tbear1276

I guess.. can someone give me an idea of how to approach this subject? Do I wait until something like this happens again? If I just bring it up, out of the blue, he’ll just be like “what?? What are you talking about, I’m not talking to anyone”. The thing is, he can hear me walk to his office. So it’s very rare that he still has anything left on his screen whenever I get in there. He has 3 different monitors. So he just closes one out.

Okay okay, I changed information around for privacy reasons. I should have thought ahead about how that would look real bad lol. We met when I was 18, my first semester of college. He is 8+ years older than me. I work, and I’m in university. He’s always been very supportive with all of it.

We’ve been together for a few years. Things we’re fine before recently. He’s always treated me very well. I’ve never questioned him before this.

It’s a girl he used to play online games with. I honestly don’t know about the porn. Nothing that I’ve noticed. But he’s home often without me.

I recently moved in with him. His dad passed away a month or so ago, and I had been staying here a lot whenever he was gone taking care of him. Things were okay, for a week or so after that. I told him that I felt like he had closed up. And I felt like things were weird. He told me he was sorry, and that maybe he was just having a hard time handling things. But things would get better once we got back to our normal routine. We’re back to it. Nothings changed. I’m not a monster. If it’s just a thing, that I need to wait out, I can do that. But how long do I let it go? He’s 28, I’m 20. We’ve had sex a few times since things have been like this. It’s felt very forced. Like.. he thinks I need it and is trying to make me happy even if he doesn’t.

This is my first time posting on here, and I don’t even know where to begin. We’ve been together for 5 years. He’s never given me any reason to not trust him. He’s a good guy. I just… I can’t shake this feeling that something is off. Most recently, I walked into the room to ask him a question and he was doing something on the computer. I noticed he was talking to some girl I didn’t recognize the name. He noticed I was looking and quickly closed out of it. All I could make out of the conversation was her asking him if he wanted to chat on the phone. I confronted him, and asked him who that was. He said no one. I obviously got upset, and explained what I just said. He told me it was an old friend, and they had been chatting a bunch, and she just thought it would be easier if they talked on the phone. But he didn’t call her. I just left the room at this point. I cried, he knew I was really upset. After the fact, he offered to let me look through the messages. He promised it wasn’t anything inappropriate and she really was just a friend. But now.. It seems every time I walk into the room now, he closes out whatever or whoever he’s talking to. I can hear his keyboard before walking in there, I know he’s typing. I’ve made comments about him closing out of things and he kind of just brushes me off as if I’m crazy. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to be this crazy girlfriend constantly questioning him. When I try to have a conversation with him about it, he just accuses me of not trusting him. I don’t think he would cheat on me, honestly. I’ve been with plenty of cheaters in my life. But I feel like he’s not being completely honest with me.