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We've talked about this, and well frankly I'd rather have her tell me that some guy flirted with her. I'm not too sure why - should I really need to know about this? I just thought being honest about such things is important. I know that she would want to know if any girls flirted with me. And I've told her, and she's able to handle it and move on. Should I not ask her to tell me then? Innately I know that some guy will come up to her and try to chat her up or ask if she's single. The problem lies in me, and why I get upset over it. I really wish that I didn't.

Heya Guys, Maybe you can help me get through feelings that I shouldn't be feeling. I'd really like some help, and maybe an indication if me and my significant other should go and see a relationship psychologist. Firstly, I love my girlfriend. There is no other person that I'd want to spend the rest of my life with. There is just something that I want to be able to fix within myself. I know I have a problem, and thats where I'd love you guys to help me with. My problem is that I'm overly protective, overly jealous and frankly I'm not sure how to deal with this. I find my girlfriend to be the most beautiful human being in the world. However I am not the only guy that finds her attractive. My problem is that I let myself go into a hole whenever she tells me that some guy flirted with her. I don't get upset with her, I just allow myself to get into an emotional hole. I usually drop out of the conversation, and I become very reclusive. It doesn't last long - usually I call her about an hour after to apologise and she re-assures me and we agree that we're ok. But I truly want to stop the cycle. I want to be fine if she tells me that some guy flirted with her. I know she doesn't flirt back, but I don't want to dissappear into the void of nothingness whenever she tells me. I want to stop feeling down when this happens! Please help, I'm not sure what I should do. I'm really confused when this happens and I know I'm intentionally making her sad by doing so. I don't want to hurt her any more, she doesn't deserve this at all. I get so angry at myself whenever I let this happen. What should I do? She has helped me so much, and advised me that I should think about all the good things that we've experienced together whenever I get into this emo hole. But I usually can't feel anything when I'm inside it. I need to find out a way of not getting caught in the first place. Thanks guys,

That is so BS! Knowing MAXIM they probably misinterpreted the results which sounded more like "a woman thought of sex every 6.5-7 seconds". Find a large enough population to conduct your study and I'm pretty sure you can create a true hypothesis! I'm a guy, yes I think about sex, I often am caught daydreaming about it. But I know it would ruin my life if I thought about it every 10 seconds!

Hey there! Yeah I guess I've been in the same boat before. YOu know I've consoled some people in rl and I've told them that there is always a certain percentage of you that always wants the ex back. Be if 5 or 10%. I'm a great believer in that things that are meant to happen - will happen. Focus on your relationship here and now, make the correct decisions for your current relationship. Remember we are creatures of the present - the future could potentially not occur, and the past can never be erased. Its interesting that it has taken you over a year to reminisce about your ex. I don't think there's anything wrong with it a little nostalgia at all, so long as it doesn't jeopardize your current relationship! And as you said you are extremely happy with where you are. Is there any particular thing that you miss about the previous relationship that your not getting in this current one?

Hey bro, Yeah this site is great huh! Certainly made me want to stay here for a while! Hey just wanted to congratulate you on the very mature way you handled the situation, as I say - everything can be solved with hope and a bit of conversation! BTW - If she's the girl on your avatar, you look like a great couple!

Just a big up too all da Virgins in da house! Keep it up yall, you doing yourselves proud! Always keep true to yourself - and NEVER compromise your sacred beliefs. And if the unthinkable happens, and you are left wounded and betrayed, know that you will become stronger because that is the only place that you can take your soul. Just wanted to say that!

Hey Sherri, No one seemed to pick this out from your post so I thought I may have a go! Hi Sherri, I can relate to you with this, sometimes you really have to believe that there is goodness within someone. If he has truly been there for you and metaphorically held your hand over a bridge that you've had to cross, then I'm sure he's in the relationship for the right reasons. I mean another good point is that he doesn't seem to get upset when you do question him. I think you should talk to him about your negativeness - maybe he can help you approach things with a little more optimism. My girlfriend certainly helps, and she does it really simply just by reassuring me every now and then (and me likewise aswell)! Just talk to him about it - approach it very carefully - and let him know that you have some insecurities that just need a little of his help. Remember communication is really good! Oh DOn't worry about the talking in his dream - its all a subconscious thing. I'll tell you guys a funny story! I spat in my dream once - and I did the same in reality - and so I ended up spitting on myself! So yeah don't worry about the dream!

Word! That is soo true! djbeasley difficult situation my friend. I would talk to her about it, and something which I find provokes conversation is to ask her how she would feel if she was in your shoes. Then at least you can find out what she think's about it. And maybe then you can establish some guidelines in the relationship. And let her know that you feel uncomfortable about her not stopping the conversation and rather going along with it. Jealousy can kill relationships man, I'm still trying to learn about this - and this topic will probably help some of my demons. BTW How did you find out about this? Did her friend tell you, or did she tell you? Good luck my friend!

Hey buddy, Somethings in life are meant to happen. Sometimes you wish that they never happened, but they do. Sometimes you don't need it to happen - but after the occurrence you realise that it would have been better if it did! However they always happen for a reason, and it is the discovery of the REASON as to why events in life happen that will take time and often be very painful. Majoraslayer, I litterally broke down crying when I read the following verse from Khalil Gibran - I recommend you read this and some of his other works too (link removed. I recommend you read "The Prophet" it will really open your eyes to a whole new world of understanding... Joy and Sorrow Then a woman said, "Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow." And he answered: Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that hold your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives? When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. Some of you say, "Joy is greater than sorrow," and others say, "Nay, sorrow is the greater." But I say unto you, they are inseparable. Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed. Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy. Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced. When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall. That quote is taken from link removed Don't ever feel stupid posting ANYTHING friend - and always remember HAVE HOPE for HOPE IS EVERYTHING!

Cool! Thanks for the replies guys! sumguy! Awesome to meet a fellow WestAustraliania - we are definitely an increasing population on the internet! I only wish I had this forum to come to when me and my girl were going through some problems.I'll come here when we're going through life's little hiccups from now on! Everyone here seems really matured and nice! Thats really comforting esp when I consider myself to be fairly mature for my age (25). And going through this injury has really taught me some of the more important lessons in life. I know I've got a lot of growing up to do though! Thanks for liking the poem. It is very "Hallmarky" isn't it! I was thinking of putting it on the inside of the booklets or on the inside of the wedding invitation. But putting the first verse on a bracelet is an EXCELLENT idea! Full credit to sumguy! Thanks Ailec1987 for thinking its cool! Feel free to use it if you want, I'd be really happy if it made someone else as happy aswell.

Hey Guys, Have been reading a couple of the posts and they've been very helpful. Just wanted to say a friendly "HI" to probably the most helpful forum (emotionally-wise) on the net. Anyway, me and my girlfriend are going through some tough times at the moment. I'm learning to walk again because of a nasty soccer injury I had (full knee reconstruction) - so its been hard on every esp the people that care for me. So I thought I'd write a poem - its pretty average - however I really want to improve it and if you guys could maybe give me some constructive criticism that would be cool. I would like to one day get married to the girl I'm dating now. She is definitely the one! We've been going out for 2.5 yrs and there's no turning back! I love her - and as a token of that love I'd like to get this poem inscribed behind our wedding photos or something... (you can maybe help me decide where too! However I've already thought that the inside of a G-String would be too sucky! ) Anyway - its called "Those three words" - and I haven't copied it from anyone - if it does bear resemblance to another's work then please let me know and I'll take it down. Thanks and glad to be part of the forum! -- Those three words What those three words mean to me? Those three words mean friendship. They mean fellowship. They do not mean arguments, or malice, or hurt. They mean warmth, and protection, and care, and compassion. They mean that I will spend every waking morning looking into your eyes, spend every sleepy night kissing you to bed. They mean creating new life, raising new citizens of the world. They mean hope through challenges, they mean light through darkness. They mean forgiveness, and purity of thought. Those three words, said every special day, mean the world to me. They give me life. My heart rejoices every time those words are repeated, it goes longing when they are not heard, but it never becomes disheartened, because it knows that those three words, will be repeated soon enough. Those three words are felt in every moment, experienced in every thought, and embraced in every action. I thank you for giving me the chance to say, those three words. I love you