Chris12189 Posted July 20, 2018 Author Share Posted July 20, 2018 Sounds like you have replaced your addiction to alcohol with an addiction to your ex. Eh I don't think so. Think I am still in the process of grieving. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 21, 2018 Author Share Posted July 21, 2018 Made it through day 5....Friday 10pm and I'm in bed....I honestly feel pathetic Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 21, 2018 Share Posted July 21, 2018 Made it through day 5....Friday 10pm and I'm in bed....I honestly feel pathetic Why? Relationships often don't work out. You cannot use this as a measuring stick of your self-worth. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 21, 2018 Author Share Posted July 21, 2018 Why? Relationships often don't work out. You cannot use this as a measuring stick of your self-worth. Just having a hard time adjusting to a life without her, fridays were usually our "date" nite Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted July 21, 2018 Share Posted July 21, 2018 C12189 This is normal. We all have been through this. Time will wash it away. One thing you can do, but its a bit too soon, is to have a bit of a dating adventure. Think about maybe doing something online in a week or 10 days. Start planning a web profile now, do something casual and fun with a like minded lady. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 21, 2018 Author Share Posted July 21, 2018 C12189 This is normal. We all have been through this. Time will wash it away. One thing you can do, but its a bit too soon, is to have a bit of a dating adventure. Think about maybe doing something online in a week or 10 days. Start planning a web profile now, do something casual and fun with a like minded lady. Yeah i have two apps downloaded and been talking to a few girls, I am still in a world though where I feel I am cheating on my ex (even though she has moved on with a diff guy allegedly) so I am working on actively ridding myself of that mindset. Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted July 22, 2018 Share Posted July 22, 2018 Good stuff. Don't jump quickly though. Go with the flow. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 22, 2018 Author Share Posted July 22, 2018 Day 7 NC missing her tremendously. Hope it gets a bit easier. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 22, 2018 Share Posted July 22, 2018 Day 7 NC missing her tremendously. Hope it gets a bit easier. It does. You're not used to living without her in your life, but you will get there. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 23, 2018 Author Share Posted July 23, 2018 day 7 in the books.....I feel really panicky lately like she will forget about me, is this normal? Link to comment
boltnrun Posted July 23, 2018 Share Posted July 23, 2018 Yes, it's normal for a lot of people. But unless she suffers a severe head injury she will not forget you exist. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 23, 2018 Share Posted July 23, 2018 day 7 in the books.....I feel really panicky lately like she will forget about me, is this normal? She will not forget about you, no. I still all remember all my exes, the good and the bad. And yes, you're anxious feelings are normal. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 23, 2018 Author Share Posted July 23, 2018 Day 8....I find the middle of the night (waking up) and the early AM the hardest. Thanks for everyone's kind words. Fighting the feeling to ask her how her trial is going. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 23, 2018 Share Posted July 23, 2018 Day 8....I find the middle of the night (waking up) and the early AM the hardest. Thanks for everyone's kind words. Fighting the feeling to ask her how her trial is going. Her trial with her new guy? Definitely do not ask her that. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 23, 2018 Author Share Posted July 23, 2018 Her trial with her new guy? Definitely do not ask her that. No, shes a lawyer and this week/next week is her first actual trial in a court room Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 23, 2018 Share Posted July 23, 2018 No, shes a lawyer and this week/next week is her first actual trial in a court room Ah, ok. In any case, no, don't ask her how it goes. It will set you back when she replies, but doesn't keep up the conversation. Also, remember that she will be going to her new guy to debrief on her new experience. He's her go-to now. Don't place yourself in the position of runner-up. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 23, 2018 Author Share Posted July 23, 2018 Ah, ok. In any case, no, don't ask her how it goes. It will set you back when she replies, but doesn't keep up the conversation. Also, remember that she will be going to her new guy to debrief on her new experience. He's her go-to now. Don't place yourself in the position of runner-up. Yep got it Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted July 23, 2018 Share Posted July 23, 2018 No, shes a lawyer and this week/next week is her first actual trial in a court room I remember back all those years ago ... you talked to anyone who listened about how you were the new F.L. Wellman re-incarnated. Don't ask, it will mean nothing from your point of view. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 23, 2018 Author Share Posted July 23, 2018 I remember back all those years ago ... you talked to anyone who listened about how you were the new F.L. Wellman re-incarnated. Don't ask, it will mean nothing from your point of view. I am not sure what that means hahah. On another note, I made I guess a sort of break through today. I began to see reasons why maybe its good this relationship ended. I still want her back and want to work through the issues, but perhaps she is starting to fall off my pedestal.... Link to comment
Pleasedonot5 Posted July 23, 2018 Share Posted July 23, 2018 That's good. Keep up your progress. Do not message her. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 24, 2018 Author Share Posted July 24, 2018 Waking up in the middle of the night and shes the first person I think of. Sucks Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted July 24, 2018 Share Posted July 24, 2018 I am not sure what that means hahah. On another note, I made I guess a sort of break through today. I began to see reasons why maybe its good this relationship ended. I still want her back and want to work through the issues, but perhaps she is starting to fall off my pedestal.... Francis Wellman's "the art of cross-examination" Good book. Link to comment
Chris12189 Posted July 24, 2018 Author Share Posted July 24, 2018 today was very difficult just sad all around, missing her quirks. Trying to not beat myself up over my mistakes but remains very difficult to do so Link to comment
Pleasedonot5 Posted July 24, 2018 Share Posted July 24, 2018 today was very difficult just sad all around, missing her quirks. Trying to not beat myself up over my mistakes but remains very difficult to do soDid she make any mistakes? Link to comment
saluk Posted July 24, 2018 Share Posted July 24, 2018 You never had a "real" relationship with her, so you don't even know whether what you are missing is good or not. It's hard to not know what we have lost, I know. At the same time, watch out that you aren't sad just because she walked away and it bruised your ego. Who knows what other reasons besides your drinking problem caused you to detach? Focus on what you are doing to become the kind of person you want to be, and you will be in a good place when the right woman comes along. Link to comment
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