thewriterslife

Just because he's a man does not mean he does not have a heart. No, he won't forget you because this is the power of the soul mate bond. His personal issues has to be taken care of first before he can put his all into the relationship, that's all. He'll love you tomorrow just as he loved you yesterday. ;o)

Ahhh...Hollywood. Well, the thing is, as bad as this sounds, is that actors, whatever, have to keep up their image. Look at Paula Abdul and all that controversy that was started when she was allegedly dating one of the American Idols. That's an example of what can happen when the press get hold of a story like that. This star's publicist has to protect her/his star and will do anything in her/his power to make sure nothing leaks out into the press that is negative. Your dilemma is not a new one; it happens all the time. Sometimes you hear about it, other times you don't. I'm not sure what to tell you, sweetie, only that if the love is strong enough, it will happen and it won't make a bit of difference whether the press finds out or not. It just depends on how strong he feels about his "image." Some people are hard to break out of that mold, especially if there's lots of money at stake.

If people think you're older than you really are, I'm thinking that it also has a lot to do with how you carry yourself and that's highly commendable. No, I wouldn't lie. I'd be proud of the fact that others thought I was older (of course, you'll hate it when you get older, lol). Just be yourself. Don't be something you're not and you'll attract the ones you are meant to be with.

Well, I am an expert on relationships and I pop on here once in awhile to see if I can help. I know this isn't going to be what you want to hear, but if this girl has brought this subject up, she's doing so for a reason. I feel she really likes you and don't want to hurt you. On a brighter note, I also feel she is fighting the feeling and it's bothering her because she cares about you. I think she is fighting the age issue and not the fact that you are someone she is not attracted to. What I would do is keep in contact with her and make her realize that fighting the feeling won't be as satisfying as exploring a relationship with you but let her find that out on her own by realizing what a fantastic person you are (as if she doesn't already know that!). Good luck, hon!

Age makes no difference. I have been with someone for ten years and we are very happy. He is nine years younger than I am. Remember, love is ageless.

It doesn't matter what's on the outside; it's what's on the inside that counts. Your physical being is but a shell comprised of DNA by your mother and father. The real "you" lies inside you and it doesn't matter what gender, age, race you are. When two people "meet," they should focus on what's on the inside anyway for that's where true soul mates find each other. Dorothy link removed

My advice to you would be to take it slow. Use your gut instincts to decide what's best for you. If it doesn't "feel" right, it ain't right, I always say. You're still young, although you are officially an adult. You want to spread your wings yet you want to do so at your own pace and not be thrown into something you're not comfortable with. Sometimes we do too much thinking into decisions when we should rely on our first gut instinct. I'm getting a mental picture that you come from a home where there is love and that is a strong force and I feel that you want to keep things the same as they always have been with you and your parents, but yet you are preparing yourself to spread those wings and take flight. Believe me when I say this, your "dream" man is one of many who will come into your life and every one serves a purpose to attain higher self. I know this sounds new agey to you right now, but as you go through the rest of your life, you'll know what I'm talking about. But, your mother, father and sister are also your "soul" partners in the respect that you need them to attain higher self, too. I guess my advice to you would be to sit down and have a talk with one of your "soul" partners and get their respective on the situation. It may bring new light to the situation. You'll be off to college soon and armed with this information you gleam from these "soul" partners, you'll be able to accept these new challenges and potential soul mates that come into your life. The more you experience in life, the better able you are to meet these obstacles just as you are bumping up against right now. Bottom line, trust your instincts. If it feels right, then it's right. If it doesn't, then there's a reason even though it's unclear at the moment. Everything will end up working out the way it's planned to work out as long as you trust your innerself and make the right decisions based on what "you" feel and what "you" know is right for you. Hope I didn't make this more confusing, but bottom line, trust yourself in knowing you will make the right decision. Good luck, sweetie, life can be confusing especially when you're young, but it will all work out in the end. Dorothy link removed

I agree with what the others have said. Neither of you will forget. He came into your life for a reason. Have you figured out what that reason is? Here's a hint: It has something to do with your path towards total self-love and fulfillment. Confusing, eh? He is one of your soul mates. All soul mates come into your life for reasons. Sometimes, it's not apparent at the time but further down the road, or shall I say your life's path, the reason will be very apparent.

You definitely sound like a sensible "with it" individual and it has made me so happy to have found someone who is on the right track. A lot of questions about the soul mate experience that I receive comes from people who have given up and don't know which road to take. You have found that road. I see a beautiful ending at the end of your road.

Depends on what you're looking for. If you're looking for a date...a little companionship...they're fine. If you're looking for your soul mate, forget it. Soul mates cannot be "made" as those online dating sites claim and can only be "born." Some have come away lucky enough to have found one of their companion soul mates, but I just can't see finding your soul mates through a service that advocates finding the one you are supposed to be with by filling out a form and hoping for the best. Sure, you'll find someone you might be compatible with, but that's not all there is to the soul mate experience. There are things like chemistry. You can't feel chemistry online even as much as you think you can. If you do, the chemistry is an allusion...all in your mind. True chemistry only is apparent when two individuals come into physical contact. Oh...don't get me started on online dating sites. I've never used them myself but I just can't see charging people to find their soul mates for them when only the individual person is capable of doing that and only when their soul mate is within close proximity.

This is funny because I had to look at your profile to make sure it wasn't my own son posting! My son is 22 and has never had a real date either. The last girl that he thought was a potential girlfriend dumped him mercilessly and he's quite gun shy at this point. At least you want to get out there...I wonder about my son sometimes...lol. What I would advice you to do is to chill and stop worrying about it. Twenty is still young and if you look at the young women and men out there today, they hang out in groups instead of dating anyway. Pursue your passions. What is it that gives you pleasure, makes you smile and takes up a good bit of your worrying time? Do it again. You will find that when you do this, your soul mate will appear right in front of you. Hope this helps!