Kricket123 Posted June 3, 2019 Share Posted June 3, 2019 Hi all, I have been dating a man for 6 months, the relationship is exclusive and we are boyfriend/girlfriend. We are having an issue in terms of sex. He was in a marriage for 10 years and said that they did not have a good sex life because she was not adventurous enough, whatever that means. He has had two other sexual partners, both very brief, since divorcing and meeting me. He was a little strange about sex all along—wanting to wait what I thought was a long-ish time once we were exclusive (which happened on date 4, he wanted to wait for sex until about 10 dates) and then once we slept together not wanting sex sporadically. He has been very very stressed with work, abnormally so in the past few weeks. He is very affectionate and intimate outside the bedroom. Lots of PDA in public, will make out with me for a long time. Always touching me in some way. Sex the first few times was fairly good. But, the last time we tried to have sex, multiple times over a weekend, he was only able to briefly remain hard. He would lose it and then cuddle and fall asleep. This led to his telling me that our chemistry was “off” and he didn’t feel sexual enough with me. He will lose his erection during oral sex as well. He claims that he has never had a problem with ED before. He made me feel like the problem is me. This makes me feel undesired and unattractive. He claims to have a deep emotional connection with me and says he wants to want me in a sexual way. He doesn’t think his ED issue is based on stress. Is he just trying to blame an ED problem on me? Link to comment
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