atraceofblood basiclly describes whats going through the shy minds, well maybe not in all cases, but its mainly what happens most of the time. The eye contact conection happened in my case, I know all I have to do is walk up to the girl and work things out, I already have something planned to open up a conversation, but when I stare into her eyes and she stares back at me, I just frezze in place and sorta forget everything. Its like I have a computer chip in my mind controling me not to go talk. Dispite that, there is a solution. If you dont want top go talk to the girl face to face just yet, become friends with her friends. Then work your way to her. Once ypou acctually talk to her for more than 30 seconds you'll fell more confertable talking to her.