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  1. NCGoodfella
    Day 5 I'm with you CB for the first time I am looking forward to the day, don't know why, yeah it will probably change too. I do have to see her at work so we will see I guess. I am sure I will post something tonight after work.
  2. NCGoodfella
    Wow how have I missed this post! I am on Day 4 and last night was the roughest for me today I have been busy with my kids at the pool. I am getting a little tired and I can almost feel the miserable feelings around the corner. So is this the proper place to tell my story or is this just the update post line?
  3. NCGoodfella
    I have come back to this post so many times, THANK YOU FOR POSTING IT! But with NC it is so hard when you have to see the person at work everyday. I hope to make it through today and let her go home for the weekend (where she is never to speak of me) and hope I feel better come Monday. Thanks again.
  4. NCGoodfella
    Sooo any advice, should I try to stick this out or cut my losses and run....she is so worth the wait but can I wait through all this pain is the problem.
  5. NCGoodfella
    I have not sent her a text first since Sunday, all the calls, texts and all have been made by her. I miss her dearly and it is tough watching her go by, I know she still cares but I really feel she is done with him, she just gets an incredible amount of pressure from her family to be with him.
  6. NCGoodfella
    OK, I have been posting about my ex/co-worker here for the last week. I tried a little NC over the weekend and I sent her a text on Sunday afternoon....Late Sunday I got a I miss u 2 back from her. Monday at work, in the hallway I try to smile and walk by her, she calls me we talk some. Nothing too heavy just she misses me making her laugh. She texts me a ton that day and calls 3 times 1 time on the way home from work where we talk for almost 2 hours. Tuesday same deal except conversation gets a little heavy, I ask her if she is going back to her ex, she says no but her parents invited him to Thanksgiving and he is going. She says she wants nothing to do with him but feels bad because he moved here for her and has nowhere else to go and I know he is still hanging on to her. She calls me later that day and tells me she left something at my place she needed for the next day for our company Turkey Day Celebration..I ask her if she would like for me to drop if off on her doorstep before she gets home but it ends up she comes over to get it. Her schedule is a couple of hours off of mine so I get home get her stuff together and leave it downstairs for her with the door unlock, I fell asleep. Next thing I know she is next to me and we end up kissing, we talk for about an hour, she says she needs a friend right now, I am trying to be understanding but this all hurts so bad. We give a small kiss at the door when she leaves, we both smile. She wanted me to tall her this morning to go do something with me, it is something I have been waiting to do for years. I don't think I will call her, actually she already doesn't have the time so. All advice is welcome, she has always been honest with me and I see no reason for this woman to lie, I am so damn confused.
  7. NCGoodfella
    Been up, have had the urge to but I haven't responded. I know she is probably shocked I haven't...I do have to see her at work today so we will see how it goes.
  8. NCGoodfella
    OK, she just now text back "miss u 2" it's been how many hours??? But be a little proud of me group all the hell I went through this weekend I am not responding or calling, going to bed here in a little.
  9. NCGoodfella
    Well, I know now....sent a text and no response....I don't understand what happened to us is what hurts the most. At least I know now, I am not the stalker type so that was the last time, it is over. This hurts like nothing I ever felt.
  10. NCGoodfella
    Only 1 time before and she told me it meant the world to her, but that was months ago. I am just confused...and you are right if she doesn't miss me it would hurt but at least I would know. Our relationship was perfect until this Tuesday, again...confused.
  11. NCGoodfella
    I guess this is why I am on here...my best friends are telling me to text her, saying "you are miserable and you guys got back together before by doing that" and "if she doesn't text back you know where you are...done...if she does well you have hope" Does this make sense or is they totally off???
  12. NCGoodfella
    I so want to send one, it has only been a few days of NC but I just want to say a simple miss ya! I mean she couldn't explain why we are done, I told her I would give space but this is killing me and I do have to see her at work tomorrow. How much would it hurt? All the times in the past I went to her to "break the ice" why should this time be different, maybe that is what she is waiting for?
  13. NCGoodfella
    Drumgod, Simply put that was exactly what I needed to hear tonight, I can't sleep or eat and don't want to go out at all. I know where she is and it is killing me right now. If I told you it was not getting to me I would be a liar. Your post helped a lot, amazing sometimes you need to look at things in a different light. I miss her so but thanks for the great words of advice, I need to try and follow them.
  14. NCGoodfella
    I do have to go into where she is time to time, about 5-6 times a day at least. Thing is I tried this the first day and I could not resist she just sat there and stared at me the whole time. She is the one that broke this off wanting space. As hard as it is (almost impossible, I love her so) I am just trying to give her just that ](*,)
  15. NCGoodfella
    How exactly do you NC when you are co-workers?
  16. NCGoodfella
    Well as I said in earlier posts, I could not figure out what went wrong...until talking with a couple of friends it kind of hit us in the head like a ton of bricks. I have been looking for an excuse why this happened because she tells me she loves me still, is still attracted to me and she actually wants to be around me at work because that gives us time together....so here my theory goes and pleasse excuse the length of this: Another co-worker had originally liked me, we just never hit if off for whater reason we will call her Kat and we all used to go out together but my ex showed interest in me and we started a fantastic ralationship. A couple of weeks ago something tragic happened to Kat to someone close to her...then she breaks up with her long time bf last week. Like I said earlier my gf and I had one of the best weekends to date last weekend. Monday we had a small agument right before work and we talked and fixed it....my gf and Kat work together all day mind you. She comes home that night and wants to know what is going on this weekend and asks if Kat can come with us...which is fine with me, I say OK, no problem at all. Week goes on and something changed she needs space, needs to be more independent...we break up, she tells me she loves me and cares and is still attracted to me she just needs to be on her own she doesn't want to date anyone. Friday she is out with the girls, Saturday she is cooking with the girls and then going out, expect drunk dialing...hasn't happened yet. Nothing went wrong, we really loved each other. Did we suffocate each other? Can she really just not love me anymore? Was is an easy let down? Can I blame the other friend or making this a competition? Is she just not ready for this? She can have her space, I will give it.
  17. NCGoodfella
    Well, here I am 2 in the morning missing the ex. Everything is so fresh and new that it is still not letting me sleep a wink. Monday will have to be the first day I actually have to see her (since we work together) since our terrible morning on Friday. I took Friday off so any advice on how to handle this? I mean it is killing me she is going out this weekend and she warned me that she might drunk dial me.....all this has done has kept me up to see if my damn phone rings...it hasn't. I just want to be prepared on what to expect and how to react.
  18. NCGoodfella
    Thanks Dizzy, I actually went out ALONE and just spent some time thinking about everything, I am not going to lie and tell you I enjoyed it but it was much needed. I have always been the guy everyone goes to for comfort but when it is my turn nobody is around. Well, I am just dreading Monday, I doubt I will hear from the co-worker/ex gf until then. I was actually expecting her to call when I wasn't at work today but nothing yet.....I am not going to answer anyhow it would have been nice though for her to show some concern.
  19. NCGoodfella
    Wow being in the early stages of NC...uh less than a day...your story has given me some strength it seems. My ex, damn that sucks saying, told me she is going to go out with the girls tonight and already warned me of drunk dialing, so I guess I will get an early test. Thank you for your story and I hope to be where you are in the months ahead.
  20. NCGoodfella
    When it rains it pours.....it seems like my ex-wife just called crying that her and her bf are having problems....she wants to come by to talk to me about it....she has no idea of my week.....welcome to my soap opera. Should I call her back and turn her away? We have become pretty good friends but she does still have feeling towards me.
  21. NCGoodfella
    Problem being most of my friends are co-workers, she works there...after a terrible morning we had I decided not to go into work. I know it may seem like I am running from my problem butI look at it as getting a jump start on my NC. She told me she was going out with the girls the next 2 nights and that there was a high probability of drunk dialing, I mean * * *....how fair is that..but maybe after saying that she won't just get my expectations up. I just find myself lurking around here for now.
  22. NCGoodfella
    First off I feel I am a pretty good guy, good father, companion, have a decent job and I really feel like I have a lot to offer. That being said after a long marriage (10 years) that did not last I took time off and fell for a girl at work. I have posted in another area on here so I won't get winded about it. I am just so getting tired of getting dumped on, first the wife and now this girl who I probably felt more for in a short period of time than I ever did my wife. I found myself broken down all day today, no sleep, can't eat. I haven't felt this way since I found out my wife cheated on me. I know there is no way to speed heal but damn I am tired of crying....
  23. NCGoodfella
    Well, we spoke this morning. She told me she doesn't want me to wait for her and she needs to be independent. She said she had no idea how much she is hurting me and is sorry. I honestly don't think I cared for anyone as much as her....this is tough to cope with.
  24. NCGoodfella
    Thanks Keefy, will do since I have to go into the lab routinely.....unreal though had my first breakdown, you would think I would have a little more self control, it totally caught me off guard.
  25. NCGoodfella
    Wow I am in only hour 8 and I am beside myself....this is gonna be tough, being in a small work environment and both working 2nd shift is not going to help me....guess all of you will be seeing plenty of me on here.
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