Hi everybody, I have a bit of a problem and was wondering if I could get an outside opinion on the subject, maybe give me a new perspective.
Basically I broke up with my girlfriend a little over a week ago, we both decided that it was not working and we parted ways. We had no argument and we still talk occasionally, there is no bad feeling between us. However after about 4 days it started to dawn on me that I did really like this girl, we had been dating three months, but had grown apart due to the distance over the last month or so. This feeling grew and grew and I decided I wanted her back, we started chatting, now and then, and one night had a big discussion about what was wrong and missing from our relationship, something we had never really done before. It felt great to have it all out in the open, I apologised to her for not making as much effort as I should and she thanked me for being mature about the situation. So 2 days ago I asked her for a second chance, to make things right as I really feel, and want this to work, and I know it can. She said that I could give her what she wanted and I did deserve a second chance and on any other occasion she would have said yes, but she has been talking to her friend Richard from home a lot since we broke up. They both have a lot of history together, and she has rejected him multiple times in the past, but now she believes they will be together and that he will make her happy. So I resigned myself to this fact, accepted that my chance was over and said I would say no more.
However last night I was up into the early hours thinking, I want this girl back, more than anything I have ever wanted, and I have 2 options, either I back down, and respect her decision, which is what my nature tells me to do – I am not a very confrontational person. But on the other hand I think, If i like her that much then I should fight for it, let her see. She may like Richard now, but is that just a rebound from me? Is he the easy option? Surely if she had seen a future for then she would not have rejected him on so many occasions before. So I tell myself to fight for her, show her, what she means to me. Deep down I want her back, that I know for sure, and realistically I do not believe that she wants Richard. But I am torn as to whether to respect her decision and resign myself its over, or to fight and try to make her see how much I want her, I have no idea which is the right one to choose, please could someone give me a new perspective on this!