BrownEyedGuy

Hey, I was like that boyfriend,until she went and cheated on her 'friend'. I'm not saying that Laura's cheating on him with you,so that's one major difference. But I can kinda understand how he feels. And no,I don't think it's her fault. Maybe you could talk to the b/f and assure him nothing's wrong? Did he threaten you? My girlfriend IS two-faced,except that she hates ME more than her 'friend'.

Yeah,I'm a shy guy too. I think it'd be best for you to move things further without waiting for him to initiate it. There's no rule that men always have to make the first step. But it IS sensible for the less shy individual to make the first step

Dude,I'm sorry to make you feel worse,but I'm in pretty much the same position,and I'm a sophomore in college. Nice guys just don't get anywhere in this pathetic world. I do have a girlfriend,but when she's not cheating on me,she's slashing her wrists,and no other girls pay attention to me. Life SUCKS. The world sucks.

Hey,thanks for all the replies. I spoke to her and I didn't tell her that I had got the conversation from her email account. I just asked her if she was planning to cheat,and my god,she got so mad! She threatened to stab herself with a knife,then she broke some things. She told me she hated that guy (and yet their conversation was hardly like 'hate'). I don't understand why she's behaving like this...I just wish I could die. I'm fed up of everything!!! I'm not gonna get another g/f like her.

Hey,I posted a topic a couple of days ago saying that I was suspicious of my girlfriend. Well,I came accross a saved conversation of her with one hf her classmates in her senior year. They were flirting to say the least,and it seems they've already kissed and made out. They also discussed having sex sometime in the future. This is really a shock to me! What do I do? Do I tell her that I found out about it? Or do I hint to her? Or should I just keep quiet and see what happens? She still says she loves me and wants me forever,but why is she cheating?

Just wondering,how much younger than her are you? And was that the ONLY impediment in staying with her?

Hi SwingFox,thanks for responding. I've thought a lot about just moving on,but I realized I couldn't ever do that. I would do anything to make this relationship work and succeed,because she is inherently a very sweet and unique girl. Both of us also have very similar beliefs,opinions,etc. But you may be right when you say I'm over-responding. She has said the same thing too. But I don't know why I keep feeling uneasy these days about her love for me. It's just a gut-feeling,along with some 'real' observations I've made. I'm hoping it's just a phase,and she'll revert to her old self again. Her personality is usually that of an optimist,which is why I don't understand this change at all. (btw,I'm a pessimist,but she has never complained about that ) Do girls say what they feel,or do they lie to avoid fights? Some people say that a girl's word can always be trusted and others say the exact opposite.

I am 19 and she is 17. We have been together for two years but it hasn't been happy all the while. We have broken up and got back together twice (she inititated both breakups). She almost broke up with me a third time some months ago and I found out that she had an affair with a middle-aged man (she told me about it and begged me to forgive her). I did forgive her and our relationship was good for a while. But lately I've noticed she's cooling off towards me. She still says she loves me,and got genuinely shocked when I questioned her sincerity. But I sense the change in her behaviour too strongly to just ignore it. She's distracted when we talk,and she does not want to have sex anymore. The odd thing is that she does spend most of her time with me,but she doesn't seem happy. But she also talks about 'our' future and 'our' children. I'm really confused. Does she love me or not? She used to be a very cheerful and bubbly person,now she always looks bored and tired. But she gets annoyed and hurt if I ask if anything is wrong. I'm not able to sleep these days because I keep expecting she's going to break up with me again.