thanx i know all that and ive heard it all but i guess iwasnt as detailed as i shouldve been. the guy shes with has incorporated her with all his friends and shes worried that if she leaves him she would loose all that. she has told me so many time that she wants to i just think that she doesnt know how to do it. and another thing, her family doesnt like him her friends dont like him, all i hear is how much they want me back in the picture and it hurts to see him there when im there, and she tells me to wait till he leaves so we can spend time with each other, i dont get it and i just wanna know what her plan is if there are any women out there who can help with her thought process it would be nice