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swingfox had some great advice but id like to add that you need to just go for it. Ask her for her phone number after you talk to her a bit more, ask her what her plans are for summer, what kind of music she likes, look for common intrests, something you can discuss, to show your even more intrested compliment her on how her hair looks, watch for changes in her appearance day to day as you get to know her more so you can say o i like how your wearing your hair today etc. Dont be condescending but dont put her too high on a pedestal. and again like swingfox said BE YOURSELF good luck, if hope everything works out like you want it to. ~

listen, you really need to talk to someone if your thinking this seriously about it. depression can also be a physical problem, one that can be solved with medication. if not that you need to talk to someone, remember never give up, life is a gift and one not worth giving away. keep going ~

thank you swingfox, i think that you are right in many ways, as for being prosecuted for what i have done and might do i think that may be part of why im not able to now. This girl is not the kind to get angry after a breakup, she just gets sad, and i wouldnt do that to her so i dont know. Talking to my parents probly would help but i dont think its an option in this circumstance, my dad might understand but my mom would most definatly not. Maybe ill move to a state where 16 is the legal age of consent. anyway i have to go to work so thanks again later! ~

screw communication, just from what ive heard i think this relasionship is lost, if he cant understand you, and refuses to listen, always pushing for more he only wants you for one reason, i think you know what that is. No matter how much he says he loves you, see where it leads, does he say i love you and i want to show you how? or does he say i love you and i want you to be happy no matter what, tell me why your sad and ill do everything i can to change your mood. Money is not a substitute for love, think, what kind of girl gives more for money, isnt that the basis of that argument, think what does he really see in you? You need to realize that you have control in this relasionship, just as much as he does, if he cant understand that he isnt getting sex than you need to leave him, only give what you want to give, if you dont want more than what youve given than he should know and RESPECT that, if he doesnt then he doesnt than he doesnt respect you. Its hard but its true, someone once said tell all the truth but tell it slant, this isnt a time for that, tell him straight whats going on, if he wont understand LEAVE HIM! you can ~

if you dont want it than you dont need to do it just to please him. if he really loves you he can wait, 7 months is not that long. If he gives the corny "If you really lvoe me you would" slap him in the face bc if he really loved you he would let you make your own decisions instead of presuring you liek he is. if he is gunna leave you bc he doesnt get some than let him leave, hes not in the relasionship for the right reasons, if you do "love" each other than you will be able to talk to him openly about this and he will understand, if it is just lust your relasionship will fall apart. Decide what do you want? understand if he does leave you bc of this he doesnt really care about you and know he is not the only one in the world, it may be your first relasionship but it wont be your last if you break up, good luck and follow what you know is right ~ Late

yes i have thought about those things, college ill be starting next year, if there is a baby, not too likely, but if there is one, ill take it and love it because i made it. College could wait until things settled down, money there is enough to live by, she wouldnt be able to leave her home anyway. right now im more worried about this poison oak on my arm than if i had a baby.

k im kinda sorta with this girl, shes 16, im 18, i know its illegal but we have been trying to do it for awhile now, at least 3 times, each time ive had trouble getting it up, ive never had this problem before, but i havent had sex for over 5 months. Im in highschool, living with my parents and my mom and dad lately have been really interested in taking every chance they can get to tell me how i should not be sexually involved with anyone, i think they want me to know that before i leave for college. I know i probly shouldnt but we both want it now. They even made a list of rules and one of them was no going past second base, i already have, but im not gunna tell them! now ive been thinking a lot about what they have said to me and i think that may be one of the reasons ive been having this problem, the last time we tried i was almost fully hard when the phone rang (we were at my house) and it was my mom, one of the first thing she asked was if i had broken "the rule" the night before (prom, and yes i did break the rule) and if i was being good now (i had my finger in her) that really freaked me out and when we went back to try and finish it after i was done talking i could not do it. well this is really bothering me cause ive never had this problem before and this girl wants me as much as i want her, maybe even more, i dont want to keep her disappointed. any words of advice welcome, thanks ~

k check out my old post for the rest of the story but heres how it stands now: im hearing from a lot of ppl that this girl wants me k and some of them are seriously random ppl some of them are good trustworthy friends of mine. but ive called her and she gave me the short answer thing and said she didnt feel like lunch or movie etc.. called her twice anyway im thinkin about settin somethin up i think her bday is comin soon flowers and this poem i wrote: "Your beauty is in the sky, Just as the fiery sun spills below emerald seas When golden rays light thin cloud wisps. The colors there are the ones that grace your cheek Ones that shine from every curve to light a room, to warm a heart. In Golden hills that mimic your flowing hair As the grass blows silently in the breeze, distant yet near. In Shimmering waves crashing against the beach, Your eyes are there, their brilliance in the mist And further out, where the ocean turns dark, their depth. Gazing up a cloud turns crimson, your lips. Those lips it is my only wish to hear Say my name, say more to me. Instead, ignoring me you turn away, The final blazing sliver slips beneath the waves, Shadows creep towards me. As the hills loose their flare The clouds turn to gray The ocean quiets. And I am left in the cold dark, alone." and a little card on some roses that says: "if i had a single flower for everytime i think of you i could walk forever in my garden" b4 i do this tho im gunna make like 4000 phone callz and be sure any advice or just to day u idiot thatl screw up anything what i really wanna know is if this is too foreward for a girl i dont know 2 well yet, i really do want to know her better tho thanks and if u need mroe info dont hesitate to ask

heres an ides, i thought of it myself get her some flowers and write it to her, you can write cant u if u have trouble with what to say dont use the roses are read violets are blue thing plz its just old try something crazy like if i had a single flower for every time i think of you i could walk forever in my garden or something like that, girls love that kinda stuff, dont they girls ~ good luck and just be urself

~ yea they got back together, he really didnt have a good reason to end it. now they look and sound a lot better than even b4 i havent really go the chance to talk to my friend since they mended it (a couble hours ago) but im sure they talked about some of the things htey should of anyway now i know the girl a lot better than b4 all this which is good cause she has a lot of cool friends. thanks for your advice, again if any1 has the time to check out my old post im still not sure if i should go after that girl again Thanks, again and later ~

he talked to me about it a lot like started telling me everything that was going on what she said 2 him n stuff, were good friends so its always like that but i was talking to her 2 and she jsut said i need help n i tol her to call but she said she was crying 2 much to talk, so we jsut typed. that is oen thing im worried about tho whether or not i help or hinder, i want to make sure i dont hinder b4 i get into this more if they ask me 2, for now i will be talking to my friend cause hes my friend and ill be there, whether he likes it or not hes gunna hear from me about this and he will talk to me, i know he will. ill talk to her if she wants me 2 again ~thanks again

they are highschool age the girls a freshman 14 or 15 and the guys a junior 16. As for reasons he told me that when he thinks of her it makes him sad, he said he loves her but he goes and dumps her just like that, she had a hard past and she talks about it to him and he says he wants to think happy when he thinks of a gf. she is completely devestated and was begging him to take her back like right after he said its just over. he says the sex is good and all but i think that its not good for their relasionship. she is a nice girl and he thinks shes strong but im not so sure, i sometimes see a little of a dependency not just on him as her bf but she needs people to follow her to feel good. For instance this sad sad girl that hangs out with her is always following her around and will do anything for her. i think it is really hard for her b/c she is very dependant on other people for support even though he says shes very independent, i havent spent as much time with her but i can read people well so that is what i think about her. for him hes controling same as her almost but more independent, he sees her as a sex toy and doesnt really care about her sometimes i think but then will turn around and be like this girl means soo much to me, one amazing thing that ive seen in him is since he hooked up with her he hasnt really picked up anymore girls and he seems happier. i dunno Yes i am concerned for her b/c i know her a little and this guy is a very good friend of mine and i know he does care about her. talking to her after he broke it was depressing, i tried to change the subject asking her whats shes doing for spring break n stuff and she tell me dying, that is why im worried about her, she cried for hours tonight and her bitch ass mom came and gave her crap about the noise. to top it off one of her best friends that i wanted her to call to have her come over is someone shes mad at right now. aher otehr good friend lives 2 far away to be here for too long. neway this girl is very unstable atm and im worried about her thats all, im also afraid that if she does something my good friend here will follow her and im not sure about his reasons yet, im gunna wait till things have cooled down to talk to him about it but im not sure that his reasons are that great, they might even get back together, but i dont c this happining if shes begging him to take her back and hes not goin for it ~ thanks if u have anymore questions please ask away ill keep u posted on what happens tomorrow etc and thanks for any help.

dang this is messed up: i havea good friend whos been going with thsi girl and he tonite he said since she was making him sad everytime he thought about her, i need to find morea bout that but they kind got in a fight and he dumped her, this girl seriously needs him to survive, shes had a hard life and was very happy with him and b/c's shes young she didnt think of it ending. anyway i was talking to both of them right when they broke up, the guy on teh phone the girl on aim and she is pleading with him to take her back, serious depression here, now i know this si right after the breakup and everything and i need to wait and c how things look after time but if any1 can tell me what i can talk to about to eitehr of them to make them feel better now cause they are both feeling the pain huge like and im not sure the girl can take it. i thought th3ey were a great couple and my good friend (the guy) was very happy until just tonight, happier than hes been in awhile. now b/c they are young its most liekly lust than love but they both really did mean it i think b4 when they said they loved each other pleas any ideas are helpful, talking to them both now i dont know what to say on their relasionship and i change the subject as much as i can. what do u think and have u ever been in a situation like this tell me! , please ~ Thanks!!!

yea they are not really good friends of mine one of them i didnt even know until this class but both of them tell me she talks about me when im gone n stuff. i said they were talking bull but they stuck to it so i dunno, i like her and thats what matters for now, i want to wait a little longer but there are only 4 days left of this class and i dont think im in any of her classes next trimester. Anyway thanks for your help, im still not really sure what to do next tho so more advice would help, has any1 ever had a similiar situation? what happened? thanks again!

k i kinda sorta met this girl in class and even though i didnt get to tal to her too much i decided to call her and ask her if she wanted to do something on the weekend, i used the phone directory b/c for the first time ever i wussed out on asking a girl for a phone number. Ne wayz she basically said no so i sucked it in and waited a few days, i still said hi to her at school n stuff tho. when i called her again she was giving me short, vague answers to anything i asked her, like i could tell she was eitehr in a really bad mood or hated me. Now there are kids in my class that tell me she always talks about me if i go to do something or leave the room but im not sure i believe them, should i just talk to her smore maybe ask her if i can call her or something or wait awhile or should i call her again and see whats up? or do u have an even better idea that will make her fall in love with me forever cause i could use that 2 thanks for anything late