If I your were in your position I would make a move now, ask her to dinner, something a little more intimate, you should be able to feel it out from there. The last thing you want to do is watch someone else come out of no where and start dating her, you would be beating yourself up always wondering, you kind have been doing that already for the last year. Do it now, you are young, if it turns out there was no interest you have plenty of time to move on and be happy and eventually bump into someone else, stop wasting time and stop doubting things, you will never know until your try.

[Jonesey0]

When we first met at the christmas party, she was already single. They broke up last year, in may.

 

I assumed she had a boyfriend because of old facebook photos. I was wrong, and wasted six months to ask her out.

[zippitt]

When we first met at the christmas party, she was already single. They broke up last year, in may.

 

I assumed she had a boyfriend because of old facebook photos. I was wrong, and wasted six months to ask her out.

Regardless, you need to ask her out for dinner or something, stop the wondering, find out and move on, let us know how this plays out.

[Hopefulguy]

The last thing you want to do is watch someone else come out of no where and start dating her, you would be beating yourself up always wondering,

 

I've been following this thread with great interest and curiosity. That pretty much sums it up.

[Jonesey0]

Well, she came back from holidays on Monday and when i entered the office on Monday to get coffee she joined me almost instantly.

 

We chatted about 15 minutes about her holidays, i flirted a bit saying she was tanned and looking good, then sair goodbye and went to work.

 

After lunch, i was smoking outside when she arrived and we talked for some 30 minutes more. All personal stuff, nothing regarding work.

All the time we were talking i was thinking of asking her for dinner this week, but didnt say nothing.

Then, as we were entering our work place, and with other people approaching, i asked her ir she wanted to do something this week (i know, im stupid).

She told me she would see how her week goes, and will get back at me to arrange something.

Todas i was Out of office for the whole day, and only saw her when she was leaving and i was arriving late in the afternoon, and she said goodbye and gave me a really big smile (there were other colleagues near us).

 

So, dating experts, i really ask for your help, because im really lost in what i should do.

And um freaking Out about it, which Inst normal for me.

After we had our lunch-date i texted her saying i really liked to be with her. So she knows im interested.

So why am i still doubting if shes into me?

Women are really hard to read!

[zippitt]

Well first off, it's only Tuesday, so if we are talking about this week you need to be patient and see if she gets back to on it, play it cool, if she doesn't get back to you by the weekend just keep yourself busy, act like it was no big deal. You will have to stop focusing on her, maybe try online dating or something, you need distractions or your going to keep focusing on little details. If you talk at work keep the conversations as it has been, you have already laid it on the line. I will say the whole "I really like to be with her" may have been a bit strong, early on with interests this could scare them away, although you two have a bit of history so it could work in your favor, but I wouldn't say things like this until you have gone on a few meaningful one on one dates and she doesn't seem to get it, usually it will be clear to her after a few dates that you want to be with her without saying it.

[mustlovedogs]

It annoys me when men say women are hard to read. She's probably thinking the same thing - "why isn't he asking me out?"

[The411]

If you still need help read below

 

 

 

 

 

1. Quit smoking. It's a terrible habit that is a colossal waste of money.

2. You are insanely lucky that this girl is still interested but she's beginning to lose patience with you.

3. For a first date I'd recommend a wine bar or something like minature golf/bowling, amusement park or anything where you can involve alcohol or be active or both. Think about the logistics in terms of the days that are best for you and times etc.

4. On Monday/Tuesday call/see her and ask her what her schedule looks like for the week. She'll either tell you (good) and you proceed to set a date by saying let's meet up/ or I'll pick you up at x time at y place. Usually I recommend meeting up because women aren't always comfortable with guys knowing where they live. In this case you might have enough trust to pick her up. However, if she says I'll let you know (not good) leave her be and wait.

5. Never do a first date with a movie, lunch, or dinner. Now you can have dinner on a first date, but it should never be expected or anticipated.

[Jonesey0]

Busy week for the both of us, havent talked to her since monday.

Only saw her two of three times the entire week, just passing by eachother in our workplace.

The thing that bothers me is that we don't have any communication outside of work - texting, calling, weren't not even Facebook friends.

 

Just think I will let some time pass, and see if she comes to me.

I made it clear i was interested, she didn't seem scared by it, so I will just wait for her to reach out.

[zippitt]

The thing that bothers me is that we don't have any communication outside of work - texting, calling, weren't not even Facebook friends.

So what is stopping you from bridging these gaps? It would seem to me being Facebook friends would be an obvious start, all my coworkers friend each other, it's a pretty benign process.

[Jonesey0]

Well, an update on the last two weeks.

Since then, we had lunch two times - first time invited her and two days later she invited me. Both went great.

In our last lunch we made plans to go see a movie, i picked her up, we were both all dressed up...and the night sucked. For both.

We were both nervous, the movie was too loud, we didn't have to time to grab dinner because of schedule.

We hardly talked during the movie, because it was so damn loud.

I noticed she was nervous, always messing with her hands, her phone, her purse.

I took her home, we talked all the way through about the movie, she then said goodbye, leaned in and gave me two kisses on the cheek.

When I got home I texted her saying the movie sucked..but the company was great, and she texted back.

But I noticed both of us were uncomfortable with the the whole night.

We have been texting very sporadically, mainly to set the dates and arrangements.

When I text her besides that, on weekends, she takes a long time to text back. That is a pattern I already noticed, because since i met her, even when I sent her happy holidays and happy texts, she took hours to text back.

 

After the movie, we continue to talk normally, and she always comes to me, and is very friendly.

Then yesterday, I was arriving work and she came to me. Asked how was the weekend, always smiling. Then an hour later I was grabbing coffee, she came again to me, more talk, more banter, more smiles.

I then asked if she wanted to out with me that night, and she said that it wasnt the best day, she had to go shopping (seriously?). So, she turned me down.

 

An hour later, she comes again, talking about a problem with her computer, more talk, more smiles, etc.

I'm at a loss.

Can't read this situation.

We went on four dates, she was all keen on going, they went great (besides the movie one), she keeps on talking and coming to me (not like she's avoiding me), but I still can't read her interest level.

 

Any help? I'm completely lost here.

Thanks.

[mustlovedogs]

Somewhat unrelated but why would you expect to talk during a movie?

 

If she's still going out with you, she's interested. Her nerves may be hiding that some

[Jonesey0]

Somewhat unrelated but why would you expect to talk during a movie?

 

If she's still going out with you, she's interested. Her nerves may be hiding that some

 

I think I went to the movie with her with too many expectations. First kiss, some more intimate conversation.

Quickly realized that going to the movies isn't really the best idea for that. And I was really pissed off with myself when I got home.

She said to me two days later that the movie wasn't that great, but at least it was so noisy that it kept us awake. Was that a dig at me?

Also, after the movie ended, she offered to go with me to eat something, but that she didn't want nothing for her. I said that it wasn't necessary, since I thought it would be awkward for her to be there just seeing me eat alone.