you need to stop... you taking value off yourself and not giving yourself value...this gurl is playing wit you and you letting her...you need to stop dating her and going out wit her. it seems to me like she only wants you for intimacy she is confused, forget tat finding herself b.s...she is not sure what sex she preffers and in case her "im looking for myself" fails shell have you to fall back on... she has you around her pinky and does as she pleases wit you...you need to find a bangin,STABLE, gurl tat dont give you so much stress. she dont love you or care for you, cause if she did she wont be putting you thu all this...she realizes this is hurting you but still does it...im telling you.... she wasting your time ...value yourself and respect yourself and let her go...dont have any contact wit her...you cannot be her friend cause shell try to get on you...she wants to hurt you by telling you tat she going out wit this gurl friday and lettign you know bout her dates... find someone stable and not confused and tat values you as a man and respects you...forget abot tat gurl