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ECHO ^^^

Bless you, TS, please keep it up! We are in the bleachers cheering for you bigtime!

From someone who never had a baby from their abdomen, I can tell you the above suggestion made me feel amazing, like if my partner did that (no matter the situation) I would be good. thank you lo.

^^^ this. Way better than I could have said it 😉 From your first post wherein he closed his laptop, I thought to myself: Hmmm... if a bf of mine did that what would i think? Run as fast as you can! This dude is up to no good.

I don't know where our souls go after this mortal coil, but a huge fantasy I have is that when I die I will get to go to the bridge and play with all my former pets at one time. Call me crazy, but that alone would cause me to die of happiness IMMEDIATELY if not sooner!!! <3<3<3

Haha limichelle! definition of a knuckle-dragger! women that like above also like to be clubbed over the head and dragged behind the bushes because that's the plat du jour of a knuckle-dragger... all day, every day 😉 OP, there are women around who value your insides more than your outsides, have some compassion for us! Get real with yourself about your good qualities - you surely have many - and amplify those, be proud of those. Start working on where you can improve or dial down, specifically with your negative outlook (and inlook) and whatever else you find you don't like about yourself while you're in there digging around. Good luck my dear.

Writing about this brought back so many memories... and happy ones 🙂 I went to the Lap of Love website and cruised around after my last post. They have new content, videos, etc. that look very helpful. The way they speak about the decision is *so* compassionate and understanding. BTW I cried every time I posted in this thread - not in a bad way either - very beautiful memories of my past fur babies. Thanks for bringing this out for us to chat on. Best of luck in your decision, whatever and whenever that may be. Your darling kitty is very lucky to have you, and vice versa.

^^^ this is spot on

reinventmyself, I am firmly convinced our beloved pets are the universe's way to teach us about real love... and loss. In addition to your regular vet's opinion and your own mind and heart, you can go to Lap of Love Veterinary Hospice web page. They have a whole section on Quality of Life - questionnaires, lists, etc. that can help point you in the right direction, or at least give you some criteria to assist you in knowing if / when the time is right. Several years back, one of our dogs was diagnosed with tumors in his lungs and the vet advised against surgery (too invasive at his advanced age). He said when he picks breathing over food you know it's time. Also he mentioned Lap of Love. About two weeks later, the puppers stopped eating. He suddenly started doing things he never did before (I called it "denning") - going under our bed, into our closet. He put his face in the back corner of the closet and would not look at us. When he did it was with sadness. The "twinkling light" was gone from his eyes and we could tell he was asking us to let him go home...

Thanks y'all, just trying to think ahead so if/when it becomes likely I have more of a plan. I was married right before the last epidemic so did not experience the testing & "protective gear" as part of dating and intimate relations.

K so I am approaching 60, newly single and totes not up to date on relations. What is the current protocol? Do you go get tested before the intimacy? Please give suggestions. I've noticed that post onanism I am ready for intimacy, but how do I suggest the guy satisfy me first so we don't have to rely on artificial lubrication? Signed, dried up old lady who could use some tips 😉

Ooh Andrina nailed it! ^^^ and a lot of the other posters. You are absolutely yearning for what you really desire for yourself. Don't settle girl, you don't have to. Plenty of fish in the sea. Concentrate on you, focus on your life and times and fitness and health and family/friend relationships, and when you are not looking, the ONE or multiple ONES will show up for you!

adviceplease2, thank you so much for trying to give back to this community <3<3<3

that old saw holds true, "just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean I can't look at the menu" applies to both genders 😉 you didn't go blind, by criminy. cut yourself some slack and you can even go home and laugh about it. main thing is, if you want to act on those thoughts, you need to go sit your honey down and discuss. i remember when i was a newlywed and i sat next to this gorgeous belgian dude in first class and he accidentally fell asleep on my shoulder (!) he smelled good, i looked at his mouth and yes, it did cross my mind to kiss him but of course i refrained. to me, because we had that type of relationship where we had already agreed we make the rules: it was funny to go home and tell the story to husband. he, secure man that he was/is, had a belly laugh with me. would not have been nearly so funny if i actually kissed a freakin' stranger on a plane...

I got one ready made from the factory at age 5, a little walking talking miracle that was the most amazing girl - if I had ordered her from a catalog I couldn't have done better 😉 She is 30-something now!

^^ this. Thanks DancingFool, that is exactly what I thought when I read the OP story

Since 2K7, came her for parenting advice and have been an irregular lurker ever since. Thanks to all the wonderful posters who help on a daily basis (or an irregular basis, lol). Love y'all! <3<3<3

I would add to what catfeeder said, no matter what don't be too thirsty. It's a turnoff for both guys and girls and same sex potential partners. No criticism, I did the same thing recently (me too thirsty) 🙂 good luck

Let's just imagine... one of us has a pilot's license. And a plane.

Dear PointyPancake, I am sad you are feeling wronged. I hope you can find happiness with your status.

Thanks for asking, Rose Mosse. Oh I'm sure we could have worked something out. The main thing was, first meeting neutral, then I went to see him twice. I needed some indication of his interest so I tasked him with a trip to see me (dinner #4). And he did not come or even notify me that he couldn't make it, I had to ping him to find out he wasn't coming. That doesn't seem like interest to me. We are both people with means so $ would not have been a deterrent.

Ha! Bolt, are you a fortune teller? This past Saturday was the target for date #4. He messaged me yesterday (Sunday) with some new contact information, acting like he didn't get kicked to the curb last week (maybe I should have written byeeee instead of bye). I let him know I would not need his new contact info as he flunked the acid test. Better luck next time. My instincts tell me he's in a relationship and I think I dodged a bullet on this one... thank goodness I did not succumb to his charms. Thank you ALL for your input!!! <3<3<3 PS: I blocked him on my iPhone but does that block texts too? Not sure about that one.

I sure wouldn't want to marry a guy I'd have to "pressure" into it, nor would I marry a guy if I were still (even) considering another. That is just WRONG. This person has no genuine love going on.

Words=cheap, easy, flimsy Action/deeds=meaning, weight, value