sweetooth Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 So I have been dating my boyfriend a few months now. I want to say it started pretty intense, yet felt right at that time. For example, I have met his parents, gone away on vacation with his family, he said those 3 words to me while I did not reciprocate (but was happy as I could see myself really falling for him). However...after our trip, I have not really been excited to see him. At first I thought it was my depression and anxiety, but it seems directly related to him now. When we are to hang out, I do not feel excited, and my stomach are in knots. I just don't understand how my feelings could do a 180? I no longer crave sex with him and I Am to spend Christmas with his family. Could it be because we were friends first and I was not initially attracted to him? It makes me sad. I am also going through a lot big transitions right now, such as being promoted in my job and more schooling. Thanks. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 That's an awful lot of ground to cover, with it being only a few months in. A healthy relationship starts out slowly, and takes time to build. Maybe you jumped in too fast? Link to comment
sweetooth Posted December 24, 2010 Author Share Posted December 24, 2010 That is what I am thinking now....And the only way I see out, is OUT. I don't know if we could even dial it back? We have only been seeing each other 1-2 times a week. He wants to spend more now I think but I just cringe at that thought. Link to comment
CSLX9 Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 Do you even know him that well? Because it tends to be that you are excited for the first few months maybe, then it goes downhill almost, if you haven't gotten to know his personality and/or other traits, which you can find attractive, when the initial allure has worn off. Link to comment
sweetooth Posted December 24, 2010 Author Share Posted December 24, 2010 Well we were actually acquaintances before we started dating as I was not initially attracted to him. He does have attractive qualities and he is a good guy, so I don't know why I feel this way. To be honest, I think what also enhanced these feelings is that I was out at a bar about a week ago, which I knew was a mistake right away. I had gone with a couple of guys and was blatantly hit on. Normally I say I have a boyfriend but this time I did not speak up...I knew I made a mistake of going so I did not stay long at all. Link to comment
CSLX9 Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 Okay. Well many things come in waves, if you can say that. So it would be a shame, in some regards, if you let go of him now, because you don't feel excitement, since you may do so later on. That's part of a relationship, weathering those ''bad times''. Link to comment
addictedblue Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 Seems like you just aren't physically attracted to him to me. Link to comment
sweetooth Posted December 25, 2010 Author Share Posted December 25, 2010 That is possible...Seeing as I don't crave him sexually, and since I did not find him attractive initially... Link to comment
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