Ms Omaniac

i wish i was an attorney and could tell you what you legally can and cannot do. i would think that the welfare of the child, being the caregiver of the child, your wife having serious issues that could endanger the child or having the children testify that they want to be with you should account for something....even if it's partial custody. unfortunately, the only option i can think of besides seeing an attoreny is to document EVERYTHING...keep a journal on a daily basis and take pictures and video of instances. you sound like a decent man...i hope you are able to get out of your marriage with your step-children.

unfortunately, i dont think there is a way to do that. you cant force someone to love you. what you can do though is to be yourself and hope that that is good enough and that he loves you back. when i was with my ex...i loved him like crazy. i would have done ANYTHING to make him love me like how you said. nothing i did made him love me more. if anything, trying to make him jealous or trying to get him to talk to me and only me backfired. what you want is to control somebody and well...that doesnt normally work out. and if it DOES work out...that cant be the healthiest of relationships either.

that's a toughy. maybe the next time she tries to contact you...you respond back? Maybe see why she is getting in contact with you? If her reasons suck then you should just keep ignoring her but if the reason she is contacting you again is because she realizes now she made a mistake then...maybe try to talk it out? Sometimes the only way we learn our lessons in life is to go through it. And maybe after such a long period of time without you, she realized she made a huge mistake and will be willing to try and fix it. It's your call....but if i still loved the person...I'd in the very least hear them out and hear if their solution is good enough... or if their solution still needs you to ignore them so more.... or ignore them permanently.

you should DEFINITELY talk to her. since you have the same class with her, think of a class-related excuse. if you dont talk to her...you'll always regret not pursuing this. trust me...that happened to me once. i was completely crazy about this one guy in class and we never approached each other. that was years ago and i still think about that guy and wonder if we had anything in common. i KNOW if he would have just approached me, i would have tried to keep talking to him about anything...all he had to do would be to say hi. it's sooo frustrating that now i wish i wouldnt have been so shy and initiated a conversation. hope things work out for ya.

You should definitely start seeing a therapist. Those thoughts cannot be normal. You should do them because you might act on them and maybe therapy will help you NOT get to that point. Because you are in danger of hurting either you or yourself, maybe you should consider getting help from a center that you live there for awhile. Good luck with that.

Well...I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. Before him, I was madly and deeply in love with another and we didnt work out. My ex was the only man I ever truly loved. I had dated before but I'd never felt like that about another. When we didn't work out...I was completely crushed. Eventually, I met another which is my current boyfriend. Problem is I dont love him like how I loved my ex. When I met my current boyfriend, he told me he also had been dumped by a girl that shattered his heart. He was going to marry her and she dumped him rather cruelly. We both took this relationship that we are in now VERY slowly because we were both cautious about being hurt again and because we really enjoyed each other's company more than anything. Even though I know I love him, I'm not crazy in love with him. And as more time passes, I dont think I ever will be either. Im wondering if it's because my ex did me so wrong, I will never be able to? Or am I wasting my current boyfriend's time? Also, my current boyfriend told me a year ago he didnt love me. Since then we havent talked about it but he also has NEVER told me those 3 words "I love you". That really hurt but he said he really cared about me and that ALSO maybe because he was done so wrong by his ex, that maybe he is scared to trust in me. He knows that he doesn't want to break up either because we both are in a relationship where we both treat each other with respect and are very good to each other. We laugh a lot and genuinely care a great deal for another. It feels like a healthy relationship. Do we have a chance? Oh, and also we both can only see each other about once or twice a month because he lives 4 hours away. We are total phone junkies and check in on each other a lot and talk at night for long periods of time everyday. I thought maybe one of the possibilities is because since he lives so far away, it's harder for both of us to get close enough to fall in love maybe? Any advice will be a huge help.