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    What did you do pinkbunnie?!?! What happened? -SuperDave71
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    Most welcome Shaker!!! -SuperDave71
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    Tony, Believe in yourself FIRST and just keep on moving forward....the pain and "What if's" will subside if you REALLLLLY want them to. Take care and GOOD LUCK with the challenge!!!! Welcome to eNotAlone!! Your friend, SuperDave71
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    Gooooooooooooooooooooooood morning class!!! ha ha How is everyone doing?? Man oh man...It took me 20 minutes to read every thread from last night to this morning. In Memphis its 11:43 in the morning and I have finished off 5 espressos...WOO HOO!! Does ANYONE feel this challenge has done them good? Or do you feel the challenge has ONLY MADE IT MORE DIFFICULT? I am interested because I started this challenge for you guys. I want your input so we can possibly help one another more. I see progress in some..set backs in others, but of course that is to be expected. The lesson that is supposed to be learned here is simple: **DO THIS FOR YOU..NOT YOUR EX whatsoever.** When you take the focus off your ex, you head starts to clear. The "What if's" start to fade..You can sleep better... What I learned through my own NO CONTACT 2 years ago was that the more I thought of my ex, the worse I became. I couldn't work, I couldn't think, I couldn't focus, I couldn't do the common things I would do on a daily basis.. BUT...I was FOOLING MYSELF... I could do ALL OF THOSE THINGS...I JUST WOULDN'T ALLOW MYSELF TO THINK ABOUT ANYTHING BUT HER. UGH!! It was horrible!!! I had a lake at my previous job that I would walk around when I started feeling sad.....needless to say, I probably walked 100 miles around that lake. I would cry while walking hoping no one would see a grown man cry because I missed her so much. I have felt what you guys are feeling...more than others..less than some BUT we have alllll been there. We are a team.... We are here to support one another; Mine is past but will NEVER forget the pain I felt..or the life changing lessons because of it. Depending on what you believe, time does not stand still..and NEVER goes backwards. Life forces us to move forward whether we like it or not... Think of it this way...if you have ever been in the airport and been on the conveyer belt that THROWS you backward when you step on it because it is going so fast...you knw what I mean Some enjoy the ride quietly...some hold on for dear life...other want to hurry past you BUT..you are ALL ON THE SAME PATH... Make sense? Even those that walk backwards on a forward conveyer are STILL forced forward... My point is simple....Hold on...relax and enjoy the ride. Don't make it any more difficult on yourself than you have to if you can. Life is way to short to be so overwhelmed over someone...WORRY ABOUT YOU!! If you can't learn to love and respect yourself, how can you truly love and respect another? Your Friend, SuperDave71
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    I understand....you can get thru it man! -SuperDave71
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    Come on over Soon_tobex.. I'll cook ya some dinner and give you a glass of wine so you can vent a while. I would be more than happy to listen. On a serious note...your "wife" is not happy at all. She brews negativity and it oozes form every pore on her body. Misery loves company... I want you to try something for me (yourself really).. The next time she says something negative..throw in a positive and smile...if she meets it with a negative,...smile and throw in a postive. If she meets the last one with a negative....go to the net...look up reciepes...find a DARN GOOD ONE... Soon, make dinner...wine...candles....light music and when she sits down....tell her you have the ift of a lifetime!! GIVE HER THE DIVORCE PAPERS!!!! She is sucking the very life outta you. Life is meant to be LIVED man!! If you had a tumor and they said you woudl die if it wasn't removed...what would you do? Think about that last statement.....it's those that have BEEN THERE and DONE THAT ..that can appreciate being HAPPY in life rather than NEGATIVE. It's up to you..... -SuperDave71
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    OK kids ...what have we deducted... MYSPACE = EX boyfriends/girlfriends DON'T GO INTO THE LIGHT!!!! HA HA HA H -SuperDave71 (I am teasin you guys!)
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    Tijuana, You do what you want....BUT...why beat yourself up over NOTHING? YOu have a good head on yoru shoulder....NOW USE IT !! ha ha Thank you for the complement and i will be watching you!! HA HA HA AH -SupDave71
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    Parsley, Hi there. I was floored. It was only dinner with a friend of mine but I was upstaged for a website. I see how important my friendship was ...ha ha Next time, will just ask you to dinner. -SuperDave71
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    Stick you guns... You said "DO NOT CONTACT ME UNLESS SHE HAS SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO SAY" Apparently ....she doesn't have anything to say. DO NOT CALL HER!! -SuperDave71
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    John, I know this is tough man..I really really do. There is NO way...that she can go so HOT And COLD on you. Do you know of ANY signs that you saw or knew of prior to her leaving? -SuperDave71
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    Tijuana, The fact that you ask that question..means that YOU YOURSELF have NOT started to move on as much as I had hoped. I am seriously happy that you had a great time...but I can read that you say: My question is...Who cares about her motives? If its games you guys wanna play...NC is NOT for you. NC is for you my friend....it is not a tooll or a game to get an ex back... Let you ex..be your ex. YOu have no time for this an dwhy in the world should you even WORRY about such trite little comments by your ex. Are yo unot going out and having fun? Do you find it necessary to display them on a website for ANYONE to read? For you to even be concerned about this means you are STILL letting her get to you. LET GOOOOOOOOO! You can do this...and stay the HECK away from MYSPACE....I HATE THAT CRAP!! Ya know..I actually had a friend turn me down for dinner once...they said they didn't have enough time.....I asked "What are you doing now?" They said updating their MYSPACE page... Needless to say.....they will NOT be asked to dinner again. ha ha ha -SuperDave71
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    Andrea..... Let me help you..... You are NOT moving forward because you DON'T WANT TO. YOu refuse to let go.... It is then AND ONLY then will you MOVE forward in your progress... -SuperDave71
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    Majord23 sums up my view on this one 100%. Thanks Majord!! -SuperDave71
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    Honeyspur.. THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT ABOUT KRNELSON! I even PM'ed him to say THANK YOU FOR THAT ONE! SuperDave71
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    Pisces, Not only is it common since....it hits you like a ton of bricks when you finally get it and let go. What I mean is...it will feel as if the world FALLS OFF YOUR SHOULDERS and you can SMILE AGAIN because you WANT to...instead of "I have to". Make sense? -SuperDave71
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    You guys must remember...and it was tough for me to understand as well years ago, that the phrase "It's all about me" is NOT a selfish statement...it should be your MOTTO. So many out there are so darn afraid to "let go" of their ex that they cling to ANYTHING they can...even a missed call from an unknown number.. I have been there...done that..I was addicted to the caller ID feature. i would check it all t eh time EVEN if I just ran a quick errand. When I finally realized I was acting CRAZY at 33 years old after a 7 year relationship, I sat down and said.."Dave, what teh heck are you doin man!?!?" How is this benefiting y ou and your situation? IT'S NOT!! When I started to look at it like that....I let go. I actually let go. Have you ever seen a good friend in crisis? Ever seen someone at the scene of an accident that just jumps up and down screaming unstead of DOING ANYTHING TO HELP!!!?? So many of us are exactly THAT!! All we want to do is JUMP UP AND DOWN and scream and cry BUT WE DO NOTHING!! How in the WORLD does this help? Plain and simple..IT DOESN'T!! Think about it... Some say my theory of DO NOTHING..is crazy because they associate doing nothing with words like lazy and uncaring. NOT in this case. So many of us try to DO SOMETHING (calling, texting etc) way to early. You are THROWING SALT IN AN OPEN WOUND and it HURTS you the same. Relax...pull yourself together..and use your head more than your heart. You can still love your ex...BUT LOVE YOU FIRST!!! YOU CAN DO IT!! -SuperDave71
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    OK Guys, I have to interject... Lately all I have bene reading is about "Missing the ex". I completely understand that. I really do and I know it's tough out there. Please remember that I want you to WORK ON YOU.... No one says you can't think of your ex....it's almost impossible to do BUT do not obsess. What are you guys learning from all of this? What are you doing to HELP YOU? What have you leaned from others? Are you feeling more confident yet? These are the things I would like to start reading. I want to hear about not only days passing..but what you guys are DOING (actions) that is making you feel better about yourself and situation. Thinking about the ex is one thing but using N.C. in hope of invoking an positive response form your ex is NOT IN THE RULES. N.C. is for you to get YOU back..your confidence and not only what you were before your relationship...but even better. You guys can do this!!! We are all in this together!! I don't want to hear about "snooping email reading" or " I hope my ex calls".. I want to hear how you feel ( Absolutely!! ) but I also want to read more ACTION ..meaning..what you are doing to help YOU!! YOU CAN DO IT!!! -Your Friend, SuperDave71
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    Sandy, No no no..I am not into the challenge... I was only referring to the number of days since I started this challenge on eNotAlone. How is everyone doing? Your Friend, -SuperDave71
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    How is everyone doing today? It's SUNDAY!!! 9 days into the challange.... -SuperDave71
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    Thank you Sandy!!! You are waaaay to sweet!!! How is everyone doing out there? Your Friend, SuperDave71
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    Oh my....I cannot believe I am going to try my "hand" at this one. (ha ha) Typically, men ejaculate when the mons or head of the penis and shaft are stimulated one way or the other. Without physically touching him...or himself....I don't see this happening UNLESS he has a pre-mature ejaculation issue (Meaning he come's to quickly even without stimuli) Hope that helps. -SuperDave71
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    Because you are ALLOWING them to affect you...plain and simple. -SuperDave71
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    HA HA HA HA... Um....I would NOT worry about this one at all!!! HA HA HA HA AH Toooo funny!! You are stronger and better than that. -SuperDave71
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    THERE ya GO Luvmykids!! THAT is EXACTLY the attitude you need!! It's alllll about you!!! NOT YOUR EX! -SuperDave71
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