Francis

Why won't you tell your new boyfriend to "talk" to him? That's what I would do! You get rid of the guy and your boyfriend will love you even more!

If you are not interested in hearing from him again, program your e-mail to block his messages.

I believe this guy has no SERIOUS interest. He may have an interest, but not a good one. I wish we could get some feedback from some guys here.

Don't let your jealous friends get between the two of you. Don't start self-doubting because of them. You don't owe them anything. Accept the blessing of being beautiful and accept the blessing that he loves YOU and be happy!

I am sorry to say that the fact that he pinched you means clearly that this guy has ABSOLUTELY no interest in you. I don't think any normal man would do that to a woman he respects, he admires, he wants to have a serious relationship with. He is simply disrespecting you big time and you are falling in his trap because he is so much younger and probably good looking. There could be other reasons why he is acting this way : OFFICE POLITICS. If you are his boss or have more power than him, he would want to suck up in a sexual way to obtain material favours. If you are at his same level, he could act this way to destroy you emotionally and prevent you from competing with him. If you are neither of the above, then may just want to use you sexually : he knows you are single and probably he feels you are vulnerable, which you obviously are. I advice you to stay away from him. He is NOT interested in you whatsoever. Be careful and look for someone who can really love you.

Well, perhaps your mom needs some training to learn to respect you freedom of religion. Your freedom of religion is your constitutional right and anyone who makes ANY disrespectful comment about your exercising your freedom of thought is trespassing upon you. Oftentimes, parents are more "protective" with their daughters, that means that they exercice more repression and abuse of power upon them than the boys. You should try to write a letter to your mom, telling her how you feel. She may not realize how much she is hurting you. If that does not change her behaviour, I guess you should get a part-time job, work and save, save, save until you can get your own place. This type of environment could be very detrimental to you and your self-esteem. Good luck!

You might be right, but I don't think I ever liked "mysterious" guys. I have always liked transparency and sincerity, but that's only me.

I am surprised with your findings by empirical experience. I don't think all these elaborate games would work with me : I hate mystery and I love transparency and people who have the courage to express their feelings. There is even a guy at work who is playing some kind of weird game, trying to be mysterious I think. I find him quite confusing and I am not interested in his drama. However, it might very well work with other women, if that is your conclusion! I then hope it works for you! Take care!

The fact that does not have the ring of true. Are you sure they slept in different rooms? It is difficult to say whether she is cheating now, but for sure she is using one of you or both of you. She has two men, and she knows that if one of them says "NO" to something she wants, she can ask the other one. She seems to be manipulative, cold and calculating. Basically, she has no values and you should be VERY careful before getting involved deeper with such a person.

I have the same problem with my last bf. I still love him but I won't take him back. He is unbearable, but he thinks he is perfect. You can always have a talk with her and ask her exactly what she does not like and see if you can change that. (i.e. anger management, etc.)

This happened to me with my cousin's boyfriend. So when she went to the washroom, I just told him : "Stop hitting on me because my cousin is far more important in my life than you are." and he stopped right away.

Angelic Shadow, You did well not to keep communicating with him. Whether this was his wife or not, it is not a very good idea to get involved with a married man. You deserve better than that. Try to find someone who will be available emotionally and be happy.

I don't think you should allow ANYONE to debase you or make you feel like dirt. Certainly, when someone acts that way to me, I stop talking to them forever and even thinking about them. I think everybody should get to know their partners thoroughly BEFORE initiating any physical contact, otherwise they may be unpleasantly surprised and get attached to the wrong person. I don't think that getting to know someone is putting them through a "TEST". I just want to know a few things before getting involved physically. I said that men have to "prove" themselves in the sense that they have to prove they have the qualities that I seek in a man : transparency (not pretending indifference), integrity, good character, hardworking, monogamous. Unfortunately, there are a number of men and women who will PRETEND to possess some of these qualities but they don't. It is important for me to find out. For instance, it is not enough if the guy says : "I don't have a gf". I must be able to meet with his friends and obtain "hard evidence" that they effectively don't have a gf or a wife: So many guys married or with a gf have hit on me, since I was very young too! What a shame! For these reasons, I like to get to know someone very well and I think men should slow down and try themselves to get to know someone before initiating physical contact. I don't want a guy who only likes me because "I stand about being pretty". How could I know he wants more than physical contact with me? Or perhaps he does not care about values or character? In spite of all this, Corvidae, I understand very well how you feel. When I was younger I also felt it were a bit disgusting having to prove myself. I thought that the "perfect man" would recognize immediately that fact that I am a person of quality. Now, I realize that people don't have a crystal ball. Also, I had a bad experience with a guy who pretended for a long time to be a good person. Only eight months into the relationship, he showed his true colours, once he knew I was hooked. It was very difficult to separate. Now, I understand why others want to get to know you slowly first. On the other hand, don't ever let anyone debase you. It is good that you have self-respect. Take care!

Yes! A scary movie is a very good idea!

Why wont you take her dancing, then you will have the chance to have some closer physical contact and perhaps things will develop? You can try caressing her hair when you're dancing a slow, put your arm around her shoulder, sit close to her. If there is only one seat, then get her to sit on your lap ... Good luck!