allright well all my friends have had sex and lemme tell u why the firstime always hurts, its becasue girls alwasy have to be on the bottom the first time or the first few.i bet if u ask all ur friends if they were on the bottom the first time, they would answer with a yyes. now as scary as being on top would be, it has a couple positvies. it hurts half as bad, and guys are turned on bigtime by girls that are aggressive i guess u could say be casue if ur crying hes not gonna be turned on. and u dont need to use lubrication becasue if ur a virgin ur bodys gonna have you coverd in that department. the only thing u would need a lube for was cuz it has spericide which increses the precentages of sperm killed if any would happen to leak out of the condom. dont liten to the fool who posted the reply above me he or she dont know wehat there talking about. no offense kid