Using money to buy my attention?

I was seeing this guy for 5 years since I was 19, I am 24 now. He is 18 years older than me. Hes 42. He has always been romantic but when I talk about other guys, like my friend, he gets very mad even though its just a friend. He has been acting very jealous and immature, so i decided to cut things off. Whenever i want to end things, he tells me hes crying and wont accept it. I recently stopped contacting him and want things to be over and done with but he wont stop contacting me and now hes offering me money, he told me he will "give me an allowance to continue dating". Why is he trying to bribe me now? What should I tell him and should I leave him for good? Its hard because ive been seeing him for 5 years now, but I cant believe hes trying to bribe me into seeing him. What is he doing? I am so confused Please help

You should block his number. He sounds pathetic.

He is using you as his sugar baby.

Its very hard to. I know I need to especially after him offering me money but he has some kind of hold on me.

Is this a cyber relationship?

No. We have been dating for 5 years but whenever I want to break up with him because of his jealousy, he tells me he cant handle it starts crying and then tells me he loves me and will pay me to stay. Which makes me confused. Why is he bribing me

I gotta tell you, if a 42 year old man started crying because he couldn't get his way, it would be a complete turnoff.

He is bribing you because he realizes that his chances of finding another 24 yr old to share his bed is likely zero.

And he is essentially saying that he will pay you to be his gf ---- or sex partner. Which kinda makes you into a prostitue, doesn't it?

Yes but he only tells me he will give me a allowance if I stay, only when I tell him I want to break up with him and cut contact

Wait, so what exactly are you confused about again?

Im confused about why hes offering me money when I want to leave. He knows im not like that. So what exactly is he trying to do?

Yes but he only tells me he will give me a allowance if I stay, only when I tell him I want to break up with him and cut contact

Yes, you would have to stay to get the money. He isn't going to give you an "allowance" if you WONT stay and have sex.

Since when does one need permission to break off with someone.....wait, are you actually considering doing it?

Im confused about why hes offering me money when I want to leave. He knows im not like that. So what exactly is he trying to do?

give me an allowance to continue dating

I know you heard him tell you what he was trying to do because you told us.

No. I am not going to do it. I blocked his phone number and social media and everything else. I just don't know why he would say something like this to me?

Because he has no respect for you and thinks that he can buy sex off of you.

Its disrespectful to you that he thinks you'll stick around for an "allowance" . It reaks of pathetic despiration. Steer clear of him now. If not, he will give you money, then use it as a weapon against you as blackmail or the like. Continued association will just get worse.

No. I am not going to do it. I blocked his phone number and social media and everything else. I just don't know why he would say something like this to me?

Because he's trying to confuse you; if you're confused then you're less likely to take firm action. But it's not working Good for you!

Before I blocked him, I told him to get lost, leave me alone and that if he wants a prostitute or escort, he should just go get one. Then he replied "I could if I wanted to, I could get any girl for a couple hundred dollars, but that's not what I want" After that i blocked him but this response made me disgusted by him and also hurt. He was really nice and very charming, and romantic, in the beginning of the relationship but now, ever since he got a better paying job and house, he has been acting so arrogant.

Because he's trying to confuse you; if you're confused then you're less likely to take firm action. But it's not working Good for you!

He wants to pay her to date her and that's exactly what he proposed.

I think he's hoping the outlandish action will be so unexpected that it will make her hesitate.

You guys think too much.

You've already done everything that needed to be done, by telling him to get lost and blocking him. Beyond that, nothing else matters. Who cares why he's offered you money? Just focus on the fact that you are now rid of the creep and you are free to meet a nice, normal guy your age without the plethora of mental issues this older guy has.

You guys think too much.

Or too little.

I think you should stop wondering why he's offering you money on focus on why you would date a loser nearly in his 40s when he chased a teenager.

I think you should stop wondering why he's offering you money on focus on why you would date a loser nearly in his 40s when he chased a teenager.

A guy successfully dating a much-younger (but legal) woman is...a loser? Apparently, if he wants to be a "winner", he needs to date a (much less attractive) woman in her forties? Um, okay. Sign me up for being a loser, then!

Then he replied "I could if I wanted to, I could get any girl for a couple hundred dollars, but that's not what I want"

This is a gigantic-sized clue as to how he feels about women, as well as why he's so immature. Just YUCK.

OP, he is doing this because he is desperate - because he wants to hold onto you so he is throwing out anything that he thinks will make you hold onto him.

Good for you for blocking him. I liked the answer you gave him. It's just disgusting that he thinks women can be bought.