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LootieTootie last won the day on July 26 2020

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  1. Don't feel bad for rightfully feeling weirded out by your gf's bizarre request to have her own sister join in on the fun. This would leave a bad taste in anyone's mouth. She has a lot of mental issues so I would recommend you try to find her therapy and if she says no, you have to take care of your own mental and emotional sanity. This might be the best relationship you've had but the way she treats you, I think your bar is really low. Nobody deserves to be screamed at when they are just trying to help. Your gf doesn't sound well and she needs professional help. You know this.
  2. Unfortunately for you, his kid is a package deal. You're dreaming if you think he will start enforcing rules on her just because you showed up or spoke up. No parents want to be critique on about their parenting or even the slightest implication they need to improve on will rub them the wrong way. Nothing is going to change because your boyfriend has been a certain type of parent for a very long time before you came in to their lives. You have been with him for 2 years so that's a long time to see what this relationship will include on a regular basis. Are you happy with that when y
  3. Sorry to hear you have covid. Hope you recover soon. I think this might be a midlife crisis situation but then again, nobody really knows what why when or who except your wife. What anyone knows is really what she has been doing or not doing. I think your eldest is correct, she cares more about her new life. Kids are perceptive and typically when they are pre-teens and in their teens, they aren't as forgiving. You can't make it up to them that easy. Her first priority should always be her young children and she has left that role. If you are hoping she might come to her senses and c
  4. I couldn't agree more about there is something satisfying about leaving things when they are good. I had the same experience as you when I dated a man for 3 months. I had to walk away because he wanted to leave his options open. When I look back I have nothing but fond memories of our time and if by chance we talk again, I just know we would just chat like old friends.
  5. You are already getting attached - and for the wrong reasons and to the wrong person (a person who told you they want children when you don't). Loneliness su(ks but don't ignore that there's a screaming incompatibility issue in this dynamic if you guys are exclusive. If you fall really hard for him, you are going to kick yourself later for not walking away because now you're mending a broken heart. Be fair to him like you would want him to be fair to you.
  6. Congratulations, Jibaltra! You are too good (for them) and too smart to be stuck in a hell-hole job so I am beyond happy for you. Vindictive bosses will be hard to walk around after you put in your notice. I had to worry about a vindictive colleague and he actually just gave me the stink eyes here and there at the end of my stay and I would give him a smile and wave. He actually wrote a thoughtful message to me on my last day so kindness goes a long way. When I put my 2 weeks notice in for my old job, a lot of my friends-coworkers asked me why I was leaving. I couldn't believe why t
  7. If he wants kids and you don't, why do you want him as a boyfriend?
  8. Gross! Not only that, this guy is a creep. Block him so you stopped getting distracted from your real issues. Find another family to take in your cat because the cat needs to be safe. If you love your cat, you would do that. Next time you wife beater boyfriend is physically assaulting you, call the police. If you don't have a phone, go online and reach out via email. There's help - temporary homes for victims. You just gotta look and ask.
  9. I don't know if this is your first big break up, but after you go thru it a few times, believe me, it makes no difference who they are currently dating. When you focus your energy on that, it's just another path to overanalyze why they don't miss you and some weird justification that maybe you were not as pretty, not as good-looking, not as smart, not as funny, not as rich, as so and so. What does make a difference is that you got dumped and you were emotionally cheated on. This should be enough for you to stop eating her bread crumbs. She's not worthy of you. You're young. So that
  10. I know I am a stranger to you but I personally do not want you to go back to him. I am rooting for you. 💪
  11. Then yes, it would be best for all parties if you stop hanging out with Lisa. Do you have other friends or family you can hang out with? Maybe try some local meetup groups - they have virtual meet ups. You could potentially meet someone in these groups and might divert your attention away from Lisa.
  12. I didn't read all your posts, but I get the sense that she didn't give up on a whim. I think she checked out a while back and the other guy pursuing her gave her the confidence to see if the grass is greener on the other side. I am also assuming you might have been her first serious boyfriend. Saying all that, she is young and at that age is where a woman is starting to find herself, her voice and her independence. Let her find herself by giving her the space in order to give you space to heal. And I mean a whole lot of space. Maybe in time, after she's done a lot of thinking an
  13. You move out. Please don't confess your feelings. That would be extremely selfish and I would not, if in your shoes, presume to know how Lisa is oblivious to her own feelings. You might very well just be projecting your feelings. Are you in a position where you cannot move out?
  14. Yep, I was friends with everyone at my old job including my bosses. The ones that were playing office politics were people I've dined and drank with, met their families a handful of times (for four plus years). The bosses that listened to me but did nothing - I still like all these people. I just don't like their work style that have perpetuated a broken working culture. This type of work culture is a constrained work environment. People who want to grow because they know they can perform better in other areas (me) or people who like to problem solve (like you) will never thrive in constr
  15. I think every relationship there has to be full trust. If you find yourself not trusting your partner, just take it as this person isn't for me and walk away. The more you keep thinking "give him/her the benefit of the doubt" - there's going to be an internal push and pull dynamic you feel that needs to be resolve. Those needs manifest in to checking their phone, interrogating them, checking their mile logs, etc. Saying all that, glad you finally realized it's time to walk away.
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