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  1. Damn... I hope I don't end up dating another girl like this one. You're right. She must have some real emotional issues. I really hope she eventually breaks out of this. She does have a 14 month old baby after all.
  2. Hi rainy! Well, I think after you've had some time to absorb and learn from your last relationship, it's a great idea to get back in the dating world. But I think it's impossible to have a little intimacy without someone wanting more. I just had an encounter with finding a girl I was dating sleeping with her ex, so I'm a bit biased. My advice would be to go out, have a good time, but try and keep the sex out of it. It complicates things so much. In time, if the two of you are patient enough, your feelings for your ex will dissipate, and so will his. Also... asking someone out on a Friday night is a great idea. It doesn't look desperate at all!
  3. Yea, I definitely would rather be on the extreme you're on. At least you know your time won't be wasted. It just sucks that she was so heartless in the end. How can someone fake feelings like that? Sometimes I think some people enjoy lying.
  4. What can I say? I seem to pick the really good ones. This girl and I were dating for about a month. I know enough about relationships to not date someone who is not over their ex. She told me everything about him... the fact that he just got out of jail, how he pushed her all the time, and how he cheated on her. SHe swore up and down she was over him. I was confident she was over him. We spent almost every day together and she would call me five times a day. She told me how she would give up everything except her child for me. Things were going great, not just on a sexual level. But then I noticed her ex's name on her outgoing call list. I asked her about it and she swore it was nothing. I told her we should not see eachother until she was over her ex. But she cried (tears and all) and said she really was over him, and that she was scared of losing me. Well... a week later I had a gut feeling something was going on. So one afternoon I decided to stop by her place. After knocking for a minute or two, her ex-boyfriend answers the door (as he's zipping up his pants). She was busted. Apparently, she told him I was some gay guy to just study with. He never knew I was in the picture, and vice versa. He was calm about it though. We both left her apartment, but then he wanted my phone number to hang out with me! LOL! I gave him my number in case he needed to talk, and to make sure there were no hard feelings. She text me later saying "Im sorry but I love him and will always love him. I'll never get over him and never will." Can you believe that? Just thought I'd share this with you all, maybe some of you can relate. What was she thinking? Well, she is only 20 yrs old. Some girls can be vicious liars.
  5. What an outstanding quote. I really appreciate the support I've been recieving from you all. I'm trying to keep my mind occupied, but it's hard when I get flashes of my ex getting intimate with some other guy. It's also hard to hang around my bedroom because it reminds me of the ex. But I am trying VERY hard to let NC heal the wounds. I owe all of you one. I don't know how many times I've held my cell phone in my hand, ready to call my ex, but then I jump to this thread and re-read all the comments and the urge stops.
  6. Why would she try so hard to forget about me? Sleeping with someone else so soon totally devalues what our relationship was worth. This is definitely a sign that she won't be coming back. I've never been so depressed....
  7. Peace! Hey man, you're in a tough spot. I think it was great that you kept up the NC. But I think you're reading into this the wrong way. Try not to analyze her reactions so deeply, it'll drive you C R A Z Y! It seems like she is trying to get the message accross that she is doing ok with her current bf, and that she isn't interested in persuing anyhitng with you right now. Again, considering this is a rebound relationship she's in, I doubt it's going to work (she probably knows that in the back of her mind). I understand you're looking for reconciliation, but wait for her to meet you to that point. As far as your deep, hour long conversation, she knows she can talk to you about her kids because you care. You were with her for two years which means you know her kids well, at least better than her current bf. Don't worry peace, you sound like a good guy. Just worry about yourself and let HER sort out HER problems. It's important that she finds out that you aren't always going to be there for her.
  8. Damn... I just got home from work, and a mutual friend of mine and my ex's emailed me telling me my ex slept with some guy. We just broke up two weeks ago! My hands are freaking numb. How can she forget about me already? Why would she do this to me? I knew she would eventually sleep with someone else, but I can't believe she's doing it already. I'm devastated. If there's an ear out there, thanks for lending it.
  9. Hey all! I was wondering what everyone thinks about asking stangers out. For example, at a bar, or in the line of a supermarket. Is this a terrible way of approaching someone? The only thing you're going off of is physical attractiveness. Any cool stories would be appreciated.
  10. Dude, I'm sorry man. I know that has to hurt. Keep in mind that she is young and doesn't know what a real relationship is. She's going to have to learn through experience. The best thing you can do is NC (no contact). NC let's you get over her emotionally, while keeping your pride intact. I know it's harder said than done, but it's truly the best thing to do in this situation. I'm in the middle of NC right now. But because of NC, the sun shines a little brighter every day.
  11. Yea my man. You're young, so you should experience relationships with other people. After all, your ex is doing it right? Obviously she still has feelings for you, but she also has a need to experience relationships with other guys as well. I don't really recommend being "friends." You could probably do what she's doing to you, and have her as someone to kinda date on the side, like a cushion. How long have you two been broken up for?
  12. Yea. She does need to experience who else is out there. That's why I didn't put up much of a fight to keep her. I feel bad for texting her this past Saturday. I hope that didn't make me look like a dumbass. But it was the only time I contacted her since we broke up. I just really missed her. But hey, as of now, I will no longer text her. Like I've been told, if it's meant to be, she'll come back. Thanks to everyone who has given me input. It really helps to talk about it and get other views on the situation. Good luck with your situation clodhopper. Personally, I find it impossible to be just friends with someone I had a relationship with.
  13. Have any of you regretted and/or tried to get back with someone you dumped in the "younger" days?
  14. Damn.... the truth is depressing. I thought this "need to be alone" thing was just another "break." I really hope people take relationships more seriously as I get older. I don't know how much more disappointing relationships I can take.
  15. I agree with annie. Although I'm not sure if you'll get an honest, straight answer if you ask him if he's still in love with his ex. Four years of this is waaayyyyyy too long to be holding onto something. His heart needs to be in the right place (with you). That can't happen when he's texting his ex about how much he misses her.
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