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My daughter quit cutting a couple of months ago when I found out about it. She has been seeing a Psycharist & a Psychologist and she has been doing great. I'm not saying the urge hasn't been there because I know that it has, but today has been the worst day thru it all. She has been in tears on and off since she came in from school. I talked to her and she doesn't know why today has been so difficult!!! She said nothing bad happened at school today. Has anyone else had days like this and if so what can I do to help her? She hasn't cut yet, but I'm so afraid that she will.
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I'm sorry you cut yourself again!!!!!!!! I posted some of the thing my daughter's Dr. suggested to her which were using the rubber band, use a red felt tipped pen to mark where your wanting to cut or write down what you are feeling when you are needing to do this to yourself. I also understand you not wanting to get professional help for this, but as a parent I didn't know how to help my daughter so we had to find someone who did. I didn't leave her to talk to her doctor til she told me it was okay, because I promised her that I wouldn't leave her if she would just give it a try. I also told her that if she didn't like this Dr. that we would keep looking til we found one that she did like. She really enjoys talking to him because he doesn't even talk about her cutting because what is causing this need in her (you) is what is important. If you don't like one Dr. find another one!!!! NEVER give up on yourself or finding a solution for this problem.
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I'm sorry that your boyfriend is living in this hell!!! Has he tried talking to the counselor at school? If you have a good counselor it could help him alot. I'm not sure what the law is in GA, but in some states you can leave home if your 17 and can't be made to return if he has a safe, stable place to go. That is something that he might want to check into. Is his mother on medication? If she is does she take it? Even if she is it sounds like this is out of control and she may need to be checked again with someone talking to her doctors about it. Don't forget that he can't control what his mother does! Take care of yourself!!!!!
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I carried my daughter to a as she calls him a shrink today. He helped her soo much!!! He has her on a medication for a little while and wants her in therapy. He gave her a couple of alternatives to the cutting til she relearns how to deal with her emotions. She is suppose to wear a rubber band all the time and pop herself when she needs to cut and if she needs to see whe blood, mark on herself with a felt pen where she wants to cut. If these don't work he told us to get a bowl of ice water and put her hand in it. The cold will sting a little, but should take away the drive for her to cut for a little while. This may sound stupid, but it does help her some. So I wanted to share this information and hope that it will help someone else. Thanks to everyone for your help!!!! It was & is greatly appreciated!!!!
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Congrats on not cutting!!!! I'm not a cutter but I've had about 15 operations and vitamin E oil capsules work great, just put a hole in one a couple of times a day and squeeze directly on your scars. If you have some time when your not around anyone or have on long sleeves wrap your scars in gauze to keep the oil in place. Also you can use Vitamin K cream or creams made for scars.
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I'm sooo sorry that your in soo much pain!!! I wish that I could fix it for you but I can't, Only YOU can do that with some help. Have you tried speaking to a counselor at school. My daughter is a cutter but has not been raped or sexually abused. However I was sexually abused as a young lady and I still live with the pain daily. I can't tell you that it will ever go away but I found a place for it and I try to leave it there. I'm much older and use it as a learning experience to try to protect my daughter. It's not worth losing your life over. Use it to help others which I believe in turn will help you. So many young women don't think this can ever happen to them, but you can't let them know it can and does daily!!!!! You have a lot of living left to do!!!!!! Please don't stop living now. If you need to talk please e-mail me!!! I will listen to you!!!
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I'm a mom of a teenager who is cutting. I found out a couple of days ago and we are working on it. I think it is important for your friends mother to know what is happening to her child. This is a lot for an adult to deal with much less a teenager with your own headaches. You sound like a wonderful person wanting to help your friend, but I think this is bigger than both of you. If you can't tell her mother about this can you speak to a counselor at school? My daughters friend seen the cut marks on my daughter and carried her to the school counselor and that is how we got started. I am so thankful that I know and can now help my baby (of course with the help of professionals). It sounds like your friend is on a very dangerous road and really needs help before it's too late.
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I'm not a cutter, but my daughter is. I have been taking her to doctors and she has an appointment today with a specialist. From what I understand it is a release of emotions. She has to relearn how to deal with her emotions. I stay right with her and it has been a couple of days since she cut. It hurts her soo very bad not to. The counselors seem to help. Have you tried to talk to your friends mom to let her know how serious this is? It is so hard for me to imagine a parent not caring that their child is hurting not just because of the cutting, but the emotions their feeling causing them to cut. I know there are parents in this world who don't care and I think that is why we have great friends to help us thru the rough times.
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over five weeks then i hit a snag
helpmehelpmydaughter replied to whathappensnext's topic in Suicide & Self-Harm
Scream from the highest rooftop if it will help you deal without cutting!!!! We will always listen. You have a voice and it deserves to be heard. No one can hear you cutting!!! You made it 5 weeks!!! That is GREAT!!! You wrote before cutting... Your using logic not just impulses!!! Keep going!!!! -
Sweetie your not a freak!!! The best way that I've had it explained to me is that is like a drug!! Drug addicts LOVE the high and from what I understand from my daughter so do cutters!!! NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF!!! It's never too late!!! Please seek help for yourself your worth the effort!!!
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My daughter cuts and her Dr. suggest that when she feels the urge to cut immediately tell me so that we can find something else to do. It's helps some she doesn't cut as often. We talk a lot trying to help her deal with her feelings. I can't tell you that I know what your going thru because I don't. However I have see the pain my baby is in over this and the relief that she seems to find in the cutting and I wouldn't wish this on anyone, so I hope that you are able to find the help and support that you need to getter better!!!
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I am sooo Sorry that your cutting yourself!!! I'm not a cutter, but my daughter is. I have known about this for a couple of days and have taken her to a couple of professionals and they have told us to stay together, let her talk about whatever is going on in her mind and heart and to keep her busy when the urge hits her. It is different emotions or too many emotions that is her trigger. I hope you get the help and support that you need so that you can take care of yourself!!!
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I don't cut, but my daughter does. She cuts because of emotions. As a mom it is the hardest thing in the world to see the most important person in you life hurt themself however she doesn't feel it til afterwards and the little bit of discomfort she feels is better to her than all of the pain she feels when she doesn't. I have found this out in the last couple of days and were working on making it better with help from people like yourself and the professionals she is seeing.
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I love her and its KILLING me
helpmehelpmydaughter replied to becallamjr's topic in Suicide & Self-Harm
Hi!!! I just joined this site today because of my daughter I found out a couple of days ago she is a SI (cutter) so I'm looking for help and found your message. I have been in your shoes before, many years ago!!! I'm 40 now and life is good most of the time and definitely worth living!!! It's so hard to get through all of the emotions that you are feeling right now, but YOU CAN!!! No woman is worth your life!!! If she is going to rub your feelings for her in your face what kind of person is she? It doesn't sound like she is worth you time nor energy. Most women are searching for someone to love them soo. It sounds like you are capable of giving that... Don't waste it on her.. Find you someone who will love you back and help you through this. Please let me know how your doing!!! -
My daughter is almost 15 and I found out a couple of days ago that she is cutting herself!!! I took her to a counselor that day and her medical doctor the next and have an appointment with a specialist on Monday. She cut herself again last night. I am trying to understand the connection between emotions and the cutting, but her arm can't take another cut. I'm keeping her right with me and she is fine with that. We have a good relationship or so I thought. This has only been going on for a couple of weeks (which is long enough!!!) I need help to help her. I'm reading everything, but I thought the best advice would come from others feeling the same things. Please Help me Help my Daughter!!!