theflipsideoflife21

alright so i guess i should give a little background first... ive been in a realationship for exactly one year today which isnt really significant..but whatever,anyways...me and him are alright i guess..we fight alot..but before me and him went out, my previous boyfriend was his x-bestfriend... notice the x because now he hates him. well this guy has a girlfriend now 2...blah blah yea u get it so for a long time now...me and this guy have still remained really really close friends but my boyfriend absolutly hates it so i am never aloud to talk 2 the guy or hang out with him. but wenever i do sneak a chance 2 even just talk 2 him...me and him have such great convorsations just about life in general and i feel so much better about myself when i am around him.its not like i am cheating on my boyfriend cuz trust me im not and i never would because i dont blieve in that..and i dont even think i want to date this guy because it wud cause 2 much drama...i dont want to break up with my boyfriend at all im just not sure if its just me that thinks its not so rong to be hanging out with this guy...or if ppl think otherwise.... so i guess my question is..is there something rong with me..because i dont think i should be feeling this way around another guy when i do love my boyfriend very much

u said you see her alot because of the work thing, maybe let this hole thing cool down just a tad for a day or so and maybe work up the courage to visit her after her work is over or something and just tell her that you would like to still keep in touch, maybe then giving her your fone number again, just something suttle like that could do the trick because your not really asking for some huge convorsation, your just letting her no that you are still thinking of her and you would generaly like to be part of her life i no you said you cant keep contacting her but by just maybe giving her your number or some way to keep in touch, she will maybe come to her senses and call you to talk..like ...truley truley talk

ok first i think u need to take a breath...lol. i think that this girl has been hurt in the past and obviously is not dealing with her problems the right way. i think she continuously hurts ur feelings because she has had people do the same unto her; thereforeeee doing the same right back at you because that is what she knows. i personaly dont think that you should continuously put up with her. and if you cant stay away from her, maybe try and get her some help...maybe a counsler? i really think she just doesnt no how to deal anymore and the way she is acting out to you is her way of making her feel better, but then after doing so realizes what she did is wrong, and thereforeeee becoming that continuous cycle. i hope some of that helped Good Luck

lol i cant help it i just, when i think about something, it doesnt go away until i have answers....idk thats just the way ive always been. altho i think ive figured some things about myself tho

i have been in this situation before...i think first off..this girl shouldnt need her friends approval to like you, or even just be good friends. but you said that you have kind of changed you personality in the past few days i think you should use that for the better to boost your confidence. i think that if you really like this girl you should, wether her friends like it or not, talk to her, just a general convorsation. you no...how was your summer, what have you been doing lately, things like that As for her friends, i dont think you should be like, rude or anything, but maybe just kind of say "hey is there a reason why you have a problem with me and *this girl*" or something like that, or maybe just try getting to no her friends better, that way they wouldnt judge you hope some of this helped

as in previous posts, ive been seeing this guy for about 9 months and because of longing events that have been happening i have been in this whirl-wind of emotions. RECAP: boyfriend doesnt like me being around my guyfriends, says he will break up with me if i do go hang out with them cuz he doesnt trust them and thinks they will "make a move on me". we have been in conflict over this for quite a long time now the reason im writing this is as followed: there is a part of me that really thinks i shouldnt be with him because of this and that i should be able to do what i want w/o him telling me 2 do so. problem... i dont feel as if i want to or if i am ready to let him go because , in my head, im truley in love with him. even the thought of me not being with him drives me nuts, i honestly dont no what id do if we wernt going out. and yet again a VERY small part of me misses being single. soooo.....i guess my question is...do you think that i am truley in love and that this situation is something that really just needs some more talking through...or am i literally just in love with the thought of being in love? Advice greatly appreciated

im in a relationship and i love him very much, but i have always been an extremley flirtatious person. i no that i shouldn't be flirting now that i have had this boyfriend for 9 months or so, but flirting is almost like a natural reaction around guys and i cant help but do so... most of the time i dont even no i am flirting and my friends end up calling me on it. i no that it can really bug my boyfriend if he sees it...and that is perfectly understandable....i guess my question is.... is something rong with me? should i be like this?

lol, back in middle school i was the shortest girl in my class (4 foot 1) and i just happened to be dating the tallest guy in our class (6 foot 2) and yea...i felt so dumb at first because we looked funny. but after being with him for a week or so...it didnt matter anymore..it became a funny joke between all of my friends..so no i dont think its weird at all

" okay this may sound cruel, but you need to tell your friend that she needs to get her a__ a job. Then she will be able to move out. As for the abuse, thats assault, I would try to convince her to press charges, no one should ever strike a woman" i completely 100% agree with that. if she got a job, she would also have alot less time to hang around this person. i have been in the same "friend" situation and police would only do something about it if they hear it from the person being abused. it really sucked. all i did was stay with my friend as much as possible and sometimes spent the night with her just to make sure she was alright and when the guy wasn't around we talked, seriously had a heartfelt talk, and within the few hours we did so, she finally gave in and called the police, and from there on out, she has been much better. so somewhere in there i think that the point is...u can not stop the abuser yourself, it is very important that you look into getting some help for this person on your own, like talking to another adult or something

my boyfriend and i are very close. we've been going out for 9 months now. but me and him have this problem. he is very annoyed with me having way more guy friends then gurls, particularaly guys that are from past relationships. hes told me many times that i am NOT aloud to see them...that is loud and clear. i understand that any guy wudn't want his girl hanging around any other guy. but i dont see why he cant understand that we are just friends...nothing more. and alot of them are not even my type. there are two guys inparticular that he absolutly dispises. one being my ex...about a year ago he cheated on me..but we still remain friends and he has a gf and has asked if i wanted 2 hang with the both of them and i said no because my boyfriend says he will break up with me. another is my best friend mike, whos gf is very close friends with me. hes the type of guy who listens very well if i have a problem so i enjoy talking with him...i guess my question is... ....is it wrong for me to want to hang out with my guyfriends, and not always wanting my boyfriend there. or do you think he is being just a tad over protective?

my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 9 months now and there have been a few things that i dont no if i should be dealing with or not. 95% of our relationship is perfect, we get along great, we love each other dearly,etc. but the other 5% is so shooken up. ill give you a small background information.....after a month of us going out i met a guy and i hung around him alot and my boyfriend did not like it so we got into a big fight and broke up. now that we are back together, i feel like he still has no trust in me and that there is a ton of jealousy he is holding against me. any time that i want to hang out with one of my guy friends...i cant because he says im going to do stuff with him. any time that i mention a guy he becomes really really offensive. i have lost almost all my friends because i feel i cant hang with them without my boyfriend nagging down my throat and its becoming very hard to deal with. he also seems to have a bad temper (after his dad) and he takes it out on me alot... but as i said before....mostly all of the other time we are great. so my question is, what should i do. should i continue in this relationship and keep telling myself that it will work out ...or should i just end it for my own benifit?