ProChiller82

We really considered all options, especially the one of her being a language teacher. Those jobs are first of kind of rare and they don't get paid really well either because pretty much all of them are on a freelancer basis. Studying here is quite a story as well, since it'd have to be in english and for foreigners it's not really that easy to get into universities here. I'll make the big move once and for all when I'm all done here or even earlier if I get stationed over there. Plus after she has her masters she could probably go for an internship for a year or 2. I'm sure we can figure out something by then and both of us will have our careers. So what are your plans about England ?

Okay people, we put our heads together and came up with a plan B. That would put a definite end after 4 years with an average of 4-6 trips per year. The big thing about the big move is that only she could make it within that 10 year time frame since I'm in the military, so all I could do is request to get stationed overseas which would be like asking god to move a mountain out of your way. Those of you in uniform probably know what I'm talking about. You guys are right about the end-point in near sight, but I think as long as there is a certain feeling for the relationship and enough confidence that it'll work it can get you quite a ways. Thank you for all your comments so far, it's cool to see I'm not the only crazy one out there.

Hey everybody, I must say unfortunately I'm new here. I'm in an extreme long distance relationship since a little over a year now and until yesterday I was as happy with it as anyone could possibly be. My girlfriend is from America, I'm from Germany, so this goes around half the globe but believe it or not, in this past year we've seen each other for at least a week every 2 months, we talk on the phone almost every day, let alone emailing each other and writing messages. Next year we were planning on moving in together in Germany. However after researching job opportunities for my girlfriend we came to the conclusion that she would probably end up being a part time language teacher at most, whereas even before we met she was studying to be a college professor some day. So basically if she moved here she would give up her friends, family and career and she's really not the type of girl that could be a stay-home person and she likes to be financially independent, so that would be a high price and we would trade in the being-apart-from-each-other-part for the no-career,all friends gone and being dependent part. We could live off my money, we wouldn't be poor but also not exactly rich so we'd have a, let's call it limited lifestyle. Right now we cancelled our plans of moving in together, so she can go on to grad school on a scholarship in the US. I could still go see her whenever I get a leave (which is the reason why I'm kind of "stuck" to this side of the world for quite a few years), but since she would go live in a different town her costs for living would be higher and our every 2 month plan is probably not going to happen anymore either. So as you can probably imagine this has struck me quite bad, because within the last 48 hours the big finish line of us being together for good disappeared and as of now my whole relationship seems to take a completely different shape. We love each other and faith, trust, understanding and communication have never ever been problems. Is a strong basis for a long distance relationship enough to make it work forever ? Or am I too blind to realize it's time to let go ? You never know what happens in life but as of now we're looking at ridiculous 9 1/2 years! These are questions that run through my mind and that are logical but honestly I think those apply to couples that have problems in their relationship between themselves. To me that would mean I have to give up the person I love and that means the most to me and for that obvious reason I can't picture myself doing that. P.S.I don't even really know what kind of answers or comments I'm expecting here, I think I just kind of needed to vent. Thank you for reading this and if someone has an idea or a similar experience (like this happens to a lot of people) I'd really appreciate it