Sex on a first date?

[kamurj]

Sex on a first date?

[Batya33]

Never done it but yes if it’s two consenting single adults who understand the potential emotional and health risks and feel that the fun and other benefits are worth the risks 

[Seraphim]

Nope. Never. 

[Capricorn3]

I'm old school, so no.

[Cherylyn]

No, no and no.

[Batya33]

I didn't actually understand the question I guess.  No , never -for me personally - and for several reasons. 

[Justsomeone]

Personally no and never

[dias]

yes, yes and yes

[reinventmyself]

To each their own.  No judgment here.  But it's a no for me.  I need an emotional connection to go along with it and that can't happen on a first date.

[greendots]

No for me as well. I like for things to grow naturally and over time. Whatever floats your boat though. 🙂

[jul-els]

Generally, no. Not that it’s never happened, but it’s not usually the first thing on my mind when meeting someone for the first time. 

[LikeWater]

I would say it depends on the date.  If I'm getting nothing more from her than sexual attraction, and the opportunity arises, then hell yeah I'll enjoy that night.  But if I'm connecting with the person in deeper ways, intellectually and emotionally, then I'd rather wait.

But also, a first date with anyone only gives you the tiniest glimpse of who they actually are.  Let's not forget how many go all the way to marriage only to find it just doesn't work.  I also think that IF it happens on a first date, anyone can start immediately questioning if that was the only goal in the first place.  And the only way to figure that out is through further dating.  If it happens on the first date, but you decide not to on the second, that will tell you a lot.  How they react initially and in the upcoming days.  You'll get a lot more of their true character and what they want out of dating.

Sometimes two people date and the sexual attraction is over the moon and so you do it, nothing wrong with that.  But other times it's all one of the two wanted anyway, so you have to use your head and figure that out after if you're looking for more.

And sometimes a lay is all both parties wanted, and may continue to 'date' in that way.  It's very subjective and situation dependent.

[catfeeder]

On 7/11/2022 at 10:20 AM, kamurj said:

Sex on a first date?

No. I bond when I'm sexual, and it's important for me to learn where I stand with a person and where I want to stand with him before that happens. 

[Tinydance]

Hmmm.... I'm trying to think if I've ever done it on an actual first date. I think so but not very often. I'm not opposed to it but I guess then you have to keep in mind it might just end up being a one night stand. So if you do it you need to keep your expectations low.

[SherrySher]

It all depends on what you're both looking for and what you're both comfortable with.

Some people find sex right away okay, and end up getting married down the road.

Other people would find it far too rushed and wouldn't be comfortable with it.

Some people are only looking for something short term and don't mind a "hook up".

It truly is individual preference.

The problem comes in if you think you're on the same page as someone else with sex, and what it means, or doesn't mean, and it turns out that you're not actually on the same page.