Nervous for a date

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, Alex39 said:

. I feel like an afterthought and rejected sexually. 

While he's away reflect if someone else would be a better fit for you. Please don't give up on dating and settle into this. He is not treating you like a GF.

[Sindy_0311]

1 hour ago, Alex39 said:

Oh I forgot to add. We were talking about sex. Then he tells me he masturbates one to two times a day. I was shocked. No wonder he doesn't care if we have sex and didn't finish, twice. 

Men usually do this, they masturbate every day. But when they know they will see their SO they try not to… 

I suggest you read some books about men’s sexuality… 

[Sindy_0311]

13 minutes ago, Alex39 said:

Yes, a bit. I feel like an afterthought and rejected sexually. 

I’m sorry you feel like that… And isn’t this making you rethink the relationship? 

[itsallgrand]

1 hour ago, Alex39 said:

I just don't understand. I try and look so nice. I'm not ugly. Why wouldn't he be attracted to me? 

He was touching my chest while we were cuddling and groping me. 

You could be the most beautiful woman in the world and there will still be guys who don't care about how you feel and who may not be attracted to you. It's not about your worth or prettiness in any way.

 

[waffle]

1 hour ago, Alex39 said:

Oh I forgot to add. We were talking about sex. Then he tells me he masturbates one to two times a day. I was shocked. No wonder he doesn't care if we have sex and didn't finish, twice. 

He's not finishing because he can't.  Vaginal sex is not fast enough or tight enough to replicate what he can do with his hand.  This is really bad news for his sex life--with anyone.  But there are men who prefer their hand.  Easier, less effort, etc.  

Likely has a porn addiction to go along with it.  It's not you or any reflection on your looks or overall sex appeal.  This guy is a zero.  Quit begging him for sex and cut your losses now. 

[Wiseman2]

34 minutes ago, Alex39 said:

 I feel like an afterthought and rejected sexually. 

Sadly he's saving his sexual energy for after his shower, doning his new clothes and going out partying.  I'm not sure why you believe you're exclusive. Was this another "yeah ok whatever" type response when you brought up the exclusive conversation?

[boltnrun]

50 minutes ago, Alex39 said:

Yes, a bit. I feel like an afterthought and rejected sexually. 

Then why on earth do you want to keep trying to continue this relationship?

Do you think he'll suddenly get some kind of epiphany and "change"?

He is getting everything he wants. You, not so much.

[Sindy_0311]

16 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Sadly he's saving his sexual energy for after his shower, doning his new clothes and going out partying.  I'm not sure why you believe you're exclusive. Was this another "yeah ok whatever" type response when you brought up the exclusive conversation?

Also came to my mind that when a man can’t finish or doesn’t want to have sex, it’s sometimes because he plans on having elsewhere… 

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Sindy_0311 said:

Also came to my mind that when a man can’t finish or doesn’t want to have sex, it’s sometimes because he plans on having elsewhere… 

I don't think he's showering, wearing new clothes and going out partying to impress his guy friends or go home and masturbate. 

[rainbowsandroses]

7 minutes ago, Sindy_0311 said:

Also came to my mind that when a man can’t finish or doesn’t want to have sex, it’s sometimes because he plans on having elsewhere… 

My thought as well.  

This is his other "agenda" I posted about many pages ago. 

I think it's possible he's seeing some one else - the "bad girl" he has hot sex with.

I wouldn't rule it out....

Something is going on that's for darn sure. 

[Sindy_0311]

Just now, Wiseman2 said:

I don't think he's showering, wearing new clothes and going out partying to impress his guy friends or go home and masturbate. 

Agree. Imagine he actually has a date tonight. That would explain why he didn’t shower before, didn’t want to have sex, bought new clothes with female advice, his focus was elsewhere, already on that date, also the reason why he left with a peck… 

[LootieTootie]

I'm sorry Alex. This guy just flat out rejected you while spending mommy's money on new clothes to meet new ladies.

This guy is a tool and you need to wake up.

[LootieTootie]

why do you need new clothes for a vacation with mommy and daddy?

 

[Sindy_0311]

2 minutes ago, LootieTootie said:

why do you need new clothes for a vacation with mommy and daddy?

 

Makes no sense… I also found it weird 

[Andrina]

I don't think guys normally offer the info of how they regularly masturbate, especially not to a new gf. It seems like he's taunting you in some weird sadistic way. And like he enjoys being so physically close, yet so very far away sexually. Perhaps an anger toward women in general, and he gets a sick enjoyment from this fiasco.

[rainbowsandroses]

11 minutes ago, LootieTootie said:

why do you need new clothes for a vacation with mommy and daddy?

I actually don't believe it was mommy's money nor is he vacationing with mommy and daddy. 

Him sharing a room with them gave it away for me....

Are you okay Alex?   I'm so very sorry. 

[Sindy_0311]

3 minutes ago, rainbowsandroses said:

I actually don't believe it was mommy's money nor is he vacationing with mommy and daddy. 

Why would he go on a one week trip with his parents and plan a camping trip a three weeks later with his parents again… 

am I getting paranoid? 😂

[rainbowsandroses]

7 minutes ago, Sindy_0311 said:

Why would he go on a one week trip with his parents and plan a camping trip a three weeks later with his parents again… 

am I getting paranoid? 😂

He's not, that was my point.  

He has another agenda that in all likelihood involves another women who he's having sex with (and finishing) and spending money on.

Perhaps even vacationing with.

 

 

 

[rainbowsandroses]

21 minutes ago, Andrina said:

Perhaps an anger toward women in general, and he gets a sick enjoyment from this fiasco.

Possibly but also there was a reason he told her mommy gave him money for clothes.

Grown men with high interest and attraction would never disclose that or even ask mommy for money in the first place! 

Jmo, but its possible he's setting the stage to eventually ask Alex for money. 

Alex, what was your response when he told you that?

 

[Jaunty]

8 minutes ago, Sindy_0311 said:

Why would he go on a one week trip with his parents and plan a camping trip a three weeks later with his parents again… 

am I getting paranoid? 😂

Well the camping trip was just a BS tale from the get go.   

I'm surprised at the ladies here who think that this complete drip  has enough wherewithal and organizational acumen to pull off something as ambitious as going on a vacation with a woman.  Sure he might hook up with somebody from the bar nights out with his bois, but he is almost certainly not any kind of lady killer.   

He's a guy who steals toilet paper from his parents' house..   

[LootieTootie]

11 minutes ago, Andrina said:

I don't think guys normally offer the info of how they regularly masturbate, especially not to a new gf. It seems like he's taunting you in some weird sadistic way. And like he enjoys being so physically close, yet so very far away sexually. Perhaps an anger toward women in general, and he gets a sick enjoyment from this fiasco.

Yea I thought that was weird he offered to tell Alex how many times he masterbates - way too early to offer that info esp when you just did a poor job in bed with her the other night.

I also would think he would be too embarrassed about his performance that he would still try to rectify it by wooing her pants off tonight before a week vacation.

Yet it seems like he is nonchalant about it all, which is why I feel bad for Alex. 

 

[Jibralta]

32 minutes ago, Sindy_0311 said:

Agree. Imagine he actually has a date tonight. That would explain why he didn’t shower before, didn’t want to have sex, bought new clothes with female advice, his focus was elsewhere, already on that date, also the reason why he left with a peck… 

It would also explain why she got downgraded to an afternoon hangout instead of an evening date.

On 8/10/2023 at 3:58 PM, Alex39 said:

He offered to reschedule for tomorrow morning/afternoon but let me know he has plans with his guy friend at 6pm. But he can spend the day with me. 

What guy favors his guy friends over a hot date?

[Jaunty]

Just now, LootieTootie said:

Yea I thought that was weird he offered to tell Alex how many times he masterbates - way too early to offer that info esp when you just did a poor job in bed with her the other night.

I also would think he would be too embarrassed about his performance that he would still try to rectify it by wooing her pants off tonight before a week vacation.

Yet it seems like he is nonchalant about it all, which is why I feel bad for Alex. 

 

ME TOO.  

He fulfills his sexual needs with porn and his hand.  It's not an uncommon problem these days with porn being so ready accessible to anyone any time. He has no interest in sharing that part of himself with Alex.   I honestly doubt he wants to share it with anyone else at this stage of his life either.  Unless he's wrapped up with a webcam girl, which I suppose could be in keeping with his idiotic ways .

 

[rainbowsandroses]

5 minutes ago, Jaunty said:

He's guy who steals toilet paper from his parents' house..   

I don't believe this is true either.  Everything out of this turd's mouth has been BS as far as I'm concerned.

[Jibralta]

3 hours ago, Alex39 said:

So he was in a 6 year serious relationship well into his 20s. They broke up and he said he was lost, lonely, rebounding, so he quickly met a girl, and they got married after a month. His now ex-wife. 

He said he quickly realized that he hadn't gotten over his ex, and he started texting her, but not inappropriately and never met up with her.  He was trying to make his new marriage work too, but the girl he married wasn't classy or what he thought.

Yick. He sounds like a Madonna-wh*re whackadoo.