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ok, over the last three days i got in a fight w/ my gf, broke up w/ my gf, got in a fight w/ pretty much everyone i know, tried to find another gf but realized that i'm too much of a loser, and i've cut myself 8 times when i had gone about a month w/ out cutting myself. I don't know wat to do. I just feel like i don't wanna try anymore. I can't take one more thing or i swear i'm gunna do something totaly stupid and rash. I'm starting to like my friends gf who he's like in love w/, and i've seen this girl that i hadn't seen in like forever that's always made me feel so stupid because i act stupid around her because i'm so nervous. And i just don't know wat to do. I don't wanna keep cutting myself but that's the only thing that gets my mind off of everything. I really need help or i don't know wat i'm gunna do. -matt

hey depressedone, i posted a reply before and since then i have given this a little more thought. The reason people look down upon those who cut rather than those who smoke or drink is because cutting is doing physical damage to yourself that everyone can see, so they automaticaly asume that it's worse than smoking or drinking because noone can see the damage being done by them. Also, if u think about it, people were kinda raised thinking that getting cut is bad and it hurts and it's unpleasent, and when they see someone cutting themselfs on purpose to go through these things intentionaly, they think that u must be crazy. so the main reason people look down upon cutters so much is because they don't understand it, and it's wrong to judge something u don't understand. u were very right about what u said. -matt

ok, i started cutting like 6 months ago then i stoped because my friends and family found out. i got "better" and was no longer depressed so there was no need to cut myself anymore. but lately i've been getting really really depressed and i started cutting myself again and i keep getting more and more depressed. i don't know what i'm supposed to do, i've been depressed for like 3 years now on and off (mostly on) and i don't know how i'm suppposed to get out of it. i need help so if u have any advice it would be appreciated, thanks. -matt

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ok, at the beggining of this year i saw this really hot girl at my school and i started to like her. a little while later one of my friend who is also a girl became reallly good friends w/ her and she started hanging around us, which i couldn't really complain about but it was a little uncomfortable. well, a little while later i am finally starting to get over her and she becomes really depressed and down on herself and my friends and i are really trying to cheer her up. i find out that my friend who first became friends w/ this girl tells her that i like her at the beggining of the year and i find out that she liked me too. ok, so now i'm starting to beat myself up because i had a chance w/ this really hot chick that i liked and i missed it. by this time the "what if's" are starting to run through my head and i start to like her again, but more this time. a couple of weeks later there is this dance at our school and i find out that she wants me to ask her to it but i don't because i can't dance and i'm not planning on going anyway. but i figure that if she wants me to ask her to the dance then she must like me so i figure, what the hell, i'll go and i'll ask her out there. so i buy my ticket and crap, and now i'm going. the next day one of my guy friends asks her to the dance and she says yes...great. well i'm stuck going to the dance now because the ticket was like $35 and i'm really hating it, but i figure, so what, i'll talk to my friend and tell him that i'm going to ask her out at the dance because he already knows i like her and he only asked her to the dance so he's have someone to go w/, or so i thought. a couple of days later he asks her out and she says yes, well woopdie dooo. a little while before the dance gets here my friend gets expelled so now he can't go w/ her to the dance. so when the dance comes around i dance w/ her (slow dance because like i said i can't "fast" dance) and we get to talking and i start to like her even more. a little while after the dance i find out that her and my friend broke up so i decided that i was going to ask her out, but things got really ocward between me and her for the longest time and we stopped takling. so one day when i get to school she is called up to the office and stays there until well after lunch and i find out she is getting expelled. i didn't even get to say bye or any of that crap because she left that day and couldn't come back and i didn't see her, until the other day. i was at the mall and i saw her and i just kinda froze up for a second then walked the other way because she hadn't seen me yet and i didn't want to go up and just be like hey whatsup after not even talking to her for like a month before she got expelled and not seeing her for a couple of months after that. but after i saw her i couldn't stop thinking about her, i just can't get her off of my mind and it's kinda depressing me. she just recently started getting in touch w/ my friends again and they're making plans for us all to hang out at the movies or something. i don't know what's wrong w/ me becuase i still like this girls after like 5 months of not seeing her and nothing like that has ever happened to me before and it kinda creeps me out. i don't know what i should do, if anyone has any advice for me please help. thanks, and sorry for the long story, but believe it or not i just barely skined the top of it. -matt

ok, first of all, don't cut yourself, it's not worth it because eventually people are going to find out and freak out on you, i should know. it is not a good thing and it isn't something that i would recomend doing. however, i know that there's no way you would listen to me seeing as how you don't know me so i'll tell you this, when i used to cut myself i would do it on my upper arm and just wear shirts that covered that area. I feel bad for saying that and giving you advice on how to cut yourself, but yeah, please, just stop doing it and get help. i found that i could have prevented myself from cutting if i had just sat down and talked w/ the people that i care most about about my situation. so please, stop hurting yourself.

hey, i think it sounds like the guy likes you, he just likes the other girl more and doesn't want to miss the opportunity he's been given, since he has been waiting for her for 4 years. if u want him to like you, you can't play hard to get, but you don't wanna come of as slutty either. believe it or not, guys, at leased me and all of my friends, don't like it when girls do either, i know some do, and i don't know about this guy, but i don't. so u want to appear like you interested in him but not desperate either. eventually he will see that he's waisting his time waiting for the other girl to come around and realise that he's be better off w/ you. I know it kinda sounds like it'd be him settling for you, and it might be, but it sounds like at first he'll be settling, then he'll realize that you're the better choice.

hey, i agree w/ u on some parts, but i don't believe that cutting is a healthy thing to do, and niether is smoking or drinking. If u r depressed enough to cut yourself, then u can easily be pushed by the smallest thing to go farther than cutting and doing things like suicide, i should know because i used to cut myself and was almost pushed over that edge. now i agree w/ u that it's not AS bad as smoking weed or cigaretts, but it's still not a good thing. And if we want to get out emotions by cutting ourselfs instead of getting waisted and doing something really stupid like hurting someone else, then i'd say that it's the better choice, but still not a good one and it should be stopped just as smoking and drinking should before it gets really serious and out of control. but u did make some very good points that i had never thought of before, and u actually made me feel less ashamed of myself, so thanks. -matt

I can't seem to work up enough courage to ask anyone out even if i know that they like me back. I always think that they're just lying to embarrass me because i don't think that they would actually like me. i don't know how i can gain enough confindence to ask girls out or even talk to them. If anyone has any advice for me please right, thanks.

thanks a lot for the help guys. I'll try what you suggested. again, thank you.

What you need to do is tell your friend's parents and you need to do it before you friend gets any deeper into deepretion, because chances are, if they're cutting themself, they are in a very deep one. If you want to truly be their friend then you need to get them help. If their cuts are on their wrists, mabee they want someone to see and that's their way of getting attention and crying out for help. I know from experience that often times people cut themselfs to get attention drawn to them so people can see that they're depressed and get help, that's their way of saying it w/out saying it. I don't know if that's the case w/ you friend, but you definatley need to get them help. Good luck w/ your friend, if you want to talk more e-mail me or talk to me on aim.

Hey everybody. Lately i have been depressed and i can't seem to get out of it. I used to cut myself to 'blow off steam' but that just made things worse. I see my friends forming such a tight bond and i feel like i am being left out. Also, my dad seems to have a problem w/ my lately and he sais that we're going to have problems in the future because i like to 'challenge' him. This is a big part of it because i used to be able to talk to my dad about anything, and now i can't. Sometimes i just don't feel like dealing with it anymore and just killing myself, but i know that i won't, and i feel trapt in a world that i hate. i can't tell anyone this because they would think that i am crazy because i have such a good family, nice home, a lot of friends, but there are things that they don't see and don't get, so i bottle all of this up inside me and i'm afraid it's gunna explode out of me one day in a very bad way. At night i often lay in bed and wonder if anyone would even care if i killed myself, wonder what it would be like. i don't know how to get myself out of this state of mind and it's starting to scare me, because it's getting worse and worse. I often feel like i just want to cut myself again because that was the only way i could get my mind off of the mental pain and onto physical pain. if anyone has any suggestions please help me. thank you. -matt

Hi, I know exactly what you're going through because i went through the same thing. I cut myself because I felt that there was nothing else to do. But cutting myself was the worst decision i made. I found out that it would have been better if i would have just talked with my family or friends and they could have given me the help i needed. and since i didn't do that i got my mom freaked out and lost her trust, my dad pissed off because he felt like i couldn't trust him anymore so i'd rather cut myself, and now i have a future full of shrink visits. I felt the same way about going to a shrink, but once i actually talked to someone about how i felt i realized that talking to someone helps, a lot more than cutting myself does. If you just talk to someone, somone that you trust like your best friend then you will feal better. Cutting yourself will only make people lose trust in you and give you ugly scares that you will look at and remember what a stupid thing you did. Just talk to people and you'll see that they do care, and that they care about you. i hope you see the damage that cutting yourself does and that you'll stop. Good luck. e-mail me if you want to talk more and to tell me how things go. -Matt