audrey

yeah robo, i agree with you, i have to be realistic and step ground. actually i try to be realistic, but in a possitive way, cause even i could be pessimistic thinking maybe he's doing wrong just when he's not calling me in time, after that im very faithful to our LDR. i know sometimes im being childish, and everyone is sometimes. that's why i said it's funny, in my opinion i'm just afraid that if something happenes, it will take long to find out, but im getting the picture i have to take it easy and to not behave as a little girl.

when i think about this i laught the other day i was waiting for my bf's call like everyday around 7pm. time was passing by and no call at all. i was getting ancious and when it was already 10pm i started calling to his cellphone many times, maybe 10 or 15 times. he didnt anwsered so i was like crazy and crying cause of the bad feelings i get when this happenes(isnt common but when it does i get very worried) then he finally called and he said he was sorry he fell asleepy. gosh! he was just sleeping and i was making a big scene in front of my mom ](*,) i was very tired of crying and with a big headache, so i told him that it was okey and i wanted to better talk tomorrow cause i wasnt feeling good. he asked: aren't you feeling good cause i fell asleepy? i didnt know what to say, i just said no, but i needed to rest cause it was late. i dont know why i react the way but i think i have some reasons to do it. ummm, anyway i'd like to hear your advise, i think i have to be some carefree if this happenes.

hi joe, when i just started my LDR i wonder myself what i would do if i met someone closer. then , after some weeks my bf made me a request, to let him know by e-mail if i dediced to end the relationship to be with someone else. truly, i've never met another guy like him, and after his first come here to meet me, he asked me to forget about the e-mail, cuase he was so sure about me and i reply him the same. i think you must be happy to not be with her anymore, she showed she is not wothwhile to your efforts and not honest to become your future partner. i can imagine you're very hurting but eventually it will pass

thanks for your words they make feel better. see itsnt easy to not break down and cry when you have the one you love so far from you, i count the days in my calendar looking forward to seeing him. when i see a couple kissing on the streets i get sad too. i think i just have one thing to do, to continue and being strong. i dont want to get over him. if i cant live while he's far away and being my bf, maybe i'd die of sadness knowing that not even we are together in love.

thats really sweet to say your gf must feel very happy to have you. sometimes i wonder if my bf thinks sane way as you do. am i unfair to him for not appreciating all that he's doing for me? coming from so far away even knowing the risks in a far country and not knowing the language. doing a lot of effort to save the money for visiting me twice a year. invinting me to go to see his country and to meet his family. calling everyday to hear me. so many sweet things and i cant stop feeling down, i think im sick or something...how much unfair i am

a person who does care for you, will never ignore you, instead he would rather set the not available status at his msn to not be annoyed while chatting with you. cause of distance, he has to be the one who is searching for a way to keep touch, i know you love him but analize if he also does it to you, just think about this.

he's totally selfish!!! im sorry i say this but its what i think of him. you should think really carefuly if its good for you to continue with him. everyday my bf keeps in touch, even we both think that maybe it could have bad effects in our relation, we cant get the idea to not communicate. in LDRS, thats very important, you should tell him your need to hear him, at least that can keep hopes awake! but i can see he doesnt care at all. not calling you, no mailing...what's that???:S if i were you, i wouldnt believe that bull * * * * his cell is still at his friends house. if i were a guy and i dont have an easy way to call my gf, i would go and buy some crdit to call her with a public phone, or to go to an internet caffe, etc. i have done that for my bf when my internet failed and there werent a way to comunicate. sorry if i sound drastic, but dont let him hurt you. he doesnt deserve a girl like you.

im 20 years old, and i dont consider myself enough mature yet ;P maybe i need to get my ideas clear. thats right and i agree with you say about if things go wrong i can go back. but im sure it would be very painful, i can't even think how it would be if that happens later. anyway, thats what i would do if i notice he's only playing. i've already jumped... i hope not to fall hard

yes, you are right Angeleyez, but its being very hard for me, i see him twice a year. he will come in febrary, i'll have being waiting 7 months then. during all that time, i get feelings that makes me crazy, sometimes i say better i finish will all this, but for real thats the last thing i wanna do. i'll follow your advise, thats what im trying to do all the time, i dont see the day when all calls by the phone, waiting months and sad goodbyes at the airport finish and to leave all the sadness behind.

Almost 2 years and being engaged already, sometimes i wonder how it would be if my bf lived just some steps from me. the idea i got from my friends having a relationship with people they can see in their same hometown make it like just "im just seing what happens, or more experience". actually i dont think thats the way it has to be. i've only had one bf, and im still with him. when i accepted to be his gf, i was serious cause i knew a LDR werent not easy. anyway i did. he was always talking about future, and asked me if i would like to live in his country, and telling me that he wants a house and to have a family with me. i never talked about it, he always mentioned. now he's telling me that he's not worried about future plans, cuase he tryes to focus on tomorrow cuase you never know what could come, that you could die next day and all those plans were for nothing. frankly it scared a little, so i askd him what he means with that, and if he isnt thinking about our future tgether. he said that he sees future happily, being next to me where we have to be( not in a serious tune of voice) i know i shouldnt get worried for this but i do. what i have to think, is he still serious about us, or he's letting time and to see what happens??

you are very lucky its only around 10 hours away from you. my bf is in holland, and im in peru. he's my first bf too. and till now i dont regret for choosing this kind of relationship. many people could try to encourage you saying negatives things, that happened to me once in a while. it was my aunt telling me: how come you are so fresh while maybe he could be doing something bad? thats not making you streessed?... in that moment i breathed deeply and i told her that actually i could think about it, but im not going to make a whole storm in a glass of water. i could get feelings cuase of the distance, but the best thing to do is to keep them out of mind. same as many people with a LDR, im counting down the days, soon i'll see him and im sure in that moment i'll throw weird feeling away

i had big problems with my mom when she found out i was chatting with a guy by msn. i knew her worries were totally based in all the bad news on tv about cyber love. but i dont know why, i could really trusted him, not only cause the way we met(he saw my profile in the cyndi lauper fans page...not a page for looking for a date) but also cause he transmited a good feeling even the big distance between us. now we're engaged, he's coming to visit me twice a year and i've already met his family and his country. anyway, you have to be aware, you never know when its gonna be your fary tale story or a nightmare.

first at all, i have to accept that LDR is very complicated and i cant say if i'll make it or not, but im doing all my best to keep it good. looking ay many topics here, i think we arent the only ones feeling what we do, or passing throught a big trouble cause of circunstances. i wanna be hopefull, i know that's what my bf really wants from me. we have to be wise to to find out something will work or not. just think about all that you have gotten since you start a LDR. (not materials of course) but your goals and the way you change for good. im not mature enough for this, maybe thats true, but i like challenges and this one is the biggest i've got. dare yourself to make it

of course you mean it, i get what you mean, but maybe he's trying to make you smile cuase maybe you sounded some sad when you said i love you, i tell you this cause sometimes that happened to me too. something i have learned is to pay attention to all that he makes for me, for sure its so good when you hear him saying that back, but while he keeps calling you it means lots, he needs to hear you, who does it if he/she doesnt care for you ?? for sure he loves you as much as you do for him ;P

i talk everyday with my bf, and he's saying i love you many times, more than me i think and i like it. maybe you have to say exactly what you feel, express how much you miss him and you'd like to be with him, so then say with all your heart" i love you" he'll get it right, you meant it. but something important, dont do it much, its sweet of course, but let him wait for it, let him to be the one who makes you say those words;P if he likes it, he will have to say them to you.

there's no pain that last 100 years, not a body can resist it either. i have a similar case with my LDR. But i dont have to wait for 9 years, but 2. to be honest i hate the idea to wait, for me 2 years its alot! you can say: you exaggerate ...i do know, but i do. sometimes i want to take an airplane to holland and to be with him for a lifetime. not impossible but for sure difficult, i live in south america, peru. honestly, i hate distance and time, they kill me, thats why i feel sad, you maybe feel that too. i dont know what she thinks about it, but i think isnt good to keep a relationship in a long distance for so long.

there's no something else going on. im totally loyal, and no matter how sad i feel, i cant stop feeling love for him. but its like that, im very sentitive and during all the time i have to wait till he's here i cant help missing him. i dont know how to explain my feelings, it's quite difficult, even for me, i dont get why i feel down lately. i just can say that i dont want to end with him, instead im looking forward the day we'll be together 4ever. i'd like to heve him next to me to cheer me up, but its just not possible.

i must get the point he's serious, cuase of the things he has done for me, i didnt mention we are engaged, and he is coming twice a year to see me. for that i think im a silly(yeah, i think) he's very nice, but sometimes im afraid everytime he is only making jokes while we talk. i'd like him to be serious sometimes and to talk about our future like he used to do before. im being unfair to him... and i feel guilty for that, i should be possitive at this, he asked it many times. maybe im not good for this kind of relationship

yes, i think there are reasons, but for me those are silly...i dont know. for example today i told him about a plan i'd to do within a year. he didnt say somethng about it, so i mentioned i'd to hear what he thinks about it. he told me that its far still. he doesnt think about far plans, cuase he thinks you never know whats next. that scared me a little...

hi all, i just subcribed here cuase of i'd like to have some help, i have a long distance relationship with a guy from holland and i live in peru. now we have a relationship for 2 years. we talk everyday by phone. i know something is wrong with me, cuase i just feel sad, when im all alone i cry. i try to think what happened to me, cuase by his side, he's doing very good for me. sometimes when we talk, he notices im sad, but i say "girl's stuff". i feel very ancious and i cant entertaint myself even if im doing the things that used to make happy. i need to know why i feel like that, its very hard for me. audrey