nighthawk

Just a small update, we decided to stay together for a bit and see how things went, after we had talked things through we had a really good time together. But just a week later she was having the same feelings again, and we both decided it was maybe best to give up and just be friends. We really enjoy each others company, and we get on so well. But it just feels like there is something missing, it doesnt feel as amazing as it did in the first few weeks, but it still feels good. Im not sure if I want it to end, but with me moving away for 6 months in january, perhaps its pointless trying? Is there anything I can do to get us back together and reignite the spark?

This is a bit of a follow-up to the thread I posted over the weekend: Ive been on anti-depressents for about 2 months now, I started just before I met the gf. Im not entirely sure they are helping, as I am still feeling down at times. After posting that thread, and getting the feedback, I began to get really paranoid that I wasnt infact attracted to her. These feelings have been growing over the week. I went to see her on monday, and was still not sure, and didnt kinow what to do. Yesterday however I was working away, and felt much happier, and began to feel that I did really like the gf, and was attracted ti her. I couldnt wait to get home and see her again. She came round last night, and as soon as i saw her again i knew i had made the right decision. We were lying in my bed, and i gave her a big huge hug, and told her i loved her. But she didnt reply saying she loved me like she normally does. For some reason I asked her if she loved me, and the reply was "im not sure". At first i thought she was just joking, then she said she really wasnt sure anymore, and i knew she wasnt joking. We started talking about it, and basically she is feeling the same way as I felt the other day. She really likes me and loves being around me, but she feels theres something missing, there is no spark there. We havent really been doing much recently, we tend to spend a lot of time together, and its always at home watching tv, or just lying and talking. Shes worried we are running out of things to talk about. Half of me thinks its just because we are getting bored, and if we actually did something interesting things might change. After we talked about it she decided she was gonna give it some time, and see if its a passing phase. So we continued lying there talking and watching tv. By the end of the night she said she felt a lot better, and she had enjoyed the evening together. I dont know what to do, right now it looks like its gonna end. The trouble is im moving away in January on a 6 month contract with work. Its about a 4 hour drive to get home at the weekends, I found out about this a few weeks after we started going out, and she wasnt too bothered about it, she knew it was a good opportunity, and she felt we would be able to cope with it, and we could take turns at visiting each other at the weekend. With things the way they are now, even if we do work through this and she decides she loves me, I dont think we are going to survive me moving away. I really dont know what to do, we are gonna carry on as normal and see if its just a passing phase, and if we will get back to normal. I dont know whether we should just admit defeat now and accept it wont work, give it a few days and see what happens, then decide..... or whether we should just continue for the next 4 weeks then call it quits when I move away in January. All comments greatly appreciated.

Im a 23 year old male, and I am still a virgin. I recently met a girl at a party, and we have been going out for about a month now, and everything is fantastic between us. We have attempted to have sex a number of times, but each time I have failed to get aroused. I masturbate fairly frequently, often to porn, and tend to last quite a long time, anything from 10 mins to 2 hours, depending on how much im enjoying the porn, im never in a rush to cum. No matter what she tries, she cannot get me aroused. If she gives me a hj it just doesnt give me any kind of sensation at all, same with a bj. It just doesnt feel the same as when I do it myself. If I give myself a hj I can get hard, and have managed to go inside her, but again I just cant feel anything when I am having sex, and I soon lose the hardon. If i try to masturbate in her presense, then it seems to take longer than when im on my own, and its a bit harder to make myself cum. At first we both put it down to nerves, however as time goes by im beginning to wonder, i feel perfectly comfortable being around her, but im still having trouble. I think i do still have that niggling thought in the back of my head that I need to cum, and maybe im still concentrating too much on this. Why is it that both sex and a BJ do not give me any sort of sensation at all, I can barley even feel that she is doing anything? When she gives a hj i can feel it, but I need to teach her my technique, doing it her way doesnt work. Anyone got any advice?