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My standards are high, but certainly not unattainable. No need to alter them. I think 30 or 35 was way off. I think it's more like, no more than 20/50, tops. Even that may have been a high number. I don't think I was thinking straight this morning. So no one else here feels that their options are even slightly limited? You have more than enough women/men to choose from, huh? You guys are very lucky!
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Well, I am picky, in that I know what I like and what I don't, and I don't want to settle (probably why I'm still single). But I tend to be attracted to the majority of (though not ALL, of course lol) girls I encounter in my day at school. There are exceptions to all things. Yeah, it can be downright tough. I've done the net dating before too (twice, in fact) and I'm NOT doing that again! Neither time worked out well. I think face to face interaction is far superior to net dating. But that's just me. I'll post the results. I sit at the back, so it shouldn't be hard to count. I'll just count the first 50 who come in, out of the class of 300 or so. Shouldn't be so hard. I'm estimating it'll be between 32 - 35. I wonder if I'm right? lol But remember, that's just on the basis of appearance; not counting personality, beliefs, faith, whether or not she is single, or whether or not she would date me. Plus where she lives factors in, so whatever number I get, will be a lot higher than the ACTUAL number of potential dates, from that sample (science term lol).
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That's honestly not a question I can answer right off the bat, because there are so many things I look for in a mate (not just looks). Are you asking just based on how they LOOK? I could probably answer that, I suppose. [edit] I can do you one better, if you like, and count - in my head, of course - how many girls out of fifty I'd consider dating, in my class this afternoon. Then post the results. [/edit] I'm curious, myself, to see what I'll find! I'm guessing somewhere in the thirties, I suppose. (Just a guess...)
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Has anyone else felt like their options of who to date are somewhat limited? I do. There's a multitude of reasons why I feel this way, what about you? With me, I'm not going to rant, but I sometimes feel like there are only a very small handful of girls I'd actually want to go out with. And I'm concerned that once I leave school, that number will only diminish further. I can't honestly see how it would increase and frankly, that scares me. That's not good. Plus, even if I met someone where everything was "go" on my part, she'd have to like and be attracted to me, as well. And even if I did actually hit it off with a girl at school, chances are, she'd end up living on residence (which is fine) except for the part about her going home on the holidays and during the summer. I'm not doing the long distance relationship thing again, so I don't see how that could even work. Finding someone I like where things could work has some fairly steep odds, I suppose. I'm not complaining, it's not as though I'm looking for a solution, just expressing my thoughts at the moment and wondering if anyone else feels like this? I doubt I am the only one who feels like this.
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If she initiates a conversation is she interested?
Kevin T replied to scotty77's topic in Dating Advice
It definitely shows interest. -
I think it will matter to many. On the one hand, you have the fundamentalist advocate of their faith, and on their other, you have the fundamentalist advocate of their atheism. To either, finding someone to share their beliefs with will be important. I suppose the ones who might not care would be the ones that are in the middle on what they believe. They probably would not mind much either way, I'd think.
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Yes, charley's got it right on. In comparison to my peers, I stand out a lot. And with the coat, I stand out even more so. It's more of a statement, than it is anything else. I just wanna be different. And charley, don't even get me started on the guys who wear their pants down past their behind and that are so baggy you could put three people in one leg. lol That's very common thing where I'm from. I think it looks silly.
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First thing I consciously look for.
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People always downing me on my looks.. Low self esteem.
Kevin T replied to Myles's topic in Emotions and Feelings
Myles, consider getting news friends. If they're REALLY your friends, then they should be a little kinder to you. ("A little" isn't asking too much.) You said you have acne, have you ever considered getting treatment for it? Don't let something you can fix go on. -
Sure. I'm "shallow" enough to care about how a girl looks in basing my decision on dating her. Shallow, I may be; hypocrite, I am not. Oh yeah, I'm honest too.
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Well, I decided to keep the coat based on that. Sure, I don't want to be seen as something I'm not, but I also like being the minority. I like being different and I like being able to stand out from the crowd in a big way. People see me coming a mile away, and that was my goal in the first place, I think. I want to be someone who is an individual and this helps me to express that very well, I believe. Call me a "non-conformist." I guess. Not that I'm a goth or anything, 'cuz I'm not. I can only be... me. I'll take it. For better or worse, with me; what you see is definitely what you get.
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What's everyone's opinion of "matchmaker" sites?
Kevin T replied to gettinthroughit's topic in Dating Advice
My opinion is it's better to meet people in real life, face-to-face situations rather than over the internet. Personal experience speaking. -
What shall I tweak then?
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Verdict: The coat stays.
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I am going to tell you there is about a 0% chance of you going out with this girl.
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Then my plan has worked perfectly.
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What am I grateful/thankful for? Let's see... Kind, loving parents A roof over my head Food in my belly A warm bed to sleep in A car that runs when I need it to (isn't a rust bucket either!) Being able to go to university, even when I never thought I'd be able Being healthy and strong Living in a wonderful country where I can be free of war, violence and practice whatever faith I choose Having the opportunity to experience and know what (romantic) love truly is A few good, close friends who I can connect with The fact that I am still here (there were a couple times when that was in question) An awesome mentor A bright future with someone I love Always having more than enough, even when it doesn't seem like it Being born me God I'm sure there's more, but those are the first things which come to mind, for me.
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I suck at math.
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Oh, I agree completely. I'm not saying I would do it! lol But that's me.
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Sometimes I eat before bed, sometimes not. So I don't know if that's it. I don't even watch the show much. I'm rarely home when it is on. lol They're not bad dreams, just odd how I would have so many dreams about that particular show. Maybe my high fever the past few days caused the dream last night... But it doesn't explain the other nights when I wasn't ill. Hmm... lol
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One needs to step up and do something about it, then! Puff has said he has asked girls out before, this should be no different.
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Well, beyond being mortified, I don't really remember much from that day. I remember feeling like a goof and an idiot, but that was about the extent of it. I certainly did not expect any special attention from women. And nor did I get any... I know that much. As for the whole coat thing... I was going to post something about it last night, but it got deleted and didn't go through, so I didn't bother. I get what everyone (mostly) is coming from. I need to be mindful of the image that I am projecting to the world. I honestly never really thought much about it. I simply "liked" it. But why do something that isn't helping me and is causing me to be seen in a light I do not want? Basically, the trench coat is associated with three main types: The school shooter, the nerd and the loner (more accurately, the angry loner). Since I am none of the three, I need to stop showing myself to the world in that guise. Knowing that I'll most likely be seen as one of those three (or maybe some scary combination of them, which is likely since they are not mutally exclusive), why on earth would I want to walk around dressed like that?! I felt like death until this evening, Ellie. I feel a lot better now, but the last two days were dreadful. I didn't go to school either day, I was so sick. Yesterday, I slept over 18 hours. I was exhausted and barely ate a thing, though I drank over 4 litres of fluids. Oh yeah, and thinking back on things... I have gotten attention from girls, but being in class, I was not wearing the coat. See, no coat = attractive. Coat = not so much. lol That argument is probably quite accurate, I think.
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Ah, but you forget what thing: Most of the men I go to school with also look like this. Slobs, my term for them. Of course, not all of them having the ladies going after them, either, so...
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As I said, cash flow is seriously clotted, thereforeeee purchasing a new coat is out of the question at this present moment in time. I do have a couple other wintery type jackets. Not sure what they're called. They look, you know, like a normal winter jacket. I think it's blue. lol That said, it's an interesting experiment, similar to the one I tried the one day a while back.
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Yeah, that was what I was talkin' about! lol Intimidating, I would assume, is a positive thing. I did that once... for an experiment, I didn't shave, or comb my hair, I skipped my shower that morning and wore an old t-shirt and pair of pants. I basically looked like I just rolled out of bed and looked like a complete slob. Anyone like to guess what the outcome was?