Girls asking guys out

[Prenkle]

What does everyone think about girls taking the initiative to ask guys out? Is it cool or does it seem desperate and pushy?

[yeawutever]

If you're confortable taking the iniciative, yoy may. There's no specific rule as who should ask out.

[renaissancewoman101]

I dont think it is a bad thing. I have done it before. I have this personality that people seem to overlook so I take the initiative a lot of times and will ask a guy out. I did that with my current ex, asked him out. My first ex (my now best friend), my friends set me up with.

[Mrocza]

I don't think it matters.

 

Some guys even prefer it! lol

 

Why not?

[Tigris]

If I'd have waited for all the men throughout my life to have asked me out I'd still have been waiting!

[Luke Skywalker]

I think it is a good idea. Now a days, with all the gender equality, it really doesn't matter who does it.

[spunkmaster]

I've asked guys out before. On the other hand, I'm a traditional type person and prefer to be asked, rather than do the asking.

[hosswhispra]

Asking guys out NEVER worked for me

[yeawutever]

Yea, I'm also traditional in this part. I would shy out if I were to ask the guy out, so I prefer to be asked. Speak of rejection, I'm shy and imagine if I do the asking and he says "no", sad story then.

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

My guy friends and I were talking one day at lunch and one said that it's so great when girls ask the guy out. He, and the others who agreed, felt that it was such a sign of confidence and it was actually an attractive thing, which surprised me becasue I always took him to be the traditional type. Personally, I would love to be asked out rather then do the asking. This could have somethign to do with the fact that I'm slightly lazy though....... and scared, lol.

[itsallgrand]

Why would it seem desperate or pushy?!

 

Geez, we wimmins are people too. I see nothing wrong with a woman asking a man out.

If he doesn't like it: eh, he either wasn't interested to begin with, or he may be looking for a docile pliable woman who will take what comes to her.

 

Asking men out puts the power back in our hands. haha!

 

Seriously though, time to get rid of these ridiculous rules.

[zpivat]

I don't mind girls asking guys out at all....I think it's a very sweet and lovely thing to do, and no, I won't think they're desperate/pushy.

[Starfall]

I think you can get accross to him that you're interested and if he doesn't ask you out then that would be a hint to me. I'm sure there are guys that wouldn't mind a girl asking them out, but from the guys I know, they prefer to do the asking.

[Andy223]

someone has to do it

[Shesa]

Guys say that they love it. However, I wouldn't do it. Why? Guys want to chase the girl. Everyone thinks something is worth more if it costs more--- and it dating-- the "cost" is the time and energy, etc. However, if you like someone look your best and give off that single vibe. Depending on your situation, you can always spread the word through mutual friends that you think he is hot. I'm simply against taking on the traditional "man" role in certain aspects of dating. Men need to feel many, needed, and need to chase the you until you finally give in and grace him with your presense.

[Spawn]

What does everyone think about girls taking the initiative to ask guys out? Is it cool or does it seem desperate and pushy?

 

we need more girls with that kinda attitude...

 

there is no set rule for who should ask....anyways, have fun!

[Kevin T]

What does everyone think about girls taking the initiative to ask guys out? Is it cool or does it seem desperate and pushy?

 

It's necessary. Otherwise men like me would never date (sadly, we seldom do). It may seem pushy or what have you, but the bottom line is, as someone already said... someone's got to make a move. Why not the girl for a change?

[Kyoshiro Ogari]

It's necessary. Otherwise men like me would never date (sadly, we seldom do). It may seem pushy or what have you, but the bottom line is, as someone already said... someone's got to make a move. Why not the girl for a change?

Shoot, at least you seldomly date. I'd pay 500 beans to upgrade my dating status to seldom.

[Kevin T]

Okay, I was speaking in general. My last actual date was over two years ago, Kyo. I mean, c'mon. That's not good.

 

To me, that says LOSER. Case closed.

[Kyoshiro Ogari]

Okay, I was speaking in general. My last actual date was over two years ago, Kyo. I mean, c'mon. That's not good.

 

To me, that says LOSER. Case closed.

That's still more than me. The last date I had will be the first date I'll have. That spells BIGGER LOSER. neh neh neh neh neeeeh neeeeeeh!

[Kevin T]

I was definitely only talking about myself. If you don't see it as a problem, then it's not one for you.

 

But when I look at my life and myself, and the fact that it has been that long for me, I cannot possibly look at myself and think that's okay. Because - for me - it's not. I'm not living up to my own standards of where I'd like to be. I'm falling far short and I hate myself for it.

 

I hope you don't view yourself the same way, Kyo.

[sleepygirl]

I personally never ask guys out...maybe I'd make an exception in the future, but at least not now.

[traz]

as a guy, I don't see it as desperate or pushy at all, but rather a positive for a girl

[CluelessGuy321]

In Thailand, if a girl likes you, she will ask you out. I'm Thai-American, and don't go to Thailand often. People keep telling me that's where I should head back to, to find a good woman. And it's tempting. It really is.

[x-Mr.lonely-x]

Well, in my school thats embarrassing. I don't know about other schools or other communitee groups or whatever but it would sure as hell help she shy guys out alot