To answer your first question we're both 26 years old. And yes I am an OUT and PROUD lesbian. I have told everyone who is important to me and I am no ashamed of who I love. So yes, this is very painful for me because I am Hiding for her. I hate not being able to touch her because "Oh no! Someone might see!" And I hateeeeeeeeeeee it. How can I be with some one who is ashamed of me or what we have? Idk....she hasnt always been like this. When we first got together she didnt care who saw us of if we were holding hands or something in public, it seems to be getting worse. I think your right, I should give her time to figure her own stuff out. I just dont want to lose her, I know everyone says that, but she has become such a HUGE part of my life. She is my girlfriend, my lover, and my best friend. How do I give her time away from me when I need her so much? I cant be selfish and I know it, but its just so hard. But youre right, its better for her to take time and realise if this is a "phase" or whatever before she breaks my heart completely. Whatda u think??