WantToBeLuved

Seriously, it's almost 2007. It's ok to let someone know you like them.

I do not have a hidden agenda here at all. I really want it to work with the new girl. But girl #1 isn't a bad person. I don't want it to seem like I'm trying to throw the new girl in her face. I just want this girl to meet some of my friends and I want my friends to meet her because if things keep going as well as they are with girl #2, she WILL be my girlfriend in the near future.

I just found out today that girl number 1 actually set up the get together. I think it would only be fair that I let her know I'm bringing someone....right???

I know this might sound weird but..., are you really attracted to this girl? Or are you just trying to have sex because it's your first time? I know I can't have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...

Yea man. If you're still feeling that way, you're not ready to be in another relationship just yet. Also..., and this is just my thing..., 2 hour phone calls are no good. I'd keep them to 10 minutes at the most. Two hour conversations should be had in person. Not on the phone. But again, thats just my thing.

I messed around with this girl I met at my job eariler on in the year soon after she got out of a LTR. After about 5 or 6 months, she called it off because it was too early and she was still thinking about the way her and her ex ended (very bad break up.) She said she does like me and does have feelings for me, but it's just too early for her to be with someone that way. Since then, I left the job. We have small chats everyone once in a while, but just small talk. Six months after that, I meet this AWESOME girl online. We had 3 great dates over the past 3 weeks. We click so well and it's going great. Now I've been invited to go to a get together with my old co-workers (dinner and ice skating) and I know that the first girl will be there... She actually told me about it. I'd really like to bring the new girl with me because she's so fun and would enjoy it plus she'll get to meet some of my old co-workers that are still my friends, but I'm wondering if it would be inappropriate or not. Especially since pretty much everyone that is going to the hang out knows that the first girl and I use to mess around. Should I just show up with her, tell her and the new girl the situation, or should I just not bring her around at all??? Thx in advance and I hope this is the correct forum for this...

Ah yes..., but if only we could go to NY. I live in New Haven, CT now and she lives near Boston, MA. So we try to meet up someone in the middle. Maybe something in Rhode Island would work. I and looking still, but more suggestions would be great!

I went out on a date with this great young lady last night. We played pool, went out to eat and talked at the dinner table for almost 4 hours. I want to do something nice for our next date, which is next weekend. Problem is, she gets out of work like 2 on Saturday's and we live a little distance from each other. So by the time we get to hang out, everywhere I would like to take her, I can't. I'd like to take her to a museum or the zoo or something like that, but it seems like I can't. What else can I do for a second date after 5? Something different other then golf, bowling and pool.

Just a quick update: Since Sunday, there's has been no calls about the boyfriend, but she still calls me at least twice a day. Again, no flirting or anything like that, but she calls everyday just for small talk... I'm ready for her next time she calls about him though. It's funny, on her myspace, she's "In A Relationship", but on his, he's "Single" and "Here For : Dating and Serious Relationships." I don't think she'll get it until he does something seriously effed up to her. But in the mean time... I won't be "that guy"!

I don't have feelings for the girl or anything, so it's cool, but like I said. I know how situations like this pan out. I don't want to have feelings for her while she's in her situation, I KNOW she's the one that has to make the choice and I don't want to get involved with that. I'm actually a little proud of myself for catching this before it got bad. That's exactly what I'll do. I will tell her to refer everything she's saying to me to him. Thanks a lot. Other takes on this situation would be good too. I like to read what other people think.

I just met this girl in a training class for work last Monday. We make jokes and seem to have fun in the class, so we exchanged phone numbers. I knew she already had a boyfriend, so I wasn't really thinking much about anything more. Anyway, on Friday she says to me at the end of the training for that day "Give me a call this weekend". I said cool, thinking maybe I'll call her Sunday afternoon or something like that. But later THAT NIGHT, she called me. So we have some small talk at first, but eventually, she goes into how her boyfriend or "boyfriend" is not treating her right and he's selfish and he flips out for no reason and blah, blah, blah. So I listen and do the whole "support your friend thing". Next day, (Saturday) same thing, she calls me with something else that he did that day. And again, I do the support thing. That day, she said, no matter what, she's not calling him the next day (yesterday). So yesterday, me, her and another one of the co-workers from work went out to lunch. She said something about wanting to see a movie, but I didn't really pay too much attention. After the lunch, she calls me like an hour later just with small talk. In the conversion I asked her if she was going to go to the movies. She said no, that she's too tired. After a little bit small talk, she says, she's going to get something to eat and call me back... She never called back. Whatever, not a big deal. So today I see her in the training class and she says she's sorry for not calling me back and that she went to sleep really early... I guess she forgot what she says just 5 minutes before, but she was talking to another co-worker and was talking about something (not exactly sure what) but then she said "......when me and (her boyfriend) went to the movies yesterday....." So, then I realized that, I'm becoming, "that guy" to her. That guy she calls when her boyfriend is treating her bad. The support guy that lets her know that there's nothing wrong with her, and it's all his fault, then she feels better, goes back to the boyfriend and the cycle repeats itself. I know how situations like these sometimes pan out. I'll end up liking the girl, she'll NEVER leave the boyfriend and this will continue and I'll get annoyed. How do I let her know that I don't want to be "that guy", nicely? I don't have a problem with just telling her not to call me with her problems, but I'm first going to make an attempt at being nice about it. Or should I just not answer her calls??? Thx in advance and double thx if you actually read all of that lol.

Well, my thoughts are I better call this girl a little more so she doesn't think I'm hiding something. lol

We actually have a time set up for when we're going to meet. I'm setting up what we are going to do that day. She's the one that usually IM's me. I don't really IM her, but I do always answer her back. Maybe I shouldn't answer her back all the time?

Ok, there's a bunch of different things going on with this situation, so it can go into a whole bunch of other forums here, but I think this is the best suited one. This young lady hit me up on myspace about 2 weeks ago and we've been chating since then. We exchanged phone numbers about a week ago but haven't talked for more then 5 mins on the phone with each other. I think it's mainly because we talk for about an hour or so every night online, so there is no reason to call.... right??? I mean, we talk online, so you would think I wouldn't have to call. But for some reason, I've been feeling like I'm not doing the right thing. I feel like I should call her every once in a while. I don't want her to think I'm scared to talk to her over the phone. But at the same time, I don't want to come off as needy. I mean, we just talked online. Wouldn't I come off a little needy if we talked online....AND I called her? Maybe I'm just confusing myself.... But I think it means and says something a lil' extra when you call someone up and speak to them, as opposed to sending them an IM. But again, I don't wanna come off as needy. We plan to meet in a few weeks and I don't want her thinking that she's about to meet up with a clingy dude.

I don't think there's a hurt-free way dump anyone. I think the best thing, at least for me is to be honest. Yea, I'll be upset with you for a while, but eventually, I'll get over it and I'll respect you for caring about my feelings enough to be completely honest with me.... Then again, thats my view. Dunno if you're bf will feel the same.