JBAKER2009

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. I could understand if I had like took screenshots of the emails during our relationship to look back on or if she 'caught' me looking at them for some sort of pleasure, but that's not what happened. Lol that's a lot of emails! The reason I do not want to delete mass emails is because something in there might be important, my memory is so bad I often email myself to help remind my self of things. The whole reason this happened is because I had to look back at previous emails for information. If this would of happened before and I deleted all my emails, it would have been very hard for me to find the dates and grades I got in school. I wouldn't know where to start.

I didn't react well when this happened, and yes, I could of handled it better, but in the days after I have spoken to her and told her that I understand that seeing those emails hurt her and I apologized for that happening and that was never my intention. She did know, about the potential proposal as we had spoken about it a week to two before.

That is a very good point, we have not thought about that. To be honest, even I don't know the full extent of what happened with her ex's, she has only told me a few things but I think there is a lot more she hasn't told me and I don't want to drag that pain back up. If this does resolve, I will definitely look in to that, thank you.

I am going to hold off for now, I was so close to buying a ring. Was in the jewelers on Saturday, and this happened on Tuesday. In 6 years this is our first big argument. She has never threatened to leave before or ever questioned the trust between us.

I appreciated the time you have taken to read and respond. I know her ex's fu**ed her up badly emotionally and mentally, but we have been solid! We were talking about getting married and all kinds just before this happened.

I appreciated the time you have taken to read and respond. We met online also and we both deleted the app we used to meet each other and have never had any trust issues. I think she honestly thought I would back down, and go through my emails, because of her threat to leave over it. I think she regretting saying that. It's still very early and feelings are rough right now.

I appreciate the time you have taken to read and respond. I agree, I didn't act correct when this happened and immediately became defensive because of the way she acted to something that happened before I met her. From the way she was talking, she was talking as if I have actively been hiding this from her even though I told her I had not. I even said to her, 'If I am hiding this from you, on purpose, why would I look through my emails with you there looking at them with me?' Doesn't make sense. Our relationship to this point has been solid, we have been talking about getting married and the day before this happened I was in a jewelry shop looking at wedding and engagement rings. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and she has said she wants to spend hers with me. I know her ex/ex's have been absolutely horrid and she can't let that go. I helped her a lot in the beginning because of how f**ked her ex's had messed her life up, abusive and mentally f**king with her, but I have done nothing to her to make her not trust me.

Back in 2013 I was sleeping with a woman and during that time we had exchanged emails that contained sexual images of each other along with sex talk/sexting, we did this throughout 2013 and eventually went our separate ways in 2013. I never deleted those original emails and over the years after completely forgot about them and have not looked at them or seen them since. Fast forward to 2016, I meet my current girlfriend, and we have now been together for 6 years and have been living together for just over a month and I started to look for a new job. So, while applying for jobs online, I needed to submit my education history and since I have been with my current employer for 10 years, I don't recall what grades I got in school or the years in which I got them... So, I look in my emails for a CV I have sent previously which I know has this information on, and while looking for the CV, these emails, and images from 2013 pop up in the list of emails as I am looking, and my girlfriend sees these emails and at first is chilled and is curious as to what they are. As soon as I seen the emails it all came flooding back and I remembered what they were, and I could see that she was really upset that I had them and started asking why have I kept them for 6 years (the length of our relationship). I said I had completely forgot about them as they were sent in 2013, 3 years before I met her and have never seen them since 2013. She asked me to delete them, and I agreed to do so, but now she wants me to go through ALL my emails from before we met as I don’t know if anymore emails of that sort are in there. I don’t think there are anymore like that, but I can’t be 100% sure. I told her no, am not going to go through 9,390 emails to look for some emails that may or may not be there from before when I met her. I told her she could look through them if she wants to but am not going to waste my time in doing so. She initially agreed to do this but then said she didn’t want to and that I should do it. Now she is saying if I don’t go through the email she is going to move out and end the relationship. Any advice or questions would be grateful!