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So far their one aspect of attrcation that was discovered: compatibility of immune systems, it shows through smell: attrcative partners find each other smelling very good! And it is possible I guess to figure it out sicinetifically by analyzing human's data: DNA etc. But no one cares about it, human prefer to send billions to other planets we don't care about. 2. Humans unfortunatelly as a society are very stupid. Why would they research space fillied with nothing and planets filled with the same nothing instead of taking on problems of more important values such as attraction and love here on the Earth?

1. I personally find us stupid: humans can laugh spaceships to Mars but cannot and are not going to figure out "chemistry" of attraction through DNA for example. Is not it dumb? We sent billion on plantes we do not give a crap about, but suffer here not finding a good match. Moreover it is not even considering as a research goal as far as I know. Ok, to bring some good ideas: I have read about sombody in UK who used his restaurant as a matching device. He invites couples, and give them a menu that has a long list of dishes. Each person from a couple is to choose 3 (or 5, I forgot) of them while not talking to each other. Based on this simple data, the more identical dished they choose, the better their compatibity. How about that? 2. Well I think if a guy do not like large boobs then we would not able to re-convince him. I think it is not a matter of what he believes in, it is a matter of experience. He would be better off try dating girls he like and figure out by himself what is better for him: to care about boobs or not.

1. which looks at data and then makes various summaries about the person. My dad did a PhD on it. 2. So I think it's better to trust your instict and emotions when it comes to "clicking" than science. I mean if everything is up to science in terms of love, emotions and feelings...the whole "magic" of love sort of dies in the end. 3. Love to me is mystery and I appreciate it more when it just "happens" without me knowning who my right partner is - I like to think that other forces are working around me, and I prefer those things to remain a mystery. 1. Well, if you dad did his PhD on it, I would expect from you some more specific data then just "various summaries"..... What kinda summaries? anything about being compatible with another person? 2. You are so funny tonight: "the whole "magic" of love sort of dies in the end"... it is like your favorite magic movie channel disappear.. Your favorite toy would have been taken from you.... Why do you need this "magick"??? Just to suffer from breaksups, or incompatible with you guys? When you accumulate enough of dating experience (and obviously some of it could be bad dating experience) you might think differently. 3. Of course, since guys should do all the work and you would just sit around doing nothing, sure you like it. Are we talking about equality of genders these days? I dislike this kinda "mistery" when somebody get away with doing nothing and wants to continue doing nothing in terms of dating. It is just me.

5. ??? If you meet lot of people and can accidentally meet male friends... dons't it just seem to you that you have very high requirements for a bf? 6. My house is next to a leasing office. But since they do not have a sidewalk there, I had to drive there. Imagine, to drive about 100 feet

Why you, guys, are so... emotional? Calling names without even a little explanation "why". Look, he might think so if he is shopping for a wife, especially in rural kinda communities. Then I would not call him a nasty person, it is just a way he is. Moreover I don't think many men would think it terms of that nasty names for their women. Early sex might intimidate men somwhat though, since it would appear that they have lost their control over "who is doing what". Men are taught to be masculine and if a woman is talking initiative it may looks like these women are more masculine than men. Plus it is a "surprise": even in our modern days not mamy men would expect her to take initiative.

I see people here LOVE to contemplate what LOVE is. And seems no one ever wanted to think what money are for them... in the sense what would you do with a lot of money? There was a great in my opinion poll: what would do if you win a lottry (10 mil for example). I noticed most people do not have anything creative in mind: just pay my debts, other debts, buy a car and a house go for a vacation comprise 99.9% response. I honestly could not get: what a big Mercedes make you happy? if yes, why? I just don't get.. not that I don't like good cars, they are fun, but they would not contirbute to my feeling of happines much. Or a house. If you are single or even married, why would you need a good, big... meaning expensive? I don't get it: walls that confine me would not make me happy either. And we all go on a vacation from time to time, don't need a lottery to win. So is not it a bit depressing: most people so much want money (to show where I stand: I want it too) but have so few ideas how to use them (I definitely have more ideas here) and this use seem to me so ineeficient in making them happy... This makes me think people want money not because they do not have food, a car and a place to live, in fact we all do have something, but because we are taught to want MORE and MORE and MORE money.. which in turn leads me to a conclusion that most people want some sort of prestige, to feel good in eyes of other people that money can buy.

Interesting, I am sure you just forget how it works in real life. People do judge others based on their genes: a good nose, nice looking cheeks, beautiful eyes... People do judge, and moreover are looking for good genes based on what they see: in fact what they see is the most crucial attraction factor to date somebody. Another matter if you consciosuly say "I am looking for large breasts", one feature ALONE doesn't make any sense at all to look for. "Chemistry" and an attractive face are the most important attraction factors. But what are they as if not genes?

1. I am not busy. I just do not have "the natural course of events" at all: I don't have basically any co-workers and no one invites me to parties. I don't drink cofee either. 2. Cuz you cannot expand you view, man. You are in a huge city, whereas I am in suburbs. This is SO different. 3. If you a people person, yes, thats true. What if you are not? The online thing is to resort to online dating. 4. Maybe you just have plenty of female attention plus study a lot and do not give a crap about getting a gf who would distract you with more materialistic projects from your thoughts? 5. Wrong in my opinion. Try it. you have NEVER TRIED to say it doesn't matter. Try meeting 5 girls for a date and try 20. And you'll feel the difference. After 5 dates you will just get frustrated mostly likely, but 20 would most likely give a match. 6. You know the answer: if order to find one person you gotta meet hundreds. 7. It is true and not true at the same time. Even if you already met your great match, you still gotta try to dress well, to shave and in general be good. The same idea applies to a profile: you gotta try to do your best, otherwise women, your best potential match included, won't find it attractive and won't talk to you.

I am just wondering: how do you personally evaliuate compatibility with a guy? Anything specific or it is just ...a feeling of being in love with him?

Ok, I guess that is true, but what is fascinating about it? Since it is just a theory, it doesn't have any practical consequences for us, people. They would better do not spend time in immune systems match but rather figure out a way to get a good match for people in a practical sense. For example: invent some sort of test that can say how two people are compatible using their data: their blood, DNA, or anythign else... That would be really COOL! Oh wait... Caldus: You got a a very good question!!! I am sure somehow they can do some tests and get the compatibility of the systems. In my opinion they already can make tons of money, millions literraly in this new kind of dating: Just imagine: they get your data about your immune system, and then.. they deliver to you matches that 100% compatible with you in term sof attraction! It is so GREAT!!!!! I mean it would be if they get enough brains to sell their findings. Unfortunately it is eaither it is super expensive or they just speculate...

5. Well I goofed here, my fault of communication. I do have time, I don't know how to find any friends or anyone, all I tried (go to some group or club failed) 6. Wow! It is nothing like that aorund here: no one is standing, no one walk on streets: people are either driving or rush to a store to buy stuff. I didn't see people standing...especially talking to strangers! 7. Well. I really do not any real co-workers. There are in some distant labs and yes they don't care to talk more than usual How are you doing..

I definitely agree about openness, though I guess the sex education even in Holland is not good enough since some teens can, want to sex unprotected sex.... I cannot say anything about US school, I didn't go to US school. And in universities obviously no one cares anymore about it. And in my opinion Holland is way more open about sex than US.

I really really believe that it is great to have sex education. One thing, it should not be full of fear, it would send a wrong message then, I hope it was not like that...

Ok, thanks, I guess it is not a good idea to promote having 0 attempts\replies concept. richgabe explained above in detail why it is not good.

cassandra, if you would like to keep them happy press 1 1. Do not tell them anything. if you would like to keep tell them and keep them relatively happy press 2 2. Tell them but tell SLOWLY (as I said in the previosu message) if you would like to have unpredictable result press 3 3. tell them right away.

Sure I agree with you right here:

I am sorry. Lets keep it simple then, why do you think exposure to sex objects is not good? COuld you elaborate on that?

People, you keep saying one thing over and over: Love, love love...we all know love is important and good. When it comes to actual dating most people won't go to love stage unless they make sure he is finansially stable or promising in this aspect. Lets talk real, ok.

1. If you think that violence is worse than sex in terms of moral that is your primary concern here, lest talk about exposure to violence, not sex. I want to talk about violence and alcohol with you, I want to see if you are as passionate about those topic as about morals. Somthing tells me you are not. 2. The point is when you ban something, cover somthign it immediately became more attractive. I personally find a woman with a little clothes on is sometime smore attarctive than a totally naked woman. I believe it is true in every aspect of life. 3. Ok, ok. I might agree with you, just tell me why you as adults are so bothered by a view of plastic shapes in a showcase? They do not turn you on, thay don't make you angry... then why? 4. No I don't think so it has a really strong correlation. I guess the lack of sex education is what make it worse. Sex is still something people are not suppose dto talk about, teenagers would try all banned things just to look like adults and out of curiosity. They should be educated to have sex, and they are not - this is what I find partuculary disturbing... Even if people start having sex at older age... you automatically assume they will be more educated? No! if no one is going to teach them, then their sex knowledge would be on the same low level. We got ta start educationg people, not fussing about morals. Educated people are sort of inoculated to bad things and there'll be no need of being overly moral. Think about education versus morals: what would you choose to instill in your child? (Dont say both, we all want to eat a cake and have it)

Just want to make sure: are you speaking as a parent? or as somebody who date online and need to present this to parents?

I find it suepr weird. People do say it is important in marriage: money finnacual stability etc When it comes to a poll, 99% of people deny money as a reason. How hypocritical...

Since I am the author I'll clarify: not a "good ratio", but what is your ratio? What is your ratio? Besides it does matter: the more replies you get, the better. You won't argue with that saying "The less replies you get the better". Every normal individual would say "The more the better". If you say "it doesn't matter" I can conclude you don't care about online dating at all, do you?

1. If you think it is that bad, vote to a ban of liquor stores... they do hurt so many people 2. Why it is popular? Cuz sex is somthing people are not used to talk about, but they want it. As a result those kinda proructs are poplular. Lift that veil of "no no lets not talk about sex" and it will be allright in a moment. If you ban somthig it is not going to be any good. Example: in US people younger 21 cannot buy alcohol. So you think they don't drink? Just the opposite: teh most active part of people who use to party a lot and drink as much as they can. 3. You don't like it? don't watch it. You see, it is fine for some reasons to violently kill people in movies....you don't find it strange? Every other movie has shooting. Man... have you ever fired a real gun? Try it somewhere in safe environment... maybe then you will realize that to show violence is much worse...then showing sex related thigns. 4. I think you are very young 8-P

Great post Annie! I agree, with you: society is full of weird stereotypes: violence is better than sex.. if you hit sombody it is almost ok, but if you had a sex ..oh it is a big deal! The key is to balance the situation: to include massive sex educationin school and in general eliminate the notion that sex is somehting... we are not going to talk about. But at the same time this education should emphasized dangers of sex too: like cars. Sure they are great, but man... they kill people everyday, you got drunk and you can kill a dozen of people... Same with sex: all aspect of it should be covered. It should be open! They sell plastic penises.. ok so what? It has nothign to with morals...the store next door sells massage brushes: so what? their purpose is the same, you just apply it to different spots... Still immoral? No Way! In a nutshell: the problem is that countries have bad moreals (sex sells etc). not at all. The problem people are not educated about sex. If you don't know about a subject mostl likely you are going to screw up... Very simple. If you are prepared you will be fine.