workaholic Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 a man that takes control during or before sex? Any examples? I don't want to be a passive guy Link to comment
Liam Weic Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 I'm curious myself actually. I luck much imagination when it comes to things as such. Link to comment
ElektraHere Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 Is your gal always the initiator? When you two are together do you constantly ask what she wants? Link to comment
Liam Weic Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 isn't asking a no no... a "turn off" of sorts? the times i've asked ( i know i know she usually says "do anything you want with me"...oy....open ended answer lol Link to comment
ElektraHere Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 Yes dont ask just do. I know I have had a code word between me and my partner. When things to a point where I dont like it or dont feel comfortable just say the code word and then whatever he is doing stops. In the heat of the moment no one wants to go into a long explanation of what it is they want. Link to comment
CarnelianButterfly Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 Asking is a turnoff, but saying "you're so sexy, I want to make love to you all night" that is not. You don't have to ask to ask (I know enigmatic female answer), but you can make it very clear you want sex with her. (Make sure its her that is the emphasis and not the sex) Link to comment
Dako Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 Kids these days! Just pay attention to her. Listen for all the hums, moans, breathing, twitching shaking and squeaking, much of which doesn't translate into English. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 Ok, coming from virgin, lol, don't really know anything about it besides reading from a pscyhology book, but ok here goes. Ever heard of the film "Gone With Thre Gone", where she says "No", but he takes her anyways, at the same time, she wants it so badly, and wants him to take control of her during sex. Why is not? Don't really know, it's just like that. A guy taking control over us during sex is usually seen as assertive and confident. Well hope that helps. Link to comment
Liam Weic Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 maybe honey's, syrups can help? fuzzy cuffs? hand behind the back sort of deal? hair pulling, spanking.... or is that more kinky than assertive? Link to comment
yeawutever Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 hair pulling, spanking?? Now who on earth would want that, I sure wouldn't. Link to comment
ElektraHere Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 Ailec, The movie you were referring to was "Gone with the Wind." Also when you do have sex hair pulling and spanking may just be something you will enjoy. Alot of things I thought I would hate or never would do I have and I have to say WOW!!!! As for paying attention that is something men need to realize if we arent reacting to your touch or whatever it is your doing change it up a bit. Link to comment
byates5637 Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 try this-- After you do a little foreplay or whatever to get each other in the mood, take a seat in a chair or a stool. Your computer chair will probly work fine. Tell her (don't ask) to get on top of you, facing you, and ride you. Let her do this for a few minutes until it looks like she is getting a little fatigued. Then, without saying anything, stand up holding her like a reverse piggy back. rest her back against a wall if you need to, and start going at it. She will love this. Note: make sure you are stong enough to support your girls wieght for at least a couple minutes or you may just embarrass yourself/make her feel fat. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 try this-- After you do a little foreplay or whatever to get each other in the mood, take a seat in a chair or a stool. Your computer chair will probly work fine. Tell her (don't ask) to get on top of you, facing you, and ride you. Let her do this for a few minutes until it looks like she is getting a little fatigued. Then, without saying anything, stand up holding her like a reverse piggy back. rest her back against a wall if you need to, and start going at it. She will love this. Note: make sure you are stong enough to support your girls wieght for at least a couple minutes or you may just embarrass yourself/make her feel fat. Ok, that's a funny one, like a reverse piggy back. IMAO Link to comment
Dako Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 You might find over time, you accumulate things you like that get pretty strange. Education is ongoing. Link to comment
Bethany Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 Think of a MILF. That older woman who knows what she is doing and knows want she wants and when she wants it and isn't backwards about coming forward and taking it. think of the way you would feel if it really happened. Thats basically what a woman means by take them and how the woman wants to feel. Link to comment
DN Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Ok, coming from virgin, lol, don't really know anything about it besides reading from a pscyhology book, but ok here goes. Ever heard of the film "Gone With Thre Gone", where she says "No", but he takes her anyways, at the same time, she wants it so badly, and wants him to take control of her during sex. Why is not? Don't really know, it's just like that. A guy taking control over us during sex is usually seen as assertive and confident. Well hope that helps. Any guy who doesn't stop sexual activity when a woman says "No" is asking for a pack of trouble, whether he thinks she means it or not. Any woman who says "No" and expects the guy to know if she means "Yes" is playing games that could get him and/or other women into a pack of trouble. Link to comment
Lady Bugg Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Twitching and shaking Dako??? Some might consider that a full blown seizure.. Link to comment
jensxcom Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Take Control= example, kissing her, telling her to get on her knees, get on top- give oral-- basically take control- give orders in a sexy non-demeaning way. If she says "get on top of me" you can say, "no get on all fours"= taking control Link to comment
Dako Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Twitching and shaking Dako??? Some might consider that a full blown seizure.. No idea...Oh! I read that in Cosmo Link to comment
NoComply Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Ok, coming from virgin, lol, don't really know anything about it besides reading from a pscyhology book, but ok here goes. Ever heard of the film "Gone With Thre Gone", where she says "No", but he takes her anyways, at the same time, she wants it so badly, and wants him to take control of her during sex. Why is not? Don't really know, it's just like that. A guy taking control over us during sex is usually seen as assertive and confident. Well hope that helps. that was a film dear.... you know, directors, scripts, making a good film. Link to comment
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 well, maybe some of us do... hair pulling and being rougher, is often a good thing. Like Elektra said, get a code word that is NOTHING to do with sex, like "Orange Fork" which means "god, im not joking, im not enjoying this no more, STOP". Link to comment
TiredMan Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 a man that takes control during or before sex? Any examples? I don't want to be a passive guy Many women are like that. They almost lay there and expect things. Do you want a woman to take control too? Then tell her that. Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 byates... OMG ive never heard any male state something like that or heard that a male has done but boy would that be fun! even if you propped her on a table or something ... that way your not going to kill yourself trying to do a million things at once! *shrugs* ... and spanking and hairpulling, comes under kinkiness! if a chick likes bondage then whip out the pink fuzzy handcuffs ... if she likes the weapons... yank that whip out! Link to comment
WhatGives Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 It could mean a variety of things... -She wants you to take her whenever you want her -She wants you to be a little rough with her -She doesn't want to be on top -She doesn't want to initiate -She wants to try new things... But I wouldn't just go in and suddenly be super-aggressive. The best way to know what your woman wants is to simply ASK her! Just ask her "What would you like me to do?" Or "Would you like it if....?" I think that might help. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 It could mean a variety of things... -She wants you to take her whenever you want her -She wants you to be a little rough with her -She doesn't want to be on top -She doesn't want to initiate -She wants to try new things... But I wouldn't just go in and suddenly be super-aggressive. The best way to know what your woman wants is to simply ASK her! Just ask her "What would you like me to do?" Or "Would you like it if....?" I think that might help. Yup. She may not be too good at expressing what she wants yet. So ya gotta talk. Personally, when I say "i like when you take control" it means, I like that you are already taking control and don't stop! lol. It's not really taking control if I'm asking for it. Sounds a bit complicated, but it's not really: once you get a feel for what your partner likes in the sack. Link to comment
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